Providers are much more interested in that.

Let them know also you can be flexible with the dates if those dates don't work for them.

You didn't say how you're contacting them. Is it through P411 directly? I don't know if it's possible to be too forward with the screening info. Whenever I've set up a date with a provider, the first thing has always been just to establish whether they want to see me and when. Screening seems to me to be treated like a formality after that. A bit like references when you get a job.

Having said that, that's just my experience and I'm reasonably new myself.

My approach would be to post on my local board, the ISO board, or if it's anything specialized like BDSM or a porn star, the relevant board. Whenever I've posted on the boards, I've always had a good response, even as a newbie my first post was about a bad experience and about half a dozen ladies PMd me and offered their services. I wouldn't be surprised if my advice is redundant and you've already been PM'd.

I have been in the hobby for over 10 years and out of all the ads I have seen providers post, I can only remember a handful of times where I read 'couple friendly'. IMO, most women prefer the GFE with a man. Those I have met that offered threesomes, was with a woman they knew very well that provider brought in herself...even another local provider.

I suggest joining a site like P411 and use their search filter to find providers in your area that offer services to couples. Getting provider okay's through a site like that and asking providers you have seen to white list you on TER [if they are a member] can make it easier for you to be trusted by the providers you reach.

Good luck!

Most of us would love to have a wife like you!  The advice above is spot on.  Don't give up.  There are lots of providers whose web site says they accept couples.  Also look for TER providers whose profile says they're "really bi."  Many women who do this want to spend more time screening the woman to make sure she won't freak out when the session actually happens.

They might think you have somehow hacked your SO's account and are fishing. My advice is let HIM do the contacting. Also, make sure they are couple friendly and truly bi. I love couples and especially women your age, but I am far from you guys I am sure lol.

If they aren't open to couples, that could be the reason. Sometimes couples inquiries can set up red flags as time wasters. I've gotten a few emails from a "couple" that were most likely a lone man fantasizing.

Also, as some has said, it could be your age. Or it could be lack of having a date/time in mind.

Really go through ads and websites with a fine tooth comb. Look for couples friendly providers that say so actively on their sites/ads and make sure there's 30+ or 40+ age restrictions.

Are you both verified
Is the provider couple friendly
and are you within an age group she will see

if you don't fit the profile on all three of those questions then she isn't going to waste her time replying because she see you don't read websites and profiles entirely.

IMO that is probably what is happening.

Good Advice From Everyone Else plus my 2 cents

Hi Hunny,

I would say go ahead and follow up with all 3 and like others say be a bit more specific and give a timeframe of when you two are looking to have some fun.  The other thing is making sure that the 3 ladies entertain not only newbie's but couples.  

Then from that point if you do not hear from them, I would just move on.  There are plenty of ladies that will entertain newbie couples.  You can do some research and use the search criteria of couples to find ladies that see couples.  

Hope that helps!
-Camille-