2nd time this has happened to me.  The door opens and my friends ex wife answers the door.  The first time it was an outcall at my house and it was an acquaintance.  Has this ever happened to anyone else?

Did you go through with it or walk away?   At that point you are both already compromised...

I've never had this type of thing happen to me.  

a massage parlor gal recognized my name from the fact that some ten years earlier she had been a health aide for my grandmother when she was in a nursing home.

experienced provider should be able to prevent these types of situations from happening.

When a gal does her own screening, she can insist on getting the client's real name, and can therefore know if he is someone she knows in RL.  But with P411, there is no way of her knowing that.

rob. 2 years after I graduated college, I walked in for a massage/happy ending appointment and it was a with a girl I easily recognized from college. We had well over a thousand students in our class, so its possible she didn't remember me. During the massage we were talking and she mentioned that she in fact went to my college. When she asked me where I went (prob. seeing if I went there as well), of course I lied and mentioned a neighboring school. We finished the massage (great HJ by the way!) and that was that. Never went back nor ever saw her again.