f you want to use a provider for a reference, should you always ask her ahead of time?  How will most providers handle someone who uses them as a reference but did not ask her?

Is it OK to contact her afterward to be a reference OR is it better to ask her in person

You should definitely ask her before using a provider as a reference.  Just common courtesy.  

Swim

Both of your reviews are from BP girls, and most BP girls don't do the reference thing. Get verified through P411, Date Check, RS2K or some other site and see women that do proper screening, and then you can and will have references. Play smart and play safe............

First answer is yes, you should always ask her ahead of time if you can use her!

second answer: It depends on the lady. Some are ok with it and some are not. I would say most would prefer you asked them first.

Third answer: Yes it is okay to contact her afterward. I dont think it matterss. You could do it either way. In person at the end of a session or in a follow up email or text after. I usually send a thank you email after a session and many times in that email I ask, Would it be okay to use you as a reference in the future?

Good Luck (and I assume you are not talking about using the ladies you reviewed and gave low scores to )

I don`t think most guys would ask someone for a reference after they gave her a 5 or a 3

Hey, you never know who he was going to use.....I assumed, and I guess I made an ass out of me....

If they require references and are professional, I feel its their job and just part of doing business to either give or request a reference.

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Its part of their business, and has nothing to do with being a gentleman. Now what your saying is call, text or email them beforehand and ask if its okay to let another provider call, text or email them to see If I'm an Okay guy. So basically I've just wasted their time by doing something they should already be doing. If a provider needs references for you to see her, then she should already be willing to give you a reference to another provider. Now that we have TER whitelists, P411, DC or any other reference site that have all my Okays listed, they can just pick a few of those women out and drop them an email and ask their questions. So I'm asking, why would I need to get involved in how they do their business, and you being courteous have wasted their precious time that they claim their time is. Just my 2 cents, and I have never asked a provider if I can use her for a reference, or maybe I already have by receiving an Okay or whitelist referral.

If you need references, just ask the lady. During a session, or afterwards via email makes no difference. How do you THINK she will respond if she receives a reference request out of the blue? She might not even remember you.

If you want a good reference, then you have to choose a provider with whom you had a good experience, and ASK her for a reference so that she makes note of who you are and how your session went.