Some places require an Escort to be "Licensed"... does not give permission for illegal acts (pay 4 play). Social only escorting is generally legal...
Good luck on convincing LE of that!
This is not what you asked, I'm jumping ahead...
In your case as a virgin, I'd suggest an extended session with a newbie friendly provider. There are some who would gladly take it slow... through a make out session & take it as far as you are comfortable with. After a session or 2 you should be having sex...
I would be careful. Frankly, there are also "providers", or those who claim to be providers (but are really rip off artists) who will talk your ear off but not even make out with you.
I don't know how old you are, but there is no shame in being a virgin. I'd suggest you select a MILF (Mom I'd Like to F*ck) provider who is still hot but also mature enough to have the experience to deal with a nervous virgin. She should build you up & teach you, not just how to get off yourself but also how to please a woman. While woman do vary, still there are certain commonalities & if you pay attention to her responses you have the opportunity to learn to be a great lover. There is nothing more confidence building!
Now, I'm going to say that you probably will not want to stay n the hobby long term... though, in my experience, knowing you can have sex by making a phone call or 2 means you can not be manipulated by civie women who use sex as a tool or weapon to get what they want!
But this is a secvret life, 007. Outside of these boards, you never tell anyone what goes on behind closed doors. You don't tell your best friend, your brother, your buddies (you don't give the power they would then have over you & you never know what a drunked ex-buddie might blurt out!) Even, if & when you decide to hang up "the hobby" & settle down... you do not tell the one you are about to marry. You can say that you've had GirlFriends before. You never tell how long they were your Girl Friend FOR! Never. You take that with you to the grave. Period.
This might sound a bit usual, but can I actually hire provider but not have any sex during the session? Maybe just talk to her or get a Lingerie show? Next question, I wonder is if I did this would it actually be legal since I am not having sex with a provider?
The reason I am thinking of this is because I am complete newbie, a virgin guy. Seriously, just talking to a hot women in private would do wonders for me.
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What you do with her during that time, is between you and the escort. If you just want to talk, I'm sure you'll be able to find a provider who'll listen. However, most will still charge you the hourly donation. Check the Erotic Highway board for a recent post, a hobbyist has seen an escort twice spent large $ and has not had sex with her. Good luck
you could still end up with LE if you fall for a sting, so be careful and only see a well reviewed provider.
Some states require licenses to be an escort and arrest escorts who have not offered any sexual services just for escorting without a license.
This is very dangerous territory. Why? Because you can be arrested for darned near anything. Would you beat the charge if all you wanted was just a lingerie show? Probably. However, you could still be locked up, bail set and even if the DA dropped the charges the arrest will still be on your record for everyone to see, including future employers.
I'm not saying not to do it, just proceed with caution.
OK, we all understand that booking a provider and showing up for a session, money in hand, has exactly the same risks whether you actually have sex with her or not. I mean, LE only cares if money is exchanged and they don't have to observe a sex act taking place in order to bust you. But some of the responses make it sound almost as if NOT having sex is even more dangerous than having it. That makes no sense to me. Am I missing something? To me, as long as dualthought understands he's not lessening his risk, what's the problem? Maybe I'm just hung up on the semantics.
The way to lessen the perceived risk, would to be on a public date. Even then the provider could still be in trouble in locals with Escort licensing.
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When I book a session, I never talk ahead of time about exactly what we are going to do, although some clients might mention things they like. They are paying for my time.
And, I have had sessions where the guy just wanted to "cuddle" - okay.... They may want to just watch me (wink, wink), may want a massage... they are booking me for my time, not a specific sex act.
Your question makes it sound like you are expecting the provider to insist of having sex with you. Ummm... that's not the way it works! lol
As far as legality, if you inadvertently approached a lady cop and offered to pay her to sit and watch a movie with her and say you didn't even want anything sexual, I seriously doubt you would get busted! That wouldn't hold up too well in court when there is no record of solicitation and even just the opposite, but I'm no lawyer.
Thanks for responses! I do understand seeking out provider is dangerous anyhow.
What I was wondering more of how usual it is to hire escort but not have sex? I guess the response from sexyangelique69 shows most providers don't care what you do with their time as long as you pay. Wonder how weird I will come off if I just hired a provider for this?
I will admit one my problems is I always worry about how other people think of me. If I do end with provider I think I will end spending a lot of time wonder what she really thinks of me...
Don't worry too much about what she will think. First of all, if she's a well-reviewed provider, she's pretty much seen it all. I wouldn't do this with a BP girl because some are less professional. A real pro will be happy to put on a show for you. It's easier than her usual session.
As to sexyangelique's thought that soliciting a female LE with a "companionship but no sex" offer would not result in a bust, well, I wouldn't be too sure. If she wants to bust you, she will, and she'll lie about it. If you think that's never happened, I have a bridge to sell you.
But if you book a well-reviewed provider the normal way, it should be no problem. Don't worry about how it will go. Relax and enjoy. Next time you may want to move up to some physical contact, etc.,etc. Go for it!
Some places require an Escort to be "Licensed"... does not give permission for illegal acts (pay 4 play). Social only escorting is generally legal...
Good luck on convincing LE of that!
This is not what you asked, I'm jumping ahead...
In your case as a virgin, I'd suggest an extended session with a newbie friendly provider. There are some who would gladly take it slow... through a make out session & take it as far as you are comfortable with. After a session or 2 you should be having sex...
I would be careful. Frankly, there are also "providers", or those who claim to be providers (but are really rip off artists) who will talk your ear off but not even make out with you.
I don't know how old you are, but there is no shame in being a virgin. I'd suggest you select a MILF (Mom I'd Like to F*ck) provider who is still hot but also mature enough to have the experience to deal with a nervous virgin. She should build you up & teach you, not just how to get off yourself but also how to please a woman. While woman do vary, still there are certain commonalities & if you pay attention to her responses you have the opportunity to learn to be a great lover. There is nothing more confidence building!
Now, I'm going to say that you probably will not want to stay n the hobby long term... though, in my experience, knowing you can have sex by making a phone call or 2 means you can not be manipulated by civie women who use sex as a tool or weapon to get what they want!
But this is a secvret life, 007. Outside of these boards, you never tell anyone what goes on behind closed doors. You don't tell your best friend, your brother, your buddies (you don't give the power they would then have over you & you never know what a drunked ex-buddie might blurt out!) Even, if & when you decide to hang up "the hobby" & settle down... you do not tell the one you are about to marry. You can say that you've had GirlFriends before. You never tell how long they were your Girl Friend FOR! Never. You take that with you to the grave. Period.
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I do agree mostly with h_v but would add a couple of things. Re MILF, this does not mean she should be in her 40s, but it all depends on what attracts you the most. Still, I'd stay with gals who are at least 30 because their maturity and experience about sex is what you need. They are more likely to be patient and try to interest you in various things. The best of them are capable of leading you into an amazing new world.
Last, while I do agree with the "tell no one" rule, I was able to tell the woman to whom I'm now married. She asked me one day when we were well into the dating and sex stage if I'd ever paid for sex. I told her I had and it fascinated her. She actually got off when I recounted specific sexual experiences and it often led to hot sex.
That was then. Now, after nearly 15 years of marriage our sex life seems over. I told her I could no longer be in a sexless marriage and, if we were going to try to work things out I needed to play. She understood what that meant and agreed. But once things got started she became very unhappy with the situation. She still is.
One of reasons I want to hire an escort is I want make up for lost time of never having hot girls. The thing is I really tend find girls in their 20s most attractive. Sometimes only a had full of 30+ year old of women looks attractive.
I will admit probably next biggest issue would be finding the right provider to call.
To me, a girl of 30 still looks very young, though it's hard to be sure til you meet her. But if you insist on girls in their 20s, it's more of a risk in terms of them providing you with the kind of experience you're seeking.
You should be able to find a hot MILF of ~30. Sure, 18-21 is hotter... but in my experience, the younger set is impatient... expects a male to be flip a switch horny (I was at that age)... but you want this to go well.
I do not know what to suggest re: lie detector testing as a job requirement. A dilema to be sure.
Social Escorting is generally legal... the providers would have us believe that we are not "paying for sex"... "that these are individual choices between concenting adults." I don't know your profession or it's requirements for security. Perhaps there are others who could advise.
I will admit probably next biggest issue would be finding the right provider to call.
I think if do end up seeing provider, I will probably need look at reviews closely to figure out if her pics are right. I don't what procedures are, but maybe I can get some of more experience guys have look at provider info and see what they think.
Anyhow, I am not sure when I will get around to it. Thought as 26 year old virgin, I am very horny almost all the time!
I would say most escorts are ordinary to above average. The hot women you often see at the Mall you will not find escorting. And if you do, their rates would be astronomical. Even if their photos look "hot", the reality is often quite different. You need to lower your expectations otherwise you will be quickly disappointed.
Guess you don't know how to shop.
I am hoping scoed is right. I under the impression if you could find hot women provider if you looked around enough.
Thats actually pretty good advice. I do need to be careful of how far I got in where prostitution is illegal because my work does require a Lie detector test where they grill on illegal activities. This actually my 2nd post here and I am trying to figure exactly how/what I can do with provider in session. I also though escorts might provide some of sort of initial relief since I am now 26!
if they didn't provide a non sexual appointment. Right?
Almost every ad I've ever seen mentions availability for dinner, special events, etc.
The reason I am thinking of this is because I am complete newbie, a virgin guy. Seriously, just talking to a hot women in private would do wonders for me.