I'm new here and just wondering if members are married, and how they deal with their wives?  I am married myself with a less than energetic wife, and feel like I have a right to my pleasure - but would never tell her about this.  Any similar experiences?  Thanks.

ARE YOU MARRIED ?(WE WON'T TELL)
50%   Nope
49%   Yep


HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED?
38%   Never
43%   1
12%   2
2%   3
2%   4+


ARE YOU HAPPY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER?
41%   Yes
25%   No
33%   I am single


WOULD BEING CAUGHT BY YOUR S.O. WITH A PROVIDER END YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
67%   Yes
17%   No
15%   No S.O.


WHAT ARE THE CHANCES OF FINDING A WIFE WHO IS NOT BI AND IS COOL WITH HUSBAND'S HOBBY?
3%   Some
12%   Little
45%   Almost zero!
5%   Mine is cool!
33%   Is this a joke?

Yes, Im new to this hobby and am in simular situation.  What I have found is
-this may not sound right but its easier to be nice to my wife without sexual frustrations.
-I am more relaxed
-I am able to keep my hobby seperate from home life.
-I may be making up for lost time but I am likeing the variety, the anonymity, and availability.
-No emotional commitment keeps it simple
-I treat the girls as I want to be treated and leave feeling good.
-It feels better than beating my meat.
-fortunately I found TER and am finding my way ok.
-Do I rationalize in order to do what I want? yes.

Most members are married. You have to think about what will happen if your wife found out about you hobbying. If you conclude that you will lose big then marriage counseling for you and your wife may be a better route to try before going to hobbying. If you do chose counseling try to find a husband/wife team of therapists. Sex appears to be central to you displeasure with your wife in bed, marriage counseling may reveal the reasons why she is not energetic and allow the two of you to fix the problems.

I'm married and I do this because I hardly get any (maybe once every other month) and when I do, all she does is lay there while I'm on top.

She benefits from my hobby indirectly because I treat her extra nice for feeling guilty inside.

1-Our wives are not into sex (but they were at the begining).
2-We want sex, affection from a woman but NO relationship.  For reasons ranging from children to love, we want our marriages to work.
3-There are other things invested into a marriage.  This too will pass.  You do have a right to your pleasure.  However, just ask yourself the question...does she?  If this is ok with you, hobby on.

My wife "inadvertently" came across an email from a provider, and the truth came out.  I did something really stupid, and am now in deep doodoo.  Our marriage was pretty fragile, sexually speaking, and now looks like it is over.  I'm really upset about this, so please no glib "I told you so" responses.  Thanks guys.