I've been lurking here for a while, but I've never contacted a provider so this is all pretty new to me. Recently I went to an Asian-run massage parlor that I thought was legit. I wasn't looking for any special services and didn't ask for any as the massage began, but as the massage went on, the masseuse paid a lot of attention to my ass and between my thighs so that she would graze my sack. This happened over and over while I was on my stomach. So I thought, "Oh, it's one of those types of places. Maybe I should just start hobbying here."

When she asked me to turn over, again she stroked really close to my crotch so that she kept grazing my balls. And she maneuvered my hand so that it was brushing against her body. So I started stoking her ass. She didn't dissuade me from this at all, and kept going on with the massage getting closer to my cock, but never really grabbing it. Then after 10 more minutes of this she said the massage was done. I asked her if she would rub my cock, but she said it was massage only. And I felt kind of like a dork. She was very friendly though, and didn't seem to mind my ass-grabbing.

So I was wondering if I misread the cues and it's a legit MP, or if I somehow didn't start an AMP transaction correctly. Or is this some sort of PG-13 massage parlor service kind of like the equivalent of a lap dance where they get you excited, but don't go any further? I've had lots of legit massages before, and they really don't play with your ass that much and are careful not to get too close to your privates.

To be honest its easier to find an AMP that offers a happy ending than one that doesn't.  AMP's are a decent way to start hobbying, most areas have bulletin boards that talk about the services and prices so research to make certain you go about it the right way.

About your experience, I've never heard of a "semi-legit" AMP, and getting your sack rubbed, touching her butt, and teasing are normally precursers to move intimate play.  Maybe you played your cards wrong and appeared to be LE?  When you asked for more she may have turned you down because the time was up?  If the massuere asks if you want hard, medium, or soft massage...tell her soft its sort of a code...when they ask if you have been there before say yes...and don't be afraid to ask for an early flip, all thiings to let the girl know you are okay and expect some extras

It's a business as old as time, so it isn't going away.

I think you were too direct.  Subtly is the rule.

When you flip over, did you try to make eye contact?  That is so important, and a big smile when she does meet your gaze.

Then you have to say something like:  "Do you do any extras for generous guys?"

If she nods, then take it from there.

like turning down a table shower...  might have give them the creeps.  Still the hints were there, the inside leg brushing.  I think on the flip, they expect to see some erection happening & some interest in touching her.  Perhaps you waited too long to respond.
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Thanks, niceenuf. I guess I had given some wrong signals. I asked for hard pressure, and I had turned down a table shower at the beginning. And yes, time was up by the time I asked point blank for a handjob, but I think I grabbed her ass with about 20 min to go. I guess that's not enough of a signal? Are you supposed to flip over and just ask her to rub your dick? And offer a tip?

The reason I thought this place was legit is that it's one of those cheapo foot massage places that are sprouting up everywhere. Lots of times there will be a bunch of middle aged women getting foot massages in the main room. Looks a lot different than the traditional AMPs described in other threads -- darkened windows, no staff except an old Asian woman. Maybe this is the new face of AMPs.

When I get undresses I place a modest tip out with my things on the small table with the lamp (almost all AMP rooms have this). For a first time I keep it to 50 or so. At some places you may have to build a bit of a relationship. The tip will usually be more for better service(s), but a 50 will be a good icebreaker. Take the table shower if offered, for sure. A little groping on your part helps. If she doesn't object to your groping, escalate it a bit to be more explicit, and make sure you flip early enough. Some ladies will want you to direct their hand to your equipment.

There is a bit of a dance that's involved. Never heard of one that was specifically like this (some erotic touching and no happy ending). Google "erotic massage parlor" or "erotic mp" for ideas.

I agree with Fisher... "Do you do any extras for generous guys?" is a little more subtle but just as direct as "what about a handy??"!!

I always try to exagerate my reaction to the thigh rub too, raise up a bit so she has access, if she goes for it then conversation is done!

So to recap:

Accept the table shower
Be direct but discrete and ask for it
Drop a bit of a tip early to give her the hint
Test the boundries with some roaming hands

BTW, don't let the old ladies getting a foot massage in front throw you, a good friend got a CBJ in a place where the masseure had to keep telling him to be quite because the waiting area was filled with soccer moms!  Another thing not to forget, if its an AMP giving a happy ending (HJ, CBJ, or FS) is a very normal occurance in Asia so its more likely to get one than not - regardless of the outward appearance of the place.