First rule to remember is that this is what these ladies do for a living (well most of them anyway).

It sounds like you are lookning for a girl you can call at just about anytime, and she is going to be accomodating to your request (sort of a fuck-buddy).  Imagine if that was your job (i.e. you sit around and whenever we call, you have to be ready to work - and provide your own office).  That said, again, this is a biz, so, if you can pony up enough money as indicated in your post, I'm guessing you can find a woman that will accommodate you; but, I'm also guessing it will be pretty expensive.  

Also remember that these women are real people with real lives just like everyone else.  Most people don't like to get late-night or early-morning phone calls, but, again, if you are paying the appropriate toll, there are ladies who will deal with that.

To be more realistic, find an independent in your area that seems like your "type", see her a few times on her terms, get to know her a little bit, and then when you are comfortable talking to her (after 3 or 4 visits), you can ask her about "spur of the moment" calls, calling at odd hours, etc, and you can get a feel for how she would be with that.  

For example, I recently contacted a girl I know fairly well, we were having trouble cumming up with a time that would work for us both, and she finally said, you just give me a time, and I'll be there.  

Bottom line - this hobby is just like everything else in life - money talks and bullshit walks!

First off, you need to educate yourself.  No one can do this for you...  read the newbie manual on the top of this board.  Read back several pages, scan several pages on the other boards.  Then you'll have the knowledge to know what we're talking about.

After you know how this works, start reading the local board (regional board) menu to your left.  Get VIP and read the reviews for ladies in your area.  Learn to use the search feature...  search by stage name only, phone only.  Devolupe a bucket list of those who you have interest in dating.  Try them once...  if you hit it off, you can go back.    

I recommend against a single Regular Lady...  after a while you get boed, they take you for granted.  I suggest 2-3 Favs that you rotate.  As a Newbie, do not suggest an ongoing situation...  if it leads to that then ok but don't make promises you might not want to keep.

skb
(9 reviews)

One regular:  fun.

Six regulars:  more fun!

being in an LTR as a noob is not a good idea. It takes a great deal of understanding how this sport works and understanding the psychology of providers to make it work, without disaster.

it takes a bit of a tough skin - you *will* be tested lol

and it keeps you from gaining critical experience when you are new to this sport.

My advice would be to see a wide variety of ladies unless you are very very sure of your "type" - and a lot of guys have found that the "type" they thought they were attracted to did not pan out with experience

If you find someone that you *feel* as though you "click" with, see her again - but see several other ladies in between, and do not pester her by email other than to make, confirm or if needs be cancel and appt. Make it a rule to see at least two preferably three ladies in between visits with the one you think might become a fav

See your possible fav no more than once a month.

and R E M E M B E R at all times - it's her job to make you feel all special and appreciated. Yes, if feels awesome - but it is a *fantasy*. For her it is a job, a way to derive income.

Yes she might actually like you a bit, like some of her clients. But without the donation she would not be cuddling up to you, sucking you, fucking you. Always remember that.

Really - get some experience before you start concentrating on one lady.

TER boards are full of guys whining about falling for their provider. Almost all of them had too little experience before they got "hooked up" with the lady in question. And well over ninety percent of these 'relationships' end badly.....

Many people addressed the issue of one regular compared with a handful of regulars or variety.  I agree with them, of course.

First, let me say I'm not a very experienced hobbyist, but I wonder if you are going through what I went through when I started earlier this year.  Lots of anxiety.  So, make sure you read my ideas and take from them what you think is valid.

But I think what they are missing is that you are a bit shy to try.  You figure if you find one, you are good, you don't have to go through the routine of searching for another.

Try this... Go to one of the boards, the TER regional, or Craigs or City or Backpage...  Look through the ads, find someone that seems interesting.  

Call her, just to find out availability.  Or find one that does not list location, or donation.  (I think they get upset if you ask a question that is presented in their post).  

Say to them, "I am trying to find out near where you are located..."  or "I am wondering how much it is for an appointment."

These questions are harmless, and if they are not in the post, they get asked frequently.  YOu are NOT saying "I want an appointment"  you are only asking for a little more information.

The purpose for this is to give you an idea of comfort level for how you feel with them.  You'll find most are very comfortable to talkto, but you'll also find that some are "where are you, what time do you want to be here"  a bit more persistant.

I don't suggest looking for a regular right off the bat.  In fact, the first one you go to, there's a good chance you'll be disappointed.  You will go there with expectations of some type.  Either appearance or performance... You will go there and you'll probably be blown away by how hot she is, but you'll wonder why she did this, or why she acted this other way, or what you did right or wrong...

Try to relax.  enjoy.  Let her lead, and just go along with the ride.  (if that's your style.)  Then for the second one, pick someone of similar style or different style, and it lets you compare and you'll be much more ready for the second one after the first.  Then.. at that point, you can consider having a favorite. (not an only, but a favorite)

Sorry for rambling.
More experienced hobbyists...  Am I way off on this?

clwb

The best advice I can give you is not to go looking for a regular.  See lots of women. Keep seeing the ones you really enjoy being with.  

Eventually you may end up going back to the same one or two ladies more often than the others.  

Eventually a gal you really have a great time with may decide to retire or go UTR and you may wind up being one of only a few men that she still sees.

This is how I wound up with a couple of very amazing, very UTR ladies who are my regulars. You can not however force something like this. It's just the way things worked out for me.  There will be a different story for every guy with an ATF.

wow, fellas, thanks a lot for all the insight.  this has to be the most supportive, helpful and unsarcastic thread of replies i've ever seen.  i guess it's because you're all getting laid!  thanks again.

p.s.  if anyone is around the LA area and has a suggestion for who i should try first (i.e. someone that made you feel extra-comfortable at her incall and would be especially fitting for a newcomer), do let me know.  i understand if you'd rather not share.  just taking any edge i can get over here.  have fun, fellas.