Need some advice. My wife and I are exploring . We meet with a couple and decided to have group fun however I could not perform. Not sure why but n o matter what I could not rise top the occasion.  We decided to approach this different and go with a provider and same thing happened.  

and I suspect not that an unusual one also.

Start the session one-on-one with the provider. At some point, your wife shows up and joins the festivities.

Thanks will try advice

Introducing a third party into the mix? Is this for you or your wife? If you're not cut out for it, then why pressure yourself to do it? Unless it's something that your wife is into and pushing for.

Wife likes it and is something we been looking forward

with a provider?  a bit of a different scenerio might put both at ease.  

We are scheduling another session get back on the horse and try