I am a newbie, and somewhat high profile, which is proving to be a liability in booking a provider. I was hesitant to join preferred411, as they want so much personal info. I've been more comfortable giving that info to a provider than a third party, but despite my transparency, they don't seem comfortable with so little background. should I just get over myself and join preferred? am i being more worried than I should be?

thanks!

so iit's kinda difficult to advise you.  P411 has a pretty solid reputation as a verification site.  IMHO, you are better off just giving your info to them, as opposed to several providers, until you see a few and write reviews.  Seeing providers will get some whom you can use as references.  The fewer that have your personal info, the better off you are.  You can also ask some the ladies you see to give you a reference and join DateCheck as well.  With a provider ref, you will not have to submit much of your own info.  Feel free to pm me if you have more questions.

Swim

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pretty high-profile people that dabble in this little hobby.

Ssshhhh don't tell anyone I said that.

While most of these sights insure the safety of both providers and hobbiests, I prefer to screen myself and offer a new client references of the gentlemen I see. This way it comes from the source...not from some biased group of moderators and providers who can be unecessarily catty  and opinionated. If your privacy concerns you then simply explain that to them. We have something in common, I hate reviews put up about me  because the members (both hobbiests and providers) start criticizing and accusing they're fakes. Do yourself a favor, ask the women you would like to see for references from clients and provide her with any info she may need,Oh, and I like  to get to know a gentlemen through a few emails and calls before our date.That always eases the tension.

I'm pretty green to everything, and was curious about the employment verification.  What do they normally ask for when they call?  what if i'm the typical person who verifies employment at my place?

I am one of those providers who has to have 2 refs or verification site membership. P411 is better then sliced bread, to me. Just to make you feel more at ease, ladies have no vested interest in outing your info. It's bad business. Many high profile gents hobby because escorts know how to keep our mouths shut. Whereas a mistress might make things messy. You should only have to give your personal info out a few times then you will have your references. You will still have to give name, age, cell number(get a hobby phone.) This is a rhetorical question, but how high profile are you? If you're a Dr or lawyer that's pretty standard par course in the hobby world.

.....I still require my gentlemen friends to provide their name as it appears on their DL, and place of employment.   Many ladies will accept P411 as sole verification, and others will not.  

Hugs and Kisses

they will pretend to be, like a doctor's office, calling to verify an upcoming fictitious appointment.  If they ask for you, they will usually hang up while the call is being switched.  If you are the person that answers the phone to verify employment, you can either tell them you're you, or simply say that the person they are looking for (you) is out of the office at the moment to avoid identifying yourself.

Swim

Sooo helpful, thanks! I got over myself and joined p411 today. Appears to be much smoother sailing already.

sometimes more than you would think. As someone mentioned,  most times ssafer than having a mistress.

I also LOVE P411.

Have fun and play safe!

Summer

Maybe it's just me but I have zero interest in speaking to another dude about a provider.  Reading reviews is my preference.  To each his own I suppose.

I think people need to be aware that you're not giving out any info that's not on your business card, which most people have given out 100s of times. Anyone can access the tools that providers and screening services use to verify you. Property records, sites like intellius, linkedin, company websites, etc. are all things that providers and services use to verfiy clients. The only additional step is the provider or screening service phone call/email and that can be quite innocuous if you do it properly.

The main problem is information retention. Most ladies don't throw away or sanitize client info after screening and session completion.