Hi there, I am quite puzzled.  I am new to TER and I read the reviews and select my escort and go.  But the experience I have differs wildly from all the other reviews.... is it me?  For example last night's encounter.  THe guys talk about how this girl gives DFK when they first meet, I didn't get that.... that she gets in for a shower too.... I didn't get that.... that she did BBBJCIM... I didn't get that.... and that she offers a second cup.... I didn't get that....  And all this was stated in about 12 reviews before I selected her.  It's like going to a highly reviewed/recommended restaurant that charges you the same price but offers only a limited menu.  Should I be paranoid?  It's not that I am looking for anything extra I just want what everyone else is getting.  I don't want to be a seconed class hobbyist.... I am the perfect gentleman I am told by every girl I have a cute butt so I am not quazimoto and I done whine or complain to them I just go with the flow but it still burns at me.  Any suggestions?  Should I print out a sample review and show the girl before we start that this was a very sexy encounter and that is what I am looking for?  Please help me out guys.

seem to fall into the sub-$$ massage/FBSM category.
It is no stretch of the imagination that some previous reviewers may have embellished a bit in their reviews (male braggadocio that one got something that isn't customarily offered is as old as human history).

Possibly aiming your sights on the $$$ full service (escort) providers will better satisfy your expectations.

Starting with the DFK department, are you sure you have done all you can do in the oral hygene department?  On that score, let me tip you off to a product that I have used to successful improve my odds in that regard:  Dr. Katz's Therabreath toothpaste and mouthwash.  It works like a charm, you need to go to a pharmacy in most towns to find it.

As for the second cup, did you indicate strongly that you wanted it?  There is no harm in getting off after twenty minutes, waiting another twenty while you chat or cuddle and then starting up again, but you have to make your intentions obvious or the gal won't know how to read you.

I'd say you hit the jackpot in the CIM catagory, so look at things as a two-way street.

I am not sure showing a provider her reviews or even mentioning them is a good idea.  It could make her suspicious of you.

Try other providers if this one did not tickle your fancy enough.  My experience is that most do perform as their reviews indicate.

I use the term "human factor" to refer the effect of human nature and/or personal attitudes on a business arrangement.  Let's face it: providers are human beings, not robots.  So they won't interact with all clients the same way.  It's a bad business practice when a provider doesn't deliver what she promises, but you can't blame her for finding some clients more attractive than others.  Hobbyists can improve their chances by practicing good hygiene: brush teeth, take a long shower, etc.

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If you've paid the full donation to the services you seen have been offered, and dished out, then you have to give a clue to what else you would like. We are not mind readers Like you guys seem to think we are. We CAN take a hint. lol Body language is a BIG one. (pun intended) Take her hand and lead if you must. After all, most of us are there to please and pleas-ure you!
~~Di~~

I'll let you know D

Thanks for the advice guys.  I will go and get that toothpaste as Mr Fisher suggests.  It is just so troubling when you see 450 reviews of a certain provider in Koreatown... for example and guys say they were bouncing off the ceiling and the walls... to a man... and that they all had trouble finding their cars after their session they were so lightheaded(paraphrasing with penache) I know it is not a conspiracy against me....but I don't understand how I got what I got... she obviously knows what keeps guys coming back after 450 reviews... I am a new customer and you would think she would do the same to get my repeat business.  (I am in marketing and it is easier to retain a new customer.) Please, I am not putting down this provider.  It's me, it's all me, I got it. Chemistry... whatever. She is a beloved icon I recognize that... when I win my first Oscar I will thank her on stage, I will say, "Thank you XXX on Craigslist" I promise.  But like that old Elvis Preseley album tagline... how can 450+ fans be wrong.  So I will take the advice given to try another.  But if I am using the new girl's reviews as my guideline I am painting myself into a corner again.  Ugh.  And no I did not specifically say what I wanted, I am new to all this if I tried that request strategy with a girlfriend or a wife I would get a frying pan in the head so I have some work to do there in the customer request dept...  but surely it can't be a mystery to a provider that when you go nuts on the new guy like you did on the rest that he will stagger back for more.  And only a few of the guys say they told her what they wanted, the majority of reviews seem to infer that she can connect the dots on her own quite easily.  When I check out the Cityvibe mission statements of the girls I like they say they are there to please, and know what a man wants... etc.  Any way thanks for taking me under your wing everyone.  I really appreciate it.

You’ve asked an interesting question. In general, why your experience differs wildly from others? Seems like you did your homework for last night's date but somehow things didn't go the way you expected them to. I can't comment much about it because I have no clue who the lady in question is. For the sake of my discussion, it probably doesn't matter anyway.

I wonder if you are putting too much value on the reviews. A review is a scouting report and should be treated as such. A starting point in your quest to establish whether your interests are compatible with potential services available. However, it is important to master the information from the scouting report. I am concerned that you may be over interpreting (or misinterpreting) the information presented to you. My perspective will be centered around that.

You can get invaluable information from reviews (and reviewers) but you must be mindful of its strengths and limitations. Some reviews may come across as exaggerated (either in a positive or negative way) while some are made up and only reflect the reviewer’s fantasies. Making that distinction –at times- can be easy but sometimes it’s very challenging. It’s one of the most important “hunting skills” for any hobbyist and hence, one that needs to be learned with precision and honed with time. I’ll move from the general to the specifics.  

Let’s start with the fourth lady you reviewed. First, let’s look at the five reviewers that preceded you. At least three patterns emerge. Most seem to agree that there’s little to no kissing (no DFK); only CBJ (no CIM); and there’s a significant language barrier. Just so we are clear, there is nothing wrong about a lady who doesn’t offer DFK or BBBJ. I do acknowledge that they’re not my cup of tea but to each his own. If DFK and BBBJCIM are important to you, I’m curious about why you chose to see her.

Let’s follow with the fifth lady you reviewed. Three of the previous five reviewers had written three reviews (or less). While I am not questioning their credibility, I do not consider them to have a solid review history either. You’ve entered the twilight zone already. As far as BJ, it’s all over the map. Some got a BBBJ, some CBJ, and in some I couldn’t figure it out. A very consistent pattern is the absence of DFK. Once again, if DFK and BBBJCIM are important to you…SPF45, I’m curious about why you chose to see her.

Your second and third reviews were about two ladies that had not been previously reviewed in TER. In essence, you TTFTT (Took two for the Team). These two examples do not lend themselves to specifically address your question of why your experience wildly differs from other reviewers. No frame of reference. I do commend you for TOFTT’ing.

As I’ve said before, a review is a scouting report. You can PM other hobbyists (especially those who have seen the lady you’re interested in and have some track record of several reliable reviews) to optimize your chances for success. Reading the provider’s posts may help you to determine if there’s some degree of compatibility (or not).

All I can say is that I do hope things get better for you. You can PM me if you wish. Stay safe...

RuudHass

Hi SPF45,

I too am just learning but I quickly learned from my first two experiences that if the average ranking of a ladies perfomance is 6 (which all but one of the ones you reviewed were), 6 seems to be the equivalent of slightly better than barely worth it.  I don't know how old you are, I am 55 and what I have learned so far is to go for ladies with average performance rank 0f 9- they can have some 8's but need mostly 9's and a couple of 10's to offset the 8's, and also to go for a little older (30 years+) and only go for ones with many consistent reviews.  Hope that helps.

Why 30+, gold? I am 30, and I would think the 20's are most popular ones.

.....and this is only my experience of course, women over 30 are better lovers.  She has 10+ years of extra experience.  She knows herself and she knows more about men.  Think about it.  At 20 were you yourself as skilled and considerate a lover as at 30?

Ladies under 30 please, I know this is a generalization.  We can tell by your reviews that you are exceptional.

An earlier poll was taken on this issue and a lot of guys expressed preference for the 25-35 range.

At 20, many providers are relying purely on their youth and looks so their performance is not often very good.  By 25, their skills tend to dramatically increase.

I'm in my 30s and my ATFs are 25 and 27.  the majority of my best experiences are in the range above.  I will go outside the 35 yo age range but would hesitate to see anyone below 25 unless I was willing to accept the possibility of paying premium cash for subpar service just to be with a much younger provider.

But I disagree with you about reviews.  You can't put TOO much stock in them because they are often all you have to go on.  Since ladies can't directly specify any acts on their websites, they rely on reviews to do it for them.

You're right about PMing clients for more specific opinion.  In his case, it looks like he didn't look too closely at inconsistencies in the reviews. At the same time, he needs to spot the dangers of one-shot reviewers too.  They are often either inexperienced or shills.

He could have had bad breath, BO or was passive-aggressive.  Maybe she even had a bad day.

Or, she found him unattractive and decided to let it show.  In that case, nothing he does will matter.  The only way to know is to see her again and be on point.

I've been with a few providers who have consistent reviews only to be refused a service and then be told that "I don't do that."  Yeah right.

You suggested that he look at things as a two-way street.  Good advice - for everybody.

and I find that age makes little difference.

They are either conscientious and personable, or they aren't.

It varies for me, although I've had the best experiences with providers in the 25 to 30 range.  They've had some time to improve their performance, yet they're still young enough to have youthful looks.  Also, I sometimes get a bad case of nerves when I show up for the appointment, and older providers seemed to be better at helping me relax.

Most of the ladies you have seen are 6's and 7's.  Aim higher.  For me, I start with a minimum of a 7 in both appearance and performance with performance a higher priority.

YMMV