Hey ladies, just wondering if your close family and friends know that you escort and how did you open up and tell them if so, or is everyone discreet and private like myself? I have been considering telling a close friend of mines, but its so hard!

Because 90% of the time that is what happens.

are your real friends they will accept anything you do!  My sister and my closest friends know that I am a provider.  I love them to death and couldn't see myself ever lying to them.  So, when I first started as a provider I called them up and spilled the beans.  

Of course, they were warning me of the dangers because they felt they wouldn't be a real friend if they didn't voice their opinion. But in all honesty, they support the decision I made.  (Probably helped that my sister and friends were; former strippers, sex shop workers and night club bouncers)

Funny thing, is now my friends want to do this...

Stories of acceptance like this are the rarity.  Be prepared to be judged and turned on.  Then every argument you get into, the fact that your a dirty whore will ALWAYS be thrown into your face.  If things really get ugly then you've given someone the ammunition to out you.  And I don't care how much they promise to never tell anyone, don't care how long you've known them, they will not be able to keep such a juicy morsel to themselves.   I wouldn't tell anyone.

Your in Falwell country sweetheart. Don't care how much the people in your life say they love you...living in the Bible belt has strings attached.

That's my fear, I'll keep things discreet thank u

I'd keep it to yourself.

You may think that blood is thicker than water or that your closest friends will be there for you but you will be sorely disappointed and ostracized by your friends and family.

The day you became a provider is the day you began leading a double life. You may find a friend or two within the hobby as you move along but your non-hobby friends will never understand this life or why you chose it.

Two friends...one sleeps with multiple guys for free and that's okay...as soon as she gets paid for it...you'd be surprised how the morals suddenly come rushing out....listen to the others...don't bother because it might be used against you in the future.

I would agree with what the others have said with one piece of advice. I do not know any providers but I have a lot of friends that are dancers. The ones that have talked to me about telling friends or relatives that they found the best results (as best as they can get per person) by being able to clearly point out the benefits that someone outside the business would understand. The low hours, high pay, the feeling of empowerment, and meeting new people. I can only guess that these would/could be the same reasons for a provider. Hell I may be way off base. I do agree that with our hypocritical puritan society, it is probably best to only tell someone that loves you and you know will understand. Not fair but the way it is.

As long as a friend is messing around for free with a bunch of guys no problem.
But,let her find out you are an escort your business will be everywhere.
For the ladies who have told family/friends and have been respected for doing so I have a lot of admiration for these ladies.But,myself personally I could not do that and like another reply said be prepared to have that thrown in your face all of the time when people get mad.
Also,friends can act like they are okay with you being an escort and then later when you are not friends anymore you being an escort will be the first thing that is spilled to everyone.
Keep this to yourself.
Just my .02

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Dancing is legal, escorting is not.

Totally agree but in the eyes of the general public I do not think they make much of a distinction. It is still a woman using her body for financial gain. I would also point out that many dancers break the law in the course of performing their job. Regardless of profession it is really not fair that the law persecutes two consenting adults.

People who you think love you unconditionally do.....until they find out your a ho!  Then everything changes and your out of favor, outed, ostracized, et cetera....you name it.

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Unless that "friend" is thinking of also getting in the business, she does not need to know. That can only lead to a slippery slope if you ever have a falling out.