I'm looking for some advice for my situation. I would like to book a provider but it seems like every provider i'm interested in requires either references (which i have none because i've never done this) or wants a direct line to my office where they can speak with me. The problem is i don't work out of an office because i travel mon-friday and only go to the office every few weeks for meetings. half the reason i'm interested in particular providers is because they seem safer/more discrete but i feel like that's working against me.  

...verification service.  You provide your info to them once and they verify you to providers.  There are other verification services such as Date-Check and Room Service 2000 (RS2K).  Some are more prominent in certain areas of the country.

P411's owner, Gina, will work with you to verify you.  If you do work for a company, they can call it and ask for you with some innocent reason, like reminding you of a doctor's appt.  They don't necessarily have to talk to you, just know that you do, in fact, work for that company.  So it doesn't matter whether you are actually there, just that you do work there.

I work remotely as well. This is exactly how I got started. Signed up for P411, they call the corporate office and said they were my bank and wanted to verify employment. Easy as pie. I find that using p411 is a great way to get a response from a provider that you have not met before. Just remember to go back and request an "okay" from her after your appointment.