I apologize for using an alias, you'll understand why.
A while ago, I had an appointment. Due to horrible weather and subsequent traffic, I was quite late and she was even later. We were texting frequently, so we were able to manage expectations. We had some drinks and lunch to calm down and get to know each other. The main course started about 2 and half hours after the original time of the appointment.
The subsequent appointment was awful. I thought we were generating great chemistry, but found out after the main course was completed that she had multiple appointments and had to cancel one and that another was waiting in the lobby. She just wasn't into our appointment. I was disappointed and wrote a review that reflected that appointment, but gave her some benefit of the doubt in the narrative.
So, can some of you experienced hobbyists or ladies please comment on the experience you've had in similar situations? I've only been participating in the hobby for almost a year and have had mainly wonderful experiences with great ladies. This experience has lead me to believe that I need to cancel under similar circumstances in the future, or else risk a disappointing session. On the other hand, my lack of experience tells me that I may be too judgmental in this instance. BTW, the provider has many great reviews.
It's too bad that your date didn't come off the way you expected. In this hobby, all kinds of things pop up to throw the proverbial monkey wrench into the mix. If your review was honest, then I would not lose any sleep over it, and move on to the next. If the weather goes bad on you again, you might consider offering to reschedule for another day rather than venturing out in nasty weather, and see what she says.
Swi
To ask us whether you should have cancelled, we can't answer. If communication stopped on one side, that might have been different, but since you were both in communication during the delay, and you had no way of knowing that she had other appointments, or that the session was going to be bad, how would you (or we) know if you should have cancelled. (20/20 hindsight)
I had an experience about a year ago where I was seeing someone for the first time. There was unexpected traffic delays, and roadwork construction on her street. So I was running late, but figured it would be Just 10 or 15 minutes late. I contacted her about 10 minutes before the scheduled appointment time to let her know, then we kept in contact every 5 minutes or so to update on progress. At some point I realized I would be even later than 15 minutes, so I offerred to reschedule if it would work better for her. She said it was ok to still come now so I kept trying to get there. Finally reached her building, and then realized I couldn't park where she told me to. (vehicle too tall for the structure) so another ten minutes to find parking, then walk/run several blocks to her incall. I finally reached the lobby where she told me to come to and call her, about 40 minutes after our scheduled start time, and now she wasn't answering her calls and texts.
I decided to wait there instead of leaving just yet, and sent two more apology texts. Then about 10 minutes later a woman who looked like the pictures in the ad showed up and said, "are you looking for xx?" I told her yes and apologized for being late again even though it wasn't my fault there were traffic delays and my truck didn't fit in her building's parking structure. She said we would have to reschedule, because she had stepped out of her apartment and realized she locked the keys inside and left her phone in (which is why she had stopped replying to me). She had to go to a payphone to call her building manager to let her back in, but he was out and wasn't going to be back for an hour. I told her I was actually free that day and I was still willing to see her if she was ok with it. We ended up waiting together for her bldg. manager to come back and let her in to her apartment. went to a little convenience store, bought some waters, and snacks, and talked about all kinds of things, and got to know each other. We finally had the appointment about 2 hours after the original scheduled time and I had an awesome time with her and repeated with her 5 times! (until she left the state) That experience gave us something funny to talk about at future visits.
So anyway that just shows you how a similar situation to yours had a totally different outcome. That makes it hard to say "you should have cancelled.
it was impossible to drive... all traffic was stopped either on the shoulder or in the travel lanes of the Interstate. Even if I had been able to get there, more than half the time would be gone. When I reached her by phone, she said she had squeezed me in but had another appointment so no room to adjust the schedule. We agreed to cancel. I found myself free... and horny... the very next day, rebooked but left extra time. After finding the call point, I withdrew to the corner coffee until time to return.
No way to know your outcome but cancelling would be an option. Sometimes trying too hard just puts too much stress on the meeting. SHE might not want to cancel... it's money she can not recoup... use your best judgment. This is something that comes with experience... and I continue to learn.
...you are dealt.
I am sorry that you experienced a situation that was beyond your control, and that the outcome was less than expected.
The lady in question, knew ahead of time, that she had a gentleman caller after you. It appears she was trying to cut her losses, by trying her best to keep your date. If I were her, I would have been honest, and told you that, "since our date is beginning later than planned, you have a few options". I would have explained your options based on the situation, and I have no doubt that we both would have been happy. You would also have a credit towards a future date. This scenario is one more reason I never book more than three dates a day when traveling. Stuff happens.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
But communication is the key here. If she didn't volunteer the information you should have asked is this going to work? What's this going to do to your schedule? That might have gotten the conversation going regarding the reality of the situation.
Had a similar, though one-sided experience. She had horrible traffic conditions while I (apparently the first appointment of her trip to this fine town) got there on time. After waiting for 1/2 hour and leaving voice mails, got up to leave. As I was walking to my car she finally called back, telling me that she was pulling up to the location.
We chatted and both agreed to call it a day. No harm, no foul. Have booked with her since 
In cases like these, it is best not to "force", if canceling is an option. Also (no criticism intended) I would not write a review under these situations. Best to let things be...
BeautywithBrains is 100% correct...
I have the feeling that she is not a very low volume provider.. I tend to see only one person per day so in case this happens, I have time to accommodate my schedule accordingly because of traffic,weather etc... I guess in the future you should cancel so you are not disappointed.
I'm not going to see her again for reasons other than those mentioned. I just don't feel safe with her.
I normally see low volume ladies and this one surprised me since she advertises as very low volume, but had guys lined up at the door. My research seemed to confirm that she was low volume.
In the future, I'll follow my gut if the situation ever occurs again.
