Start be reading the manuals linked at the top of this

page.

Look through old posts about ads and VIP for providers.

Sit back and learn the rules here.

what manuals? i'm new as well

Just a hint... in message board-ese.  All CAPS is considered shouting & a turn off for many.  

By all means read the Newbie manual (link on the top of this board).  Read back several pages on this board at at least some on the others.  You education is your responsibility.  Learn to use the search feature so you're not asking the same Q that someone asked yesterday.  You'll find lots of folks willing to share tips to make this as safe as possible & enjoyable.
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