Newbie here. Apologies if the issue has been brought up on another thread, if there's any confusion, or if I'm overcomplicating this. After researching several providers on here, it has become apparent to me that in order to see them, they will have to screen me by my real name. I've picked out the provider I want to see (who is newbie friendly per P411) but before I send an email to ask them questions, do you use an alias during your communication and mention the screening information they will receive will be under your actual name? Do you address them under your actual name the whole time? Or do you never reveal your actual
name at all?
and that means you must use your real name.
If you have qualms about the gal having that info, then you need to see someone else.
The safest gals to see are those that screen carefully.
LE are the ones who don't care about screening.
Especially on the newbie board. That's why it's here.
Fisher's response is accurate (no surprise there) but I would add a couple of things.
First, you should check the lady's site or ad or profile on P411 to see what screening information is listed. Provide that in the initial contact. If you see that anywhere and you use P411 to reach out, don't worry about providing your real name at first. Just reach out expressing you interest, let her know you are a newbie and that you'd like to learn what is needed to make an appointment.
If the screening requirements are listed and your initial contact ignores them you may well be ignored too -- either because it comes across as inconsiderate/impolite or as a "time waster".
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But usually I use an anonymous email name when contacting. At some point if screening is done with real info I would send that via the same email etc.
if you have had encounters with more than three providers, your status as "newbie" is more like "sophomore". I only say that because you now have the requisite number of provider references most of us require ( two to three).
First and foremost, if you see a link for their personal website, go to it. Read the website. Oftentimes, if you reach out asking generic questions about screening, rates, availability, etc., you'll probably find yourself on the receiving end of a template response pointing you back to their website. This basically leaves you in the same position you started in. Like "jensen" said above, in your initial email I would provide the requisite screening information they asked for, list your questions politely (so long as they are NOT about services as your screening isn't complete yet), and *ALSO* inform the provider that you used a false name with previous providers. This allows us the opportunity to determine how we'll have to approach screening, specifically if you are using provider references.
Here's the thing, you'd rather be truthful from the jump than start the screening process and we find out about it in the process. If a provider finds out during the process, you're fixin' to either get a stern talking to, blocked, blacklisted, or all three.