I have been trying schedule with this HDH provider who is planning on visiting my city. She definitely would most expensive date I have had, though she had good reviews over here.

The main problem she is slow in responding to my message regarding scheduling. It has been over 10 days I have trying set an exact time for the meeting! She takes 2-3 days to reply on P411 even though she logins in almost every day. Also, she has directly answered my question about exact hours she is free yet...

Somehow she comes off as cold and not enthusiastic about meeting. Makes me wonder if I am wasting my time and if I can actually finalize a meeting. Also, even if I do meet her hope she come of better in person otherwise it will be a disappointing session.

Does anyone have any suggestions about this case?

You are getting too worked up over this girl. Checking how often she logs in to p411 really shouldn't be any of your concern. If you feel she is being cold and unenthusiastic, that is a different matter. Trust your instincts here. Let this one go.

You know her available times.  Either book an available time or Move on.  Has she screened you?

Not all escorts provider every day or even check their mail...ok, I don't get how anyone in this business cannot have a Blackberry or Iphone, but you get the point. I have waited the longest for a reference from women who are charging over 1k, and simply don't get it! At the very LEAST you should have a damn auto response alerting people that you are off, on vacation, or not taking calls or emails...geez.

I would say, send one last email, and then move on. She is either not interested or something is going on in her life preventing her from answering. Either way, that's not YOUR problem as the customer.

Also, she may have seen your reviews and thought she would get a low score. Many women will refuse to see a guy who has never given out 9s and 10s, which you have yet to do. Just food for thought, not saying that is the case. You're in Dallas, so it's a huge market. If she is truly an HDH in Dallas, I am guessing that's over 500 per hour since that area is dominated by cheap ass hats on another board, who refuse to pay more than 250.

You are putting numbers where it is supposed to be a description of "attitude and atmosphere" as well, so could be that. Women are funny about who they see, and if your reviews somehow rub her the wrong way, she may just be avoiding you.

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I can't tell you how much time to expend on something, but it sounds to me like you feel you are getting the runaround.

Why not post what kind of girl you like, what you are looking to spend, and where you are located?

You might get some better suggestions.

It's not in the list of acronyms, and not even in urbandictionary!

...at least not one that made sense.  Urban Dictionaty said Har Dee Har.

How long until she is coming to visit? If it is in a week, then she is keeping you as a standby while she schedules other things. Is that bad? Probably not, though you may end up on the outside if she gets enough longer dates, or dates with old friends. But if she is well reviewed and you get that date, she will take care of you. And since she is replying, she has not written you off.

But one thing about your email makes me wonder - why are you asking when she is available? Why not just tell her when you want to meet? Then she has to say yes or no and you either have a deal or not. If she says no, she probably will suggest an alternative time. There are times when being deferential is a PIA, such as when you are trying to schedule based on when the lady is available. What are the odds she puts a date out there that you like? If this is a discussion to arrive at an agreeable time to meet, you have added an extra step, and now you are complaining that step is taking too long. So just skip it.

As others said, doing it the way you have chosen greatly increases the odds you are a time-waster.

zig

I totally agree. I contacted a provider by email (her instruction) introduced myself and gave her the info she requested on her website.  She acknowledged the email (thank you for writing) and never heard from her again. I consider her lack of response a clear answer.

Moved on to another lovely lady and had a fabulous time. Don't take it personal, remember its just show biz.

You guys saved me from looking, thanks.

Swim

I so agree with this. I absolutely hate it when guys just email me every damn day asking, "Are you available?" Um, when dude? YOU tell ME when YOU want an appt. and I will say if I can do it or not.

Interesting thought, since indeed she will in my area in a week. Last message I sent her 4 days a go I asked for an exact time slot (like Feb 27, at 8 pm to 9pm). Haven't heard from her since and haven't bothered messaging. The main reason I wanted a quick response (including a No) is so that I could skip another lady who is visiting before her.

Anyhow, guess I started off at wrong foot with her at least. She did say she was willing to see me, I assumed she screened through P411 that means.

I have been trying hookup with hot blonde in Dallas area but haven't had much luck in last few weeks. Might need go back to my search.

Thanks for good info LR! Honestly she is pretty high end, with a donation of over 1,000 roses. Which why I would assume she would treat this as a business and answer messages promptly. Possibly she is busy with "real life" or many doesn't need the money.

As for TER rating, I hope no one P411 can tell what my TER handle is since they are different. The reason I try keep screening (P411) separate from message boards is that so I don't get blacklisted due any review I may write.

I've gotten to the point of auto-responder, only email correspondence and absolutely no response if I get a "are you available" or "what is your schedule". Obviously you didn't handle yourself in this manner, it does happen A LOT.

In hind-sight my best clients contacted me through my appointment form, were forthcoming with info and made the process of seeing each other painless. In turn they receive favoritism, just the way it is as I'm not walking waste deep through a swamp to make things happen for them.