So I was on here earlier, crying about how no providers would get back to me.
Some excellent advice from members here and I changed my approach and met with success.

In my experience, many 1st-timers tend to fall into one of two categories: 15 wonderful seconds of bliss, or Mr. Shy Dick that doesn't want to wake up and play.  

I don't know.  
When i lived in N.Y my buddies and i hit the bar scene frequently.
I have had a decent amount of "traditional " one nighters.
But usually by the time i took a girl back to my place,  it'd be a couple of hours since we'd met. Obviously liquor was involved.  It was fun and exciting.
Meeting a stranger and having to perform instantly is...well, not as stimulating as i thought it'd be.

Performance Anxiety can occur in a lot of situations for a lot of different reasons and have results such as you described.  

I honestly can't speak for anyone here but myself.  
But no one really spends hundreds of dollars for "company"
Look at all the reviews.  I've read many.  Its all rather explicit.
Get laid. Have sex with someone who's not your wife, or GF.  

You seem like a very reasonable man. And your advice is thoughtful.

There are lots of examples of younger guys like you or me (I'm just over 40), who don't have ED issues, take Viagra or Cialis, then get hard but can't actually get off. One alternative that works well for me is a medium distance hard run the morning before. My best performance is within 12 hours of a good workout.  

Thanks for taking the time to post your viewpoint!  

Haha. Yeah. I over think everything. To a fault. It's baked into my DNA.

First, it is ok to not want to have sex with escorts. That is almost certainly the majority opinion. Not wanting to have sex with escorts != low sex drive or erectile dysfunction or whatever. Not wanting to have sex with escorts = not wanting to have sex with escorts.  

All very valid points.
Except your last paragraph.

I always book my appointments well in advance. Then I hold out for 10-14 days before without a release. When the session rolls around staying hard isn't an issue, and when I finally cum it feels beyond amazing!

Hahaha. I did the exact opposite.

Well said so true!

If you care about how many dicks have been on/in her, that's a huge problem. You're not going to find a girl in this profession who has held onto the kind of "purity" you want (and even if you could, there's really no way to know for sure). Just for the record, though: I guarantee some of the one night stands you've had were with chicks who've had WAY more dick than a lot of providers.  

booze.

Besides, even if you are a troll, you are the most fine mannered troll to ever grace these boards and I say let there be a hundred more of you.

No need to see Susie Palm if the girl has MSOG. If your 2 providers are attractive, repeat, relax and you may have a better time.

an appointment to get the first experience?

You make me sound like I'm judgemental. Im not.  I don't care how many men a girl sleeps with. I think i was turned off by the possible proximity in which said men might have been with them

They were ok. Not drop dead gorgeous.

Hahaha. Thanks.  Nah, think I'll lay low for a bit.
The whole experience kinda...well...I'm ok going sex less for while now.

I was not truthfully really attracted to either one.  Honestly.  

You've asked this twice now.  
I've answered in a post further down.

Your play by play analysis made me laugh.  
And you're correct. In hindsight i made some tactical errors.

It looks like you got yourself into a negative feedback loop due to anything from trying to "get your money's worth" and maximize your sexy activities, paying too much attention to the clock, and legitimate fears (LE, std, robbery) that may be out of proportion to the situation. Here are some avenues you can pursue to remedy this are:

Haha. Im a glutton for punishment  (no not literally, maybe some of you fellas like that stuff

to have a good time with most ladies. A few times I have arrived at an appointment and was not in the mood for sex.

Really?
Well guess i just blew it.

Talking about specific sex acts, even if you don't mention them in conjunction with money is still a serious no no. You may get away with it from time to time, but that still doesn't mean it's accepted behavior by most escorts.

Ok. But this specific one has a list of services available,  with a note specifying to connect via email with any questions or requests.

or familiarity with  the same person.  

Already am VIP.
Read hundreds of reviews for ladies.  Literally.
And i did read the newbie guide.

Viewing this date as "make or break" and then spending a week building up the fantasy in your head is a recipe for disappointment. You'll inevitably look for where she fails to live up to your fantasy rather than enjoying the encounter for what it is.  

See that's just it.
I don't want just "sex" i think i am after a very particular experience.

There's a reason why the vast majority of us don't advertise sex acts and don't discuss them with potential clients: it's incriminating. I and most reputable ladies will cease communication as soon as he starts mentioning (or even implying) sexual activity. If you can't glean what's generally available by reading reviews, you should probably find another prospect. Engaging in dialogue about illegal sex acts is a huge no-no. There are ladies out there who will discuss that stuff prior to meeting, but you could be incriminating yourself in a potential sting or setting yourself up to get robbed. LE and scam artists will say whatever they think you want to hear just to get you in the door.  

Your "yuck" factor was due to "dirty wh*re" stigma.

Things might change. Hard for a hooker to figure out what it is you want when you don't even know, or a least can't seem to articulate it to her.

sees you in a less than stellar light.  

Id like to pm you later.

The very best "sensual experiences" require a certain amount of trust and comfort which may take a few appointments to fully develop. Sure, reviews can give you a baseline of expectations but it's hard to judge how well beyond that your experience will be before you meet. I've had encounters where I was totally psyched due to preappointment rapport, only to find no spark, and I've booked on a whim and have had my mind blown.  

I know what I want now. But it's not OK to discuss these things beforehand with a provider.
Either on the phone, text or email. So what? I just show up and spring it on her then? And she turns me down and then what? I'm out another few hundred dollars because I can't discuss any freaking details until I'm already there and committed?

Pm'ed you.

Instead of all of us talking in circles, just lay it out there and you'll get some specific advice, maybe even some recommendations on who to see. This is the forum where you can lay it out there and get blunt feedback.

What it is you want, then there might be a way to help you out.  It cannot be that weird, and we, meaning almost everyone on here, has heard it all. Have you tried the ISO board and put it out there to see if anyone can and will do what you want? Keep in mind, if it is something degrading or just plain gross I am not surprised most hookers will say no, BUT there will be at least one hooker willing to do almost anything.  

That "plain old sex" just will not cut it. Geez I hope he is not into anything dangerous. I am now worried for the hooker he sees..she may not have any idea what this guy is really like.  

Fine!
I'll tell!!!
There's a provider who posted in this thread. Tobi. Follow her link.
Under the Kink section. That's it. Mostly.

Yikes!
So harsh! Fyi, first lady has a straight up rotten smelling vagina.
Second was better, but not freshly showered, more like showered sometime that day. I wasn't making things up, i got paranoid cause these two weren't fresh.

You have me mistaken.
I should have just told everything at once, instead of doling out in bite sized pieces.

If you don't like it then I respectfully suggest you don't partake. And do the hookers a favor, you are making hookers out to be filthy and that is not getting you much sympathy from most of us. How do hookers know you are clean? That you did not just stick your dick up some chicks ass and not wash it.? For as many gross things you say about hookers,  hookers have a matching response about tricks.

Ok. I understand you. But in these particular cases.  They were not clean.
Straight up. I didn't say all of them. Just the very first two i was with.
I know rotten vag. Unfortunately .

You can ask about that stuff. There's a reason why many pro doms don't provide conventional sex. Even if you wanted to get shat on, there are plenty who will indulge you for the right price. No shame, maybe it's time to take your questions to the BDSM board here.

Haha. Yeah.  I'm new to this, so openly discussing what gets me off...is weird to me. But yeah, that's more or less what i want.  
I have a provider lined up to do just that. ..just deciding if I'm actually going to go through with it.  
I'd hate to blow $450 and get hit with another case of limp dick....