Privacy is certainly important. However, offering any more privacy to clients than we already do would coincide with risking our safety without additional benefits. You need to be able to trust that a provider has huge incentives to respect your privacy. If she were to compromise a client's privacy, best believe it would also compromise her privacy- and just as importantly- her own livelihood. Best believe it would be all over this board and/or reviews and no client would see her after that. But if we screen you, take precautions to delete your data, and it exists only in our minds, how can we offer any more privacy? Only by not knowing that information at all. And I don't know about you, but I don't feel it is reasonable or respectful to expect any woman to put herself in that position. We offer a lot to our clients, and put ourselves out there in so many ways. Do you really expect a woman would be willing to meet a strange man in a hotel room with the willingness to meet his physical sexual and emotional needs without at least knowing his real name and a bit of personal info? I see you are fishing for ideas as to how this might work, but when it boils down, no self-respecting provider would accept this scenario, and nor should she. The important thing is to be able to tie an individual with a name/identity. Without that, you are not accountable for your actions and there is no recourse to protect others. If you harm a provider, and she doesn't know who you are, you will be able to do it again to another. And because providers have been harmed and do take risks, there is no way that you should be exempt, this must be applied evenly to keep things safe and fun for everyone. Furthermore, I am not comfortable meeting with someone without knowing something about them, and screening allows me to feel comfortable enough to go into the situation at my best and take good care of my client. Meeting in a coffee shop says nothing- you still don't have any accountability. It is true as others have said that many people who steal, scam, or hurt others are able to deceive them due to charm or personality. We don't want to know that you look nice, or act nice, or talk a good talk. We want to know that you are willing to be honest and allow us to check you out. Meeting in person under a fake name does not allow us to see if you have a history of violence or law enforcement involvement, it does not say anything about the way you have behaved in the past or the way you will treat us on subsequent visits.. does that make sense? I get what you are saying, but there is no feasible way that we can accurately and safely go about our business and meet new clients with anything less. What you can do- ensure a provider has good reviews, pm her reviewers if you have specific questions, use YOUR intuition as to whether she is trustworthy and professional. Beyond that, you need to trust us and give us a little credit. What you cannot do- get around the screening requirements or expect that providers will make an exception for you. Plenty of men from all professions and all walks of life do see providers, and there is rarely any problem. You are not unique in that respect, but others here do have a lot to lose as well, that is a risk you either choose to take or don't. You can minimize risks by seeing professional ladies and keeping your own discretion as well, but you can never eliminate the risk; neither can we. Your decision to make, whether it is worth it to you. But other men here take the risk, however minimal, without complaint, and realize that this is what needs to happen to keep everyone safe. We providers do everything we can to protect you because believe it or not our own livelihoods and our own discretion also depend on that. But we don't like being asked to make exceptions or treated as though we do not understand and respect the importance of privacy for everyone involved.
) So if you want to see someone, and if you don't honk everyone off with your posts, talk with them about how you might make them comfortable with seeing you. There are many ways that a lady might screen you. Cooperate, get some references and enjoy the hobby. No sense in debating screening. And again, try to join date-check or one of the screening services.
