I have perfected a method that is nearly foolproof. Not only would I be able to help you find it this time, but I can actually teach you (sometimes through a series of lessons) so it doesn't become a chronic problem.
In our first meeting, we begin with an evaluation where we talk about how this terrible thing happened to you - what led up to it, how it has affected you, what you've done about it so far, how you are currently feeling about it, and what you'd like to accomplish in our first lesson. During that time, I will ask you to look into my smiling blue eyes, when I will be studying your eyes. This not only allows me to get a feeling for your lens, but also can tell me more about yourself that will allow me to connect more with your lens. I will then slowly, and with a natural transition, begin the process of finding the lens. As I will assume you have thoroughly searched through the sheets already, it's likely to be on your body someplace. We begin with me gently searching around your neck and ears. It's ok if you begin to feel a tingling sensation (it's perfectly normal). I will then slowly search each article of clothing you are wearing, gently removing each one we have determined does not contain the lens. Once we have completed the clothing search, I will ask you to lay face-down on the sheets and begin a thorough search of your body. Lenses will often stick to the body and can be very difficult to identify. As such, I will be using a very light touch of my fingers, lips, and tongue to 'feel' for your lens. Starting on the back of your neck/scalp area, I will slowly work my way down the entire back side of your body. This does not feel like a 'tongue bath', but rather like a soft feather dancing across your skin ever so slightly. You may feel some additional tingling sensations at this time - this is actually good as it helps to 'polarize' the lens and make it stand up a bit. Once I have thoroughly examined your ankles (including that inner part of the side of the ankle - the soft part between the tendon and bone - sometimes can be hiding something), I will ask you to turn over. Beginning on the front side of your toes, I will work my way ever so slowly back up the front side of your body. Once I get back up to your neck area, I will re-inspect your neck and ear area just in case.
If I have still not found your lens, I will slowly work my way back down to your pelvis area to begin a deeper exploration. Often times, this is where I discover your lens. At this point, your lens will likely no longer be hiding, but rather be on it's edge from the excitement (sort of like a game of hide and seek when the seeker gets so close to the person hiding!). You may think we're done at this point, but it is actually the most critical part of the examination. I will every so gently begin a dialog between me and your lens, trying to coax it to give itself up, listening to it intently. I find some light teasing usually gets the lens to be a bit more visible, and some light stroking with my tongue usually allows the lens to completely submit to our finding. Some women prefer I gently use a finger to find it's way behind the lens to provide a little additional pressure from the inside, but that's not always necessary. During this period, you may feel a slight warming sensation throughout our body, and perhaps even some slight convulsions - this is ok as well as it sometimes helps the lens to relax a bit. You will be amazed at the excitement you feel once we have found the lens! By the way, although this last place I look is often the place we find the lens, I have found if we look there first, the lens does not always cooperate. And besides, we would miss so much of the fun from the journey (I always believe it's the journey and not the destination).
After a bit of celebration and rest, we will play a little game. Even though it feels like a game (and as much fun as the most fun of games), it's actually part of the process. I will pretend to hide the lens someplace on my body, and ask you to find it. There will be no to very little instruction given on my part at this time - its really to see how well you do on your own. My best patients are those that approach this part with great excitement and confidence. You must be careful not to find it too fast, as the slower you go the more you will learn.
Once you have found the lens to my satisfaction, and after some more celebration, we will rest for a bit. At that time we will again look back into each others eyes to admire how the lens and the eyes are so connected. We could also talk about other topics, or even review the session, or talk about the next session.
We can start this week if you'd like.
