When I saw my regular provider about a month ago she said she got a new car. I asked her how much she paid for it? she said believe it or not one of her clients bought it for her. He is 46 and married. She is 32. I saw her two more times no problems. We had great chemistry. Last time I saw her we talked for about 35 minutes then someone called her and she was on the phone for 15 minutes. I had put the money on the table in the living room, she said she is so sorry but she cannot see me tonight something has come up. I said no problems .When I got up to leave she said please take your money. I said its okay but she really insisted and gave the money.  Five days later I called her and she said she is leaving the business maybe permanently. She said because she is in a relationship and she said the guy bought her a car, leased her a house, gave her his credit card, and so on.... so I guess he is her sugar daddy.

I was wondering how are these relationships like, how long do they usually last??
Are guys usually very possesive?? I think they are!
He must have liked her a great deal to do something like that for her.

I was wondering if any of the guys or providers have ever been in a relationship like that or if they have had friends who were in that kind of relationship. How was it like? Are these kind of relationships common?

I bought her a nice gift for mothers day and told her I can leave it with someone she knows maybe one of her friends so that she can pick it up whenever she has time if she is too busy or cant meet somewhere, she said she cannot talk right now and never called me back.

I became a sugar daddy to someone I saw regularly.  I was not anywhere near as generous as this fellow, but I was good to her - for 3 years.  We had a blast.  It's a long story, but at the end, she took the credit card I gave her and ran up $5K worth.  Was it worth it?  You be the judge - but NEVER again.
My guess is that this guy has walked into something he will eventually regret, but I wish him luck.  He's in deep already.

You know the old saying, "A fool and his money". It's all Mathematics, if I'm making 5 mill a year I find my favorite Ho and put her on call 24/7.

He'll wake up and look in the mirror one fine day and cuss himself for "getting ripped off by that bad scheming woman" after he constructed the worlds biggest bear trap and dove headfirst into it. He was the victim and he's got the receipts to prove it, poor boy, after she played up to his big ol' teddy bear man heart and left him sucking his dick in the gutter.

The real victim is his wife.  Although you never know, they may have fallen in love - Anyway, as the last discussant remarked, ``a fool and his money''.  At least the wife will get half.  I don't feel sorry for the guy though, he should have just kept fuckin the girl instead of fucking himself (and his family).  

Well, if it wasn't the provider it would have been some other gold digger (not saying all provider's are gold diggers - but obviously this one is only concerned with $$$$$$.  Who else would accept such extravagant ``gifts'').

To address the original question - How long does a relationship like this last ?  As long as he has $$$$ and that's all she cares about.

My 2 cents.

Seven-That was kind of out there, but I think I see your point. I really don't know what their situation is, but I know of a girl or two that ended up homeless after thinking they hit the jackpot. Look at it this way if he "leased" her a house, and most likely "leased" the car too, he can take it all back at any time. It sounds like he's well off. If he's a weekly hobbyist he may of spent $1200+ a month. A car lease and rent is a bargain cause he can get laid anytime he wants. He's probably getting his monies worth. But this kind of arrangement usually doesn't last long. There's something to be said for being self-sufficient.

One day he is going to tell her to pack her bags, the party is over. If he is paying her a big monthly super $$$$ she is probably making a BIG mistake. I think he knows what he is doing!
She didnt take your money thats strange. She didnt call bak for the gist. Maybe she is just playing games. Dont call her I think she will call you back when she doesnt hear from you!

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you sound like a nice guy. all i can say is it's best never to establish that close a relationship. it has no foundation,,,,it is based on a lie.

as for her sugar daddy. if he has a good home, then he's a dumbass....and she will come out ahead unless she is investing of her self and emotions,,,,because she WILL be dumped.

It's apparently pretty common, although maybe not to the degree which you describe.  I, myself, am seeing several providers socially, but I'm not leasing any cars.  I'll spring for an occasional dinner at The View, and maybe a Broadway show, or an evening at Caroline's.  But a house?  I'm afraid not.

but you're right.. nobody knows what form the realtionship will take. The basic deal of life is that you can buy only so much loyalty, so much affection, and definitely not too much gratitude. This goes both ways for men and women. People have a constitutional aversion to gratitude because they hate to feel weak and dependent. Real things betweeen people just don't happen that fast or when a relationship is that one sided. I'm still working things out with a girl I met as an escort and that was two years ago and we're only beginning to get the communication flow. In reality when you get the easy groove between two people it's one of the best things in life but there's no cutting corners, you have to learn to accept a lot of stuff, decode what the other person is really trying to tell you, read their moods, like, ummmmm, reality. You cannot have a magic merger consummated over a pile of consumer goods. If its a clean business deal then you should treat it like one and draw up the terms. In any aspect of life you can't mix business and personal like that and expect it to work out like a tightly crafted made for television life experience. You will get you heart broken or your ass kicked.

I knew of someone with a similar experience , although she was a Dancer at one of the Top clubs in NYC. He was a 36 yr old guy with his own constuction buisness and a wife with 2 little kids.
He was doing very well when he got involved with the dancer , he was infatuated with her and Bought her a condo , a Sports car and her own credit card. He overextended himself and started to dip into funds from the Buisness and you guessed it, IRS Problems
Vendor problems and was having trouble with payroll.
He had to declare Bankrupcy , lost his buisness and of course the Dancer Left. Oh and his wife divoreced him also.
For a year of pleasure he  now has a life time of regret.

I know many women who had a mission from the Get Go to marry a man with wealth ( and vice versus by the way). The marriage of course sucked, but hey, she got what she wanted and he has a cute little trophy wife LOL!!! Please... if this guy wants to do that and he has the means to do it, what is it to us??? Rent the movie " Nuts" with Barbara Streisand. She puts alot into perspective especially with her monologue that has to do with Wives crawling through a pile of Sh*t for a mink coat. So accurate...