If all the providers started talking about them.

I saw a girl on BP recently for a bodyrub, and her ad linked to her real pics on her modeling website via Google Images.  I called her and told her immediately that her pics linked to her site, and she took them down.

You have to ALWAYS respect privacy.  Even for my worst enemies, I would never wish that upon them.  That is just plain uncool.

You should inform your lady fried to report him to the various 'blacklist' sites that providers us

When checking their references. He will in turn be outed for his BS behavior and have a very difficult time in the future booking with a solid, legitimate provider. In addition she should go on the providers only sites and post about him. What a loser.

suggested others go check her out in person before booking her. The post was up for a day before being pulled. This is one reason I miss the mods. It's impossible for us to police every post and there are some indiscreet posters here.

I know of another situation. Someone backchanneled the restaurant a provider worked at. She started getting stalked and one guy even high speed chased her to try to follow her home. And you wonder why some ladies have to go UTR or change their names. It's not that they have real life drama, it's drama from some of the men here.

My advice: tell your friend to go UTR before it's too late and her info is outed online or reinvent herself with a new name. Eventually she will be forgotten under the old name and those trying to out her will soon forget her...out of sight...out of mind.

Some people are assholes. we take risks in this business. For those that have regular jobs or have done something notable, there will always be people out there that want to burn you. It's sad I know, but this is the world we live in. That is why tabloids and celebrity magazines exist.

If we don't put it in our site and in our ads, it shouldn't be discussed. Just think of a seemingly innocuous detail about yourself - or a group of details - like that you play golf, have a boat, and hate chocolate - so harmless and unidentifying in themselves, yet so very telling to a friend, family member, or SO, who might happen upon those words. Men should be more careful about the details they share through reviews and via PM.

Sometimes I just cannot believe that those little things I felt safe telling a nice client - for example, that I am from XXX area and that I am a XXX enthusiast - made it into my reviews. I can't believe sometimes how much new clients already know about me from PM's.

THINK before you click submit, "How would I feel if this were shared about me on TER? Is this tiny fact really necessary to publicize?" Also, what you share through PM's - treat it as if it were published on the boards, because it seems to become public knowledge.

The men who do this would go NUTS if I wrote on the boards, for example: "Well, this one client who is really high up in Goldman and has a house in Greenwich Conn. invited me to go on his Catalina sailboat." (Disclaimer: completely fake).

Thank you again for posting. Thank you for being sensitive and considerate to the ladies you have seen. Thank you for caring enough to post. There should be many more like you.  This topic is near and dear to my heart for personal reasons.