... especially ETOH related:
this is a little delicate; one way of choosing is to check out a provider's wish list (i have been introduced to some darn good stuff from there)
bringing wine as a gift may not be a problem in and of itself.
however, would u want her to open the wine and share it right there?
i guess so.
well, now ...
it depends on how LONG the date is for. ('date' is used here because wine, flowers, etc can give an appointment that color, i think)
it MAYBE ok if the date is a few hours long - not to get WASTED, but for her to drink a little, get buzzed a little and then get back to her usual state of being, especially if there is another appointment following yours - (that could turn out to be a 'date' too?)
it MAY NOT be ok if the date is an hour or 30 mins long. (i dont do many of those, so i cannot really comment) i would imagine though that flowers or books or any other thoughtful gift would be more appropriate. if wine HAS to be given, it MAY NOT be fair to share right there, for her or for the client following you. it would be rather unpleasant to open the door to find her breathing chardonnay fumes on YOU now, huh?

so, would i bring wine? it really depends on the kind of appointment and (if i have established a rapport via prior contact with her) what HER wishes are.

sorry to hear about your faux pas
as they say ... this too shall pass
lol ...
let me say that i learnt from your experience too!

thanks for sharing and i hope things get back on an even keel soon!

hobby on

sorry to hear about it, smelly.

For while, I was bringing wine or vodka, esp for the Eastern Euro ladies, probably to loosen myself up more than them.
Less than a drink was fine, but more than that and the experience was a waste for me.

Hi Smelly,
While it is a very sweet gesture.  I prefer that the gents coming to see me don't bring wine etc, unless the apt is two hours or more.  I am a little person lol so getting smashed would consist of 2 glasses of wine.  I don't drink hard liquor on apts period.

For hour apts, bottled water is usually greeted by a big hug.  Sometimes there isn't a drugstore nearby and paying $4.00 for a liter of water is just crazy.

I agree, it does loosen everyone up, but if you never know if the girl has a problem that she or the agency isn't sharing with the world.  I once toured with a prov that was  recovering.  Had known her for years, never saw her drink just assumed that she didn't.  Client brings her wine as a gesture and gets upset when she doesn't want to drink it there.  Bottom line is she didn't want anyone to know and ticked off and lost a client for appearing unappreciative.  Asking is usually the best way to go.  Some of us appreciate the fact that you were thinking about bringing us a little something.  I know I do.
My 2 cents,
Missy  

Re:Bringing libations (wine etc.) to appointments? How many guys routinely.......

This is my personal opinion but bringing libations to an appt is a way to get a provider off her game maybe to gain a little extra time or other things a provider normally wont do. And if you were asked by this madam not to bring wine to the session and you did then you were wrong and should be banned.

When I get to know her better, I'll ask her what she may want as a gift.

Sometimes I'll bring two candles if I know the hotel won't frown on it.

I do not for my life understand this post- why are private issues become public matters. If the provider says no libations then it is no libations or don't see her. Lets have sme respect ! More importantly why poll us on a personal matter. i don;t care if 95% say bring libations if the one I am going to see says no I either say no to her or respect her wishes.

I am not much of a drinker, but I don't mind having a glass or two if the gentleman has inquired about it in advance (and I can make sure I am not drinking on an empty stomach). Last thing I want to do is get loaded up in the middle of the day, especially if I have another appointment afterwards.

You should also keep in mind there could be any number of reasons why a provider does not want to drink during a session... she could be on meds that don't mix with alcohol, she could be in recovery from alcoholism, or she may simply not feel comfortable doing anything to let her guard down with a first-time client.

Even tho I lived in California for several years, I never became enamoured of wine. I have always been a martini kinda girl.

~Alix