I am not sure, but sometimes I think silence is golden. Many ladies will see I don't post anything after a session because if it will hurt them, and they seem nice, I don't want to be the one to ruin them. I could have caught them on a bad day. The chemistry could have been off, who knows?
I have had women contact me after a session to ask why no review, and I usually tell them the truth. That something was not right and although I liked them as people, I didn't want to publicly embarrass them. I think its a matter of respect, some of my hobbyist friends think its BS and I should be posting those less then great reviews. What does the survey say?
I want to be very clear, I will not post BS reviews either. If someone is great I say so, if someone is dangerous I would have no qualms about sharing that info (drug use, bad incall, bad service, B and S etc), but if something is off a little I try to be a gentleman and say nothing. Being mostly a one hit wonder I only repeat with one or two people so a second chance is usually not going to happen.
I think it is a responsibility as a hobbiest to post both good and bad reviews. Granted no provider can be on at all times, hence the moniker YMMV. But this board is here for us as hobbiests more than for providers. Rates are generally through the roof, and it is nice to get a heads up whether or not it is worth spending the money we work hard for. If a bad review happens to be just a "one off" then we can typically tell by how her other reviews trend. You also have to remember that the ladies may spend quite a deal of time working, and a review from a few years ago may not be as valid today. If you choose to not to post, that is your perogative, but I feel it defeats the purpose of TER.
With Great Sex comes great responsibility.
Well put.
Posted By: imaginess
I think it is a responsibility as a hobbiest to post both good and bad reviews. Granted no provider can be on at all times, hence the moniker YMMV. But this board is here for us as hobbiests more than for providers. Rates are generally through the roof, and it is nice to get a heads up whether or not it is worth spending the money we work hard for. If a bad review happens to be just a "one off" then we can typically tell by how her other reviews trend. You also have to remember that the ladies may spend quite a deal of time working, and a review from a few years ago may not be as valid today. If you choose to not to post, that is your perogative, but I feel it defeats the purpose of TER.
With Great Sex comes great responsibility.
When a reviewer only tends to post good reviews, he may or maynot come across as a shill. This hold true especially when all of the reviews tend to be stellar. I want to make it clear that I am not calling or accusing you of being a shill. It appears that you have only been reviewing for a little over a year. When I first started posting reviews I completely over used 10's/Once in a Life time. If every other session you have is once in a lifetime it sort of belittles the point. Once I realized I was doing this I adjusted my point scale. Just something to consider.
with great sex comes great responsibility
Do you write your reviews to help your fellow hobbyists, or do you write them for your providers?
All reviews, good, bad or indifferent are worth something as long as they are honest.
Just to clarify something to you. A single bad or mediocre review will probably not ruin a provider.
What if another reviewer decided not to write the less-than-stellar review for the same reason(s)? You read all the "nice" reviews of a particular lady, got all stoked up, had a decent time ("...caught them on a bad day"), so on and so forth. Maybe your mediocre session could have been avoided, maybe not. The industry won't improve without proper and honest feedback. We all have varying tastes, so what you consider to be the ideal session could be the polar opposite to another hobbyist. That is why certain websites, like Amazon, are popular portals for reviews. I usually check Amazon during my trips to the local Best Buy, just so I can get a feel for a product before buying it. A date should be looked at in the same manner. If all I saw were high-praising reviews, I'm going to expect that in my purchase. Just like in the hobby, I read reviews, talk with guys who've seen a certain provider I am interested in, then hit it. If I find that she wasn't my type or wasn't up to my expectation, I usually relay that info for others to consider.
Gents, believe it or not and in the words of Madonna "publicity, good or bad, is still publicity". Although if a provider has a string of good reviews and you are posting something to the contrary you should say that something was off. it is my experience that if she has a string of good reviews and you post a bad one it usually generates a lot of "WTF'S" from the rest of us and we scurry off to see for ourselves. Now if you see that someone you failed to write a review for resurface (went underground cause she was not a good provider) you owe it to the rest of us to tell us the truth. Really these woman are only with us for the money. Doesn't it make sense that they give it their all when that is what is on the line? If they don't want to be in the business we should not patronize them. A bad review can be good or bad for a provider. For a good provider it helps just as much as a good one and for those that don't deserve our patronage it warns the rest of us to stay away. thank you.
Yes you do have a point. The provider should not take appointment on the day she feels she is off of center. But I also understood his reluctance.
I myself read every review prior to setting up an appt. I delete the bad and the very good if they are not the norm. A lady will have many reviews so you be the judge.
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Responsibility?? What?
Its your business, your choice to write a review. You dont owe anybody a thing IMO. Its your life, time, and money. Specially when it you just think she had an off day or she was just not your cup of tea. In this business YMMV is a risk you have to take.
90% of the gents I see dont review. I see them cause more trouble and that's why they dont. Too much info. Stuff gets leaked on these boards all the time. They get sh@t cause they didn't write enough, or they think its fake, etc. Id rather not have tons and tons of reviews.. the few to prove Im real and that's all I need.
However I do think its a responsibility to alert, scamming, bait & switch, bad in-call, etc. Things of a safety nature.
Its a Choice not a responsibility. You are not required to write reviews to be a part of this board. You dont owe anyone a thing here or her. And no offense but some of you put way too much business out there... not everyone wants all to know all.. too much business out there on boards like this causes drama and you all know it.
Also you all know people get jealous.. I know gents that don't review because they get crap from jealous ladies..
And a provider should respect a gent if he chooses not to write one. 
You are right, it is the clients perogative whether to write a reveiw. However the more accurate reviews that are posted, the more effective the board becomes. The initial posters total list of reviews make it look like he has never had a bad session, which is statistically impossible. There are others that tend to only post average to mediocre reviews, keeping the good ones to themselves, and that is wrong too.
I view review boards primarily as a resource for the clients and not for the providers. Reviews are subjective, but taken in total we can use that information objectively. If someone posts that he had an average time with one lady, I like to look through his reviews to see who he thought was better in session. He may have only given a lady a 7 in looks, but you might find in looking through his reviews that she wasnt his general type in the first place.
The reviews can serve a purpose for providers as well. Negative reviews do not need to be nasty or hateful. A novice provider can use them as constructive feed back to find out what she can do better in a session. If client A gave her only a 7 for performance, then if he has given higer in the past, what was different in that session.
I know what you ladies are offering is a precious thing. But with the rate explosion over the last few years we want to make sure we are getting our money's worth. I am sure there are very few Client #'9, Tiger Woods or Charlie Sheen's no this board.
I like you for the most part only write reviews if the gals are very good. Indo not write a review if the provider has an off day, we all have those and you can tell. I also don't write reviews of
Ever gal I see good or bad else I'll be typing all day.
I recently became attive on the boards again after a long time away.
I am interested to see what you guys think.
The problem with having a board personality is that the reviews lose their anonymity.
Guys like to write good reviews hoping the girl will look favorably upon them for it, and maybe give them discounts or something in the future.
Because of that, as a general rule, when I read a review I subtract 2 points from appearance (escort 9 - civilian 7) and add 5 years to the age. Not in all cases, but often that lowers the surprise when I meet someone.
Also, many of us know that in general life you compliment in public and you criticize in private, so that also makes it hard to write a negative review.
I never want to hurt someone's business. So, my own personal guideline's are...
1. I don't review that often anyway. Who needs another "me too". I save my reviews for people who need em.
2. I don't give better reviews than deserved. If the chemistry was off, I probably won't do a review at all.
3. I will do a review (even a bad one) if my experience was drastically different from what was expected, and lack of chemistry was not the cause.
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As long as your reviews are fair, they will only help others to make a more informed choice. While I personally wouldn't be happy about receiving a mediocre review, it's just part of the business.
If xxxxx reviewer said that he was disappointed that I didn't offer a ____________ kind of experience, then it can actually help me: first, by allowing me to address any inadequacies in my service, if that's the issue; and second, by letting other men who seek a ___________ experience know that I am not their type of girl. With that said, I am sure that, were it to happen to me tomorrow, I would not be so stoical (at first)...but again, that's part of the business.
I have a comment about your reasoning. Speaking for myself, most of my loyal repeat clients are reviewers. However, the majority of them did not choose to review ME. Just as interesting is the fact that the majority of my reviewers...who mostly had great things to say...did not choose to repeat (only two out of about 20 are repeat clients). However, I have seen some of the men who didn't review over and over again since I went independent. Two of them have even invited me to travel with them on extended dates. So my experience is opposite of yours: the clients who enjoy my company the most have not reviewed, but obviously, it's not because they didn't have a good time with me. So why is it? I'm not really sure. Well, I never request reviews, and I rarely discuss TER, even if I know a client's handle. So maybe they assume that I prefer to remain low-key. Or, maybe they want to keep me to themselves Just making the point that there are a lot of reasons that people choose to review...or not to review...so please don't apply that assumption across the board.
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It's always in the best interests of both the hobbyist AND the lady to have honest, accurate, current reviews. It gives both of them an idea of what the other is like and may be looking for. A hobbyist can read the review and determine if the lady is the type of lady he is interested in and offers the services he looks for, just like a provider can read her reviews (and other reviews by the hobbyist) to see if improvements can be made to what she is doing, and also see if the hobbyist is the type of gentleman she is interested in seeing also. Many times you'll hear someone say they had a poor experience w/ someone because they were expecting something different. Good reviews can help with that (it won't completely eliminate it, but can reduce it's possibilities of happening to you).
Also, just because you had a less than spectacular session doesn't necessarily mean it's a "bad" review. Write and submit the review, being open with what you liked and what you didn't like, don't "bash" the provider, be honest but polite, and you're done. Truth is one or two below average reviews is just par for the course and to an experienced hobbyist usually makes little to no difference in his decision to see the lady or not.
I, like you, am not one to repeat often but that's more often due to me wanting to spice up the variety with so many ladies out there. So when I find a lady I'm interested in seeing I like to get my $$'s worth, and reviews can help me do that.
since we are on the subject !! Sometimes I read reviews and based on those reviews I see the provider. When I get to the room. I'm like really is this the girl in the reviews. I know we don't want to slam a provider and I guess we all have different tastes. Bit sometimes I feel a lot of reviews seem to be written for the provider and not the hobbyist. I for one always try to be fair and honest in my reviews and hope we all do the same. otherwise what's the sense in these forums !!
