For me it literally ruins sex (civilian or provider) when a woman goes into a ridiculous contrived vocal performance, but based on reviews here at TER it seems that some guys both expect it and believe the show. I like something a bit more subtle. A little sucking on the teeth and the occasional "hmmm" or under the breath grunt at the right moment is more my preference. If a girl goes nuts it becomes comical and my mind turns to the ridiculousness of the show instead of the sex.

J

When we're in the groove and the moaning and groaning gets louder, the dirty talk gets cranked up higher, I'm hoping  that a cue that I'm doing something right.

I've been with some gals that have offered up soft and sweet cooing, some gals have let out primal screams, some let out gutteral moans and still others get so wrapped up that they end up speaking in tongues, speaking intelligible words and phrases. In that case I'm guessing and hoping that I'm helping her get to a place of being totally lost and immersed in the moment. I can never know for sure, but if my lusty partner of the moment is in that zone, I hope she's enjoying herself that much. It's wonderful to provide pleasure as much as it's a thrill to get pleasure.

Suzanne, all I can say to you is, I remember way way back when we met, you were very sweet. I appreciated how invested you were in the time we spent together.

nycad

Ooohh's and aahh's are fine either way, as long as it doesnt turn into a snl episode im fine with it. But, dirty/filthy talk is def a turn on, especially if the female initiates it and means it, def gets my blood flowing

as long as it seems genuine or at least not over-dramatized. If it's over-done and feels acted out then it doesn't do anything for me. But if it's real or at least feels/sounds real then for me personally it's a huge turn on.

Suzanne's question re oohs and aahs

It goes both ways: We love a real lady; but when she oohs and ahhs well and becomes trashy and sleazy, then we are happy. Nothing better than a lady becoming a sleazy, trashy slut. And I once had one: "put it in; do it to me; this is good fucking; shoot; give me your juice". Who said it was a gorgeous lady, 38 years, with a PhD; and she was a Muslim!