I can already imagine some of the feedback I'm going to get, but I'd love to hear from those members who have experiences on this topic.  I guess I'm just looking for affirmation...

I've been hobbying for many years.  I began before I even met my wife, stopped for awhile but then continued again after a couple of years of marriage.  All things considered, the home life continues to be quite good as I've managed to keep my hobby life and personal life completely seperate.  Despite the fact that I have managed some more personal friendships with a couple of the woman that I've met over the years and and we are still friends and in contact to this day.

I think my desire to started hobbying in my mid twenties bore out of a lack of confidence and poor self esteem (for reasons I wont get into here).  At the time I just never felt "desireable" enough to approach a woman cold.  In many ways I still dont.

I'm just shy of 40 now and I've noticed something unusual happen in the last 2-3 years.  Women are beginning to gravitate toward me.  In general, some of the women I work with are approaching me more.  I was unaware of it at first until some friends started to point out that a number of the newer and younger women at the office seem to have crushes on me.  I dismissed it at first but it has become clear to me that for whatever reason, I have an appeal I didn't have before.  Maybe because I'm more established in my field and at work I tend to exhude more confidence than I ever did at home.

So, I thought it this was just amusing initially and continued to hobby here and there to sate any impulses I might have but there is one woman who seems to really be "into me".  She's in her mid to late twenties, working with us in another department for about three years.  Through her efforts to "get to know me" we've actually become friends and while I always thought she was very attractive I've sort of become "into her" too.

Our conversations have become more personal and even though she knows I'm married and I know she has a serious boyfriend of many years, that hasn't stopped the flirting.  We've begun spending time together outside of the office.  Harmless stuff like lunch, coffee, choosing to accompany one another on work related errands outside of the office, etc.  

Now... NOTHING has happened, not even a casual brush of our hands together as I've tried to stay disciplined and avoid such things, but my resolve is weakening.  It feels like all I have to do is let it and something IS going to happen between us.  

I know, I KNOW it's a bad idea.  We both have so much to lose, albeit I have more to lose than she does.

Does anyone have any good office romance stories and how did they end?  Mutual parting, train wreck, still going on...

I'd love to hear from my fellow brethren on this.

I also banged 2 co-workers 20 years younger than me after happy hour.  Fuck the HR departments. I bang who I want to bang.

Fuck her!  Don't be a pussy!

starts making phone calls to your wife.  Use your big head on this one.

Well , since you asked [lol]...I have three comments to your post.

[1] You are going to do it. You revel in the reality this is happening to you and you want to share the news. Not being critical...the board is a good outlet for that need.  You may or may not receive affirmation....probably should expect a mixed response.

[2] You might have a wife and you might have an office mistress....but I suspect it will just be a matter of time before you begin to miss your hobby honeys.

[3] Affairs rarely turn out well. I have been and indeed am in the same place you are [ albeit a little older...advanced].  I have avoided affairs....never had one. I know it is but a male rationalzation and if caught with a Provider my wife is not going to accept this...but that has been one boundary I have not crossed.
Hobby...oh hell yes....develop affectionate relationships with ladies of the ancient and honorable profession...you bet!  But an emotional attachment and responsibilities [ yes , along with an affair comes certain responsibilities and expectations]  of an affair.....  No.

I enjoy a long and joyful marriage. I attribute some of that fortune to the marvelous ladies I have met through the years via the hobby.   Seriously doubt if I would have survived an affair or two.

Of course, this is my roadmap.  But think this through my friend.

I've done it. Last one, some 15-16 years ago. Lady was older, and married with two teenage sons while I was single, mid to late twenties. She hated her husband at the time. Control freak. Mean to her sons. Just a dick. I didn't mind sending her home with my cum on her breath in the slightest bit.

We used to fuck around AT work. She'd steal condoms from her son's rooms and bring them to work for our 'meets'. She was in the office, and I was in the warehouse. I'd feel horny, call her extension, and tell her to meet me in a bathroom. By the time I got there she was already nekkid. No room to do much, so she'd sit on the pot and suck my dick to get it nice and hard. I'd then sit and she'd climb onboard.

HUGE tits I liked to play with while she's riding. Funny shit, sometimes she'd just give me head and after I'd splash down her throat, she told me she didn't even let her husband do that, lol.

Went on for a while. A few months, I guess. Then I got a GF, which normally isn't a bad thing but that one I wish someone cracked my head open cuz, well, that's another story.

Anyway, the lady left to go work somewhere else and so did I. Ran into her a few years ago at a grocery store in the checkout line. She was all smiles and after we paid for our shit, stepped over and talked for awhile. Seems one of her sons was killed in an accident, and if I remember right, lost a grandchild also. I asked how it was going with her husband and she said he did a total 180 degree turn after her losses. Was kind to her and supported her and finally treated her the way he always should've.

I was happy for her!

Lmao! This was in NM you gotta understand, not NY, but yeah, one of those times I wasn't very thorough in getting rid of the 'evidence'. So, a guy went and used the bathroom after and saw the wrapper in the trash and said 'You dick.'  

Slightly different, but there's this lady that used to provide here in NM, then moved to NY.

Fucking gorgeous as fuck! International model. Entrepenuer. Living legend here on TER.

Yeah, I know. Fuck you. How does this pertain to the workplace. Well, I'm gonna tellya!....

This lady and I were extremely close. Saw her more than any other lady. Used to talk and text and one day had the bright idea of inviting her to come and meet me while I was at work. She was all for it! Wanted to do something crazy and I balked. I fucked up.

Every time we met is a distinct memory. Whether it was at her incall in ABQ, or when we got together with friends in LV, which is the last time I saw her smile a little over a year ago.

You gotta understand. Unless your heart is just some cold void that resides in your chest, there's people that make an impression on you. Sometimes more than that.

I miss that lady more than she knows or has any idea why.

She is in her 20's, very cool. I don't think you will get many situations like this being Married, so you might want to take advantage. If you can cheat with $$$ TER girls then why not cheat with free civie girls. Just make sure it's no strings or she might just ruin you.

From her perspective, she will be expecting more than a one night stand, or something casual.  She may have a steady BF, but it is apparent that she is still looking.  Unless you're willing to risk your marriage, and cultivate much drama, you should think twice before taking things to next level.  Better to just hobby...

About 10 years ago started flirting heavily with one of the women I worked with. I was just recently married at the time, not that that ever stops me anyway..

So we start fooling around finally--she was HOT blonde a little plump but just the way I like them. I mean raw nast sex everywhere and anywhere--warehouse--office--cars--conference room...went on for years then when she discovered I was also banging someone else--there was all sorts of mail that would wind up at my house--phone calls etc etc etc....almost actually got divorced over it

I will NEVER fuck around with someone I work with ever again--scared the shit outta me..got real psycho on me....I figured that because we were both married it would be cool---not even close to cool....

in short, while this girl will make you feel like a stud and you will probably feel you have both met your soul mate.IT ALWAYS ENDS BAD.
1) you are officially cheating. no need to say more.
2) someone else in the office always knows and tells everyone else.
3) at some point one of you moves on and the other doesn't.

i have had at least 4 office romances and they were great but hobbying is better for YOU.
No matter how much you fall in love with,connect,get psycho over...if you don't pay she doesn't let you in and that my friend is your safety net.

Bet this all started at your office xmas party.

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I'm certainly no prude, but in situations like this I remember a few wise phrases from people I trusted.

"Don't shit where you eat".  A former boss who was an active hobbyist and is now in his late 70s and still married to the same woman for 40 something years.  His attitude was that he knew that he was eventually going to wind down in his tomcatting and when that happened he wanted his marriage intact.  Words that mean so much more to me as I get older.

"You don't pay a hooker to sleep with you, you pay them to leave."  A friend and creator/executive producer of some Pretty Big TV Shows.

Bottom line is that without that professional line, it could be disastrous.  I had a close call about 15 years ago with the exact same situation you describe and I found out before it got too involved that she was a Nightmare From Hell...got her claws into another guys at the office because I took too long to respond and yes, it was rabbit in the boiling water time.

For what it's worth, steer clear and find some 20-something provider who resembles her.  Worked for me.  Still does, in fact