Can any one recommend some highly rated provides (in or out) easily accessible to Southwestern Connecticut (i.e., not NYC)?

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I have and I did.  Nothing remotely appealing.

I have to agree with you. I usually go into MA to see some of the Boston sweethearts that travel out to the burbs.

Something I have noticed about the women in NYC is that they don't like to travel, not even into Westchester without asking for an outrageous fee.

How about Everlia?