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Re: The study didn't focus on actual love much..
juanin7billion 10 Reviews 290 reads
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I just read the entire report and Anna you are correct. Love is more of a “dog whisper” within the text, but I still stand by my earlier hypothesis that there are some very deluded men out there. The report cycles through explaining the range of emotions felt by hobbyists from atheistic non-believers to the fully faithful who believe that their provider loves them unconditionally. I guess I am somewhere in the middle, but skew strongly towards the atheists viewpoint. We are all humans and companionship in any form can be comforting, but I would bet that a true “authentic” intimate relationship is far from the norm in the provider/hobbyist world. The report left me feeling that this trend is much more prevalent. Obviously relationships develop over time, but I would say that a hobbyist has a less than 1% chance of ever giving their provider an orgasm let alone finding a viable partner in them. Ha!

I am surprised to see that the author seems to insinuate that this is a contemporary phenomenon. I am sure infatuation and relationships have been around from the beginning. The only difference is we now have message boards where we can express our range of feelings.

So Anna, when are you and I going to begin our whirlwind love affair?

If I am going to convert I can honestly say that your church of "Fairentology" has some very fine qualities.


J

johnsays11657 reads

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/04/men-paying-for-sex-may-also-looking-true-love-study_n_1854372.html

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laurensummerhill433 reads

I'm always amused by articles written from the outside looking in.  As in many other circumstances, they get a general idea, but can often miss on the details.

Men who want a "personal relationship" doesn't have to translate as love. They just want to feel like person, not a wallet moving through a rotating door.  Establishing familiarity and warmth can do that.  I too would prefer to create that sort of connection, as I too want to feel like  a person and not a blow up doll.

Mutual dignity isn't a fantasy... at least not for everyone involved.

As far as the "authentic love" story that the article mentions - of course it happens, but it's too taboo a subject and infuriates people. I know two instances where the couples have married and four where they have dated. No one was looking for it, or planned it, it just happened.

On the other hand, there are both men and women who use emotions to manipulate each other.   The spectrum exists from black to white, and every shade of gray; as it always does in human interactions.

Related Link: http://www.laurensummerhill.com

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AnnaFaire372 reads




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STPhomer351 reads

with both you and Lauren !

Wonder what would happen if we actually met...lol!!

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juanin7billion285 reads

It sounds as if the researcher found a bunch of deluded men. I might have a little crush on a provider, but that is a far cry from “love”.

To me love is unconditional not something that is dependent on the (quid pro quo) exchange of cash for sex. Are you kidding me?

Love is putting in the time and effort because you want to not because you are being paid.
Love is true unadulterated loyalty. Love is bailing you out of jail at 3am. Love is wiping your ass when you shit you pants at 80 years old. Love is caring infinitely more about someone else than you do about yourself.

Who comes to TER looking for Love?

To me a GFE is a provider suspending her inhibitions and in some cases her disgust long enough for me to blow two or three loads in every orifice available. That’s it.

J

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AnnaFaire312 reads


It focused more on the fact of a personal relationship is often something a man pays for ALONGside the act of sex or various sex acts.

The Huff Post obviously didn't print the entire study and I think the author of this thread is the only one that referred to it as 'buying love'. I think.

I know Christine Milrod, she absolutely understands the industry and also did a wonderful job as moderator of The Erotic Highway on this very website.  She has many clients and escorts as clients, I do believe the majority of men want more than to "blow two or three loads in every orifice available" and since I AM the one with the orifices I do speak for the masses with some professional qualification, haha ;)

The study should be relevant to industry workers and the wives whose husbands are seeing us. Men like kissing, are romantic and I think women ignore that. Kiss your man daily or he will go elsewhere!

Anna Faire xxx

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juanin7billion291 reads

I just read the entire report and Anna you are correct. Love is more of a “dog whisper” within the text, but I still stand by my earlier hypothesis that there are some very deluded men out there. The report cycles through explaining the range of emotions felt by hobbyists from atheistic non-believers to the fully faithful who believe that their provider loves them unconditionally. I guess I am somewhere in the middle, but skew strongly towards the atheists viewpoint. We are all humans and companionship in any form can be comforting, but I would bet that a true “authentic” intimate relationship is far from the norm in the provider/hobbyist world. The report left me feeling that this trend is much more prevalent. Obviously relationships develop over time, but I would say that a hobbyist has a less than 1% chance of ever giving their provider an orgasm let alone finding a viable partner in them. Ha!

I am surprised to see that the author seems to insinuate that this is a contemporary phenomenon. I am sure infatuation and relationships have been around from the beginning. The only difference is we now have message boards where we can express our range of feelings.

So Anna, when are you and I going to begin our whirlwind love affair?

If I am going to convert I can honestly say that your church of "Fairentology" has some very fine qualities.


J

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crazyshit356 reads

But to generalize and say that this is what guys are looking for isn't accurate.

On the other hand, if this is where you spend more of your time, then guess what?  Those are the girls you are gonna want to start relationships with.

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AnoukLove310 reads

Which is why I like this song so much...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhEPLCF-SHg

Just adding a bit of fun to it is all.

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