I'd like to get into BDSM.  However, the threat of being found out feels like a greater threat to me than with other providers since these are women who self-describe as sadists and so many advertise that they intend to, and will be effective in, getting clients to hand over their wealth.  I am not knocking findom, but given the nature of this sort of relationship, what protection does a client really have to make sure he is not outed for refusal to comply, ending the relationship or for any other reason?  Screening with a traditional provider may be uncomfortable but you know what you can expect.  Screening with a dominatrix that advertises findom (pretty much all do) feels like signing a death warrant.