I try to always treat women with respect. Even if we don't get along and something bad happens in the session, or after it, I try to just be an adult and resolve it. That doesn't mean that some hard words might be exchanged at times, but in the end, not everyone will get along with everyone else.
I've been doing this over 20 years, and in that time, I've seen a lot. I won't say I've seen everything, but if there's one thing I've found in life, it's that there are no absolutes.
Blake, you come off as a very caring, passionate, and intimate woman...one who will share everything with your partner if you feel that this is mutual. In fact, I think I remember reading something along those lines on your website.
Unfortunately, for some, this is not the way they approach seeing an escort. Some men view it as a transaction--I pay for you, you do this, and if you don't connect in the way that I deem to be appropriate or how I expect, I will show you that I am unhappy.
Life is full of disappointments, and inevitably, people will let you down. And in this profession or activity of ours, it's a very easy to give of yourself, expecting the same in return, and being let down. You would think that people would at least be honest, but that is just too tall an order for most people.
To answer some of your points that were addressed on this post, here are some thoughts below.
1. As a woman I have a question I think this board overall is to verify looks and safe first correct? Then because some women were taking money and running the reviews. Well now there a discussions which seem more like bashings, ok discussions.
Response: The whole purpose of TER is to allow the clients and providers to get information about one another from third parties before meeting, thus minimizing the risk that expectations will not be met. The discussion boards are a subset of TER, and they are in large part dominated by people who have outsized internet personalities, but are probably quite respectable in real life. It's amazing how giving someone an outlet and an audience will bring out the arrogance and worst in someone, but that's what many of the boards have done with regard to this profession and many other topics. The boards are a subset of the TER community. Many clients, by and large, don't post on the boards, and most are quite respectable, not referring to women as hookers, hos and whores.
2. Now I have only done this a little over a year and for a woman who is less than 6 months from 40, as a educated woman who fell into a difficult slump, as a woman who was once a wife a woman has never slept with many men cause of long relationships however never opposed had she been able, as a mother of a grown son most of all as a woman who respects others who is passionate respectful a good lover open minded enough to see that she could be open to a lifestyle most criticize and as a woman who most of all respects and loves herself... I have to say I am over this review site and unfortunately cause of a few bad apples.
Response: There will always be a few bad apples. That's true with life and with this board. You can't let that get to you, especially in NYC.
3. I am appalled that I hung on this long sorry when I have read most of what I read. Couple of things first you want to hold us accountable how about the same back, I was actually doing better ten times over before coming here, and I spent time with someone who I cut my gift drastically and that was ok cause I am flexible then what I know was the time of his life and the enjoyment he left with then to write what he did I let slide I did however refrain from viewing except for a couple from stand up stellar men who honestly I would be with regardless of a gift. And tonight cause of another questionable email and a mention of a review I read them and came across the last one that said he banged me in the ass
Response: Some reviewers just feel the need to tell everything and in every little detail. I'm not sure why, but some people are that way. This guy should have kept certain details to himself, but he didn't. That was a stupid move on this part, in my opinion, but that's not an opinion shared by all. Unfortunately for some on this board, the attitude is that TER clients should look out for one another, even going so far as to say that we OWE it to the other members to publish detailed and totally honest reviews. To that end, I say bullshit. I paid for the session. I paid for the TER membership. I don't see how I owe anyone anything. When I see a provider, that's between me and her. If it's great or shitty, I don't feel a need to blab about it. Not everyone shares the same viewpoint.
