If I'm feeling totally comfortable with the provider (after getting to know her over a period of time) then the little details of appearance are less important. At that time I'm in a comfort zone. For her sake, I hope she 'wants' to keep up her appearance, but the most important thing, at that time, is performance.

nycad

I would say performance

with the caveat that using TER's scale, she would rate, imo at a 6 or higher.

I would also tweak the word 'performance' to include 'genuine inter-activeness'.  After all, she could be the best 'performer', following a pre-defined 'script' but if she wasn't reading my cues, or presenting genuine ones to me, the performance becomes hollow.  I enjoy when a lady is open and erotically curious when first we meet. It engages that 80% of sex that is mental. When that happens, it can't help but be an awesome time well spent together!

Appearance is importance but if she is following a script or pattern that leads to a poor experience. But if the performance is fantastic you will see them again and again. Simply put do you return to a fancy restaurant with poor service and food or do you go the local place that when you walk in your beverage is there when you sit down and the food is fantastic.

But at the end of the day, it's performance that counts.  Note that when I say that, it means more than just great  juicy details.  Ease of contact and scheduling, plus the lady's interest/enthusiasm in meeting are also major factors in the performance category...

Its like good food. The appearance attracts you but the taste is what keeps you coming back for more. Obviously girls that look good will attract more men but those who perform well will keep them much longer.
~D

... which includes attitude.

Especially in your case, O Amazing One. Seriously, a woman's inner beauty and sexual confidence to have outstanding experience often leads to her being outwardly attractive enough to having a man interested in her sexually. I can say that a woman who does not take care of herself for her appearance loses my interest and from my experience is not interested in having great sex. This doesn't mean that a woman has to be beautiful however. A woman's inner beauty may be expressed with how much she enjoys giving and receiving sexual pleasure. In the final analysis performance always wins. But men often submit to appearance to get the performance, hoping it will be as good as what we are looking at.

You are aces and beyond in all things of what a great lady and woman is. Beyond any limit of a category. Thank you for being all that you are.

For me appearance = attitude and performance = the way a woman kisses.
I like/need both....connections usually develop if there are both...again maybe just for me.

Some guys are in this just to fuck.  They don't care about kissing or intimacy.  They just want to "get their dicks wet".  Guys like that could probably give you an answer.  Either they like to bang hotties, or they like crazy enthusiastic girls.

But, other guys do this because they (ok, we) enjoy the intimacy of a true GFE.  In that case, you can't separate the 2.  

If you aren't attracted to someone, then it doesn't matter how enthusiastically she does whatever she does.  You aren't going to want to kiss her or share the intimacy that you are looking for.

But if you are attracted to someone and she's completely cold and non-present then you aren't going to be happy either.

I'd rather be celibate than only fuck people who I didn't connect with.

Attitude! Attitude improves both appearance and performance. The most beautiful, sensual, athletic lady will be a disappointment with a bad attitude, and a delight with a good one!

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unless you are talking miles apart....if somewhat close....appearance meaning you have to like her style..

for me, i like the librarian look...to start...long dress...hair pulled back...dark glasses....almost a nerdy type of look.....thigh highs.....full bush or partial.....

But performance keeps you coming back!

I would never book with an unattractive provider.  At the same time I would never see a lady with weak reviews no matter how drop dead gorgeous she was.

If my answer is vague or flippy floppy just keep in mind......I am from DC.

While the title of my post is, I believe accurate it does not tell the entire truth. If a provider is quite good on performance well then that is a good thing. only problem is, if she's not overtly attractive in the first place how would anyone know she's a good provider? Get my point?

Appearance!

I would want to visit Chloe Carter bc she looks like a Playboy model.

I can find performance everywhere, but girls that look like Playboy models are rare.

APPEARANCE!

Of course Performance is the most important if there's only one choice to make. Fortunately, with you that's never a concern. You've got both!! But, you know darling, that we're not here doing this for Old Glory. So, Appearance has to be up to a level that's not a turn off. If it is, some of us wouldn't ever get to know if the Performance was satisfying.

Performance can be taught and learned, appearance and age are what they are.  Although some would argue that although appearance can't be taught, it can be bought.

Posted By: Chloe_Carter

I've always wanted to ask you hobbyists and gentlemen what is more important. Appearance? or Performance if you had to choose ONLY one.  I understand that BOTH would be the ideal choice but for this question I really am pretty curious what you guys have to say. Thanks for your feedback! And have a fabulous week ahead....
xoxoxoox
Chloe

Appearance or performance

Hi Chloe:

there has been a statistic on TER, about 7 months ago, showing: performance:45 %, appearance: 35%, attitude: 20%. I discussed this with the girl I was with at that night; and we BOTH voted for attitude!(even though she was the most beautiful escort in the US).

By the way, we talked at the 29 March M&G in Manhattan; you could have asked me there; and I would have explained in details.