I was just called a meanie by a visiting girl.

Nothing business wise, just my demeanor I guess. Lol.

by hiding behind an alias

Are you that much of a Mangina?

Maybe I use an alias because the provider has been communicating with my alias and so I would be outing myself otherwise.

I don't know if this qualifies as mean, but I have had sessions with providers who see people in different parts of the country, and they do say that in general, NY clients are a little more transactional. By that, they mean that NY clients want certain things or acts for their money and make sure they get them, sometimes in a "checklist" manner. For example, one friend of mine said that her NY clients tend to make sure they get certain services during the session like BBBJ, anal, positions, etc. They make sure they get their checklist of things and then leave. My friend admits it took some getting used to. She didn't say it was necessarily good or bad, just different and took some getting used to.

... and what exactly is wrong with wanting certain acts for the money as long as they are on her menu... and the part about leaving after all those acts... the only alternative I can see is to stay. Is that what she wants.

No matter where they come from, were raised and currently live. I grew up in DC, lived in Europe, lived in the Midwest and lived in Philadelphia PA. I have visited New York City and New Jersey and south of Virginia. I personally have noticed men to be of a certain way anywhere. Men are men, people are people and you have different personalities. I deal with men who are respectful and understanding of how things work and how to properly set up an appointment and then from there the magic happens.

I have not had NYC men say they want this for that or anything close to that nature. If a person doesn't travel a lot or get out and actually experience the city she is offering her services in, she might not get to see all the different cultures , tastes, sights or sounds. And it is true that people south think people north are meaner or tougher. Lol but I find that people in NY are very nice. Very friendly.

You remind me of GaGambler but I get the feeling you're younger. You seem to sound arrogant when you talk about having a porn star girlfriend, as though you're trying to say look at me I have a provider porn star girlfriend and I'm still fucking other girls.  

You don't sound nice, no, her assessment is probably right and you're probably proud of that assessment.

Well, on the valid points, her message, which I won't quote, seemed to generalize the negative qualities to all nyc clients. When I do my research, bc we do back channel, that particular lady had a bad experience recently in her nyc tour. So, her sentiment is understandable, at which point I simply suggested she get a tougher skin, I complimented her site and empathized with her bad time.

Now on to your ad hominem... I believe I shared about my SO in 1. A post about provider bf and 2. Making a point about quality of variety in nyc vs. seeing the same old hags over and over. So, it was somewhat topical. however, Am I proud that an average guy like me pulled a babe like that? Hell ya. Sorry that it raises the bar for girls like you.  

Am I mean? Yeah, the Don is tough. His alter ego is actually a sweet guy. Providers i see will know that as well. Someone like our recently departed LR understood that and the concept of the public persona.  

You, Cosette, are different. I don't know what you're marketing to here or frankly why youre here. I've read your reviews and your post that guys are unfair to you-the guy who bitched but nutted multiple times. Maybe youre looking for your Marius cum John. Maybe you're looking for a hippie/ Siddartha like experience trip that can lead to a book one day. You certainly write an entertaining blog. Reading your reviews, I don't think I need to say more about the actual job skillsets. See? I can be nice!

What can I say? We're guys. We're johns and this is a f-ck board. Do i mistreat women in person? hell no or else that would have become known.

Finally, I consider it a supreme compliment to be called out as a younger GaGambler. I dont deserve that distinction yet. He says what he thinks. He thinks before he talks

Ah, now you've gone and made sense.

Hey, I'm just answering the question, no NYC guys are not meanies, so that generalization wasn't fair. But you, my dear, you can be mean, so I wouldn't be surprised.

And agreed, I don't understand the concept of a public persona, my one persona is enough to handle!

Keep on doing your thing, fuck like a rabbit

Yeah, I said New Yowka. you gotta problem wit dat. Fuggeddabout it!

LOL! nycad

The mystery of sweet Cosette lives on!

I love the Use of Fugettabout it

http://fuget-about-it.com/FugetAboutIt_DonnieBrasco.htm

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First, You can kick my ass anytime! Lol.

Second, how much is this rant costing me? Is there bbbj cim at the end? If not, you lost me.  

Third, That's totally not true about the Carolinas. When I rented a house near Charleston last year, I would routinely tell people they were walking and talking too slowly. That totally flies there!  

In all seriousness, I think Sidney's comment about a mix of people is most accurate.  

But when you're dealing with business and business people, it can be very one dimensional.

One of the greatest things about New York is it is one of the most diverse cities in the world.  There are literally ALL types of people here...

I happen to be a Midwestern, Californian, Jersey Boy who is Southern educated and arrived in the Big Apple after college.  I many not have been born and raised in NYC, but after 2 decades of living and working in and around this great city, I think I have fully earned the right to be called a true New Yorker.  I can assure you, I am the furthest thing from 'abrasive and indifferent'.

I very much enjoy the opportunity to get to meet cool women in this world.  I have no problem looking people in the eye and am happy to exchange pleasantries and spend a little time to learn a bit about my date.  I don't think any of the women I have been with, including a few southern visitors would describe me as 'transactional' and 'mechanical'.  Of course I have met more than a few providers that are.  

My point is, be careful with your generalizations of true New Yorkers, and recognize the tremendous diversity that this great city has to offer.  You might just be surprised who you meet.

I like Julia and she knows it, but she also knows I don't agree with her views on northerners, which are also colored by a bad experience up here.
New York can seem cold and indifferent but it's really not.  The locals actually love the fact that so many come here as tourists and are happy to help them get where they need to go.  Yes, the closely-packed nature of the city can sometimes get folks to act like rats in a cage and the pace is frenetic -- sometimes frantic -- but it's a mistake to generalize with any group, Noo Yawkers, too. If I ever get down to the Carolinas again I'll attempt to prove to Julia that we can be sexy sweethearts, with sugar on top!

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Do I have certain 'expectations' of what I expect in a GFE Date, of course I do, that is why I am here.  I read a woman's ad, try to get an idea of what she is like, and then read the reviews to see others' experiences and if they they match up...  From there I reach out via email and see how she responds.  Only then do I roll the dice.

Do I have a set menu, or rhythm - no... I tend to go with the flow and what feels natural with the woman I am with.  Do I have some things i like to do with a woman, of course I do.  Do I have some things I like and really turn me on when done to me, heck yeah.  If i don't get to all of them, it can still be a great date if the chemistry feels right, otherwise it might be a bit of a disappointment.

I have found some of my better experiences have been with women where we took the opportunity to get to know eachother before the date and/or before things get started.  In fact, I have started to favor longer dates for just that reason.  However, if all we have is an hour, and we are going to spend a good bit of time getting to know one another better, it better be a 'full and unrushed session';  I don't want to be pointed to the shower with 15mins left on the clock unless the woman is coming along to wash me up

There is one generalization of New Yorkers I do agree with.  We tend to know what we want, and expect to get it.  After all, this is the city that never sleeps.  We can get just about anything we could possibly want delivered to our doorstep in minutes.  And if we do not get what we want, we are a little quick to say something.  I personally tend to do that in a more gentile way given my time down South and Midwestern routes.

JLS, if I have one suggestion for your next visit ( and I do hope you come back as I would like to meet you), you might want to consider a 90 minute minimum date.  That will probably weed out more of the 'abrasive and indifferent' types.  It is also unlikely to be rushed, so the client can get to all their favorites without coming across as 'mechanical or transactional.'  In the end, it all comes down to expectations on management on both ends.

Best,
Spartan

Thanks Nicky.  Funny, you just reminded me how I often feel like I walk around the city with 'Information Booth' sign over my head.  I get stopped by tourists all the time for directions, help, or recommendations.  Even when I am in a hurry, as I usually am given our pace, I am always happy to stop and help...

I do enjoy heading back south to relax and slow it down a bit.  May take a day or to to put down the blackberry for a couple of hours and slow my walking pace.  After a week, I'll even start saying y'all again.

But I do love All Ya All New Yorkers!  Well, ok , maybe not all, but certainly most...

So as you know all Im Russian but I lived more then 10 years in COLORADO .. ( LOVE the state ABSOLUTELY )  
 why I was  there - everybody advised me to move to NYC - because, as they say there  
"Your personality is better fir for NYC,  you DO belong to NYC " people told me there ..
 when  I arrived to NYC .. it was too much even for me .. EVEN FOR ME ..  

Ok  why I say so  let me  explain on one  simple example -  
 did you ever notice the difference in driving when lets say you come from DC and finally you are  at Lincoln tunnel?
 How behavior of drivers suddenly changes   here I want have a .. BIIIGGGG MOTOR VEHICLE to drive them all over ..
 seems they do have  same desire ...
it is .. as we say in Russia - Do not count stars on the sky .. do not put finger to hungry tiger mouth..
and parking??
 where OOOO God where it would be  that when you do park there can be soo many advisors  giving you advices and making comments ..
 
I wanted tell them - NEVER gave advice IF you NOT asked to do so If I need your opinion I would ask it  
move and mind your business..
People here remind me Russians  where I moved from .. to states to avoid this judgmental state of minds advice like  desires to teach others how to do business ,..
 you know fellow New Yorkers .. many of us  have trends of  Psychopath  
I at list do realize it .. when I am out of NYC lets say in Boston , DC Philly .. I need slow down - ON ALL including driving
 but so you not be so upset -   Psychopaths are mostly  are CEO, Investors and Lawyers .. so ... intelligent people ..
I   do admit such trends so what? I love stay up to late I love f as . it is last time .. I love talk loud and  I love to think I am the best .. as any new Yorker think..then .. why I need to be  shy   and tell - NOooo Iam not the best ... OOO I am as everybody ... in my case ..it be just a lie .. ha ha  so enjoy be yourself  and NYC is the best place for that .
 or am I wrong?
( just do not love  Taxi can drivers - they would not move one finger with no charge ...)
Once my car did not started and for jump start me he wanted 50 .  
Now I have  AAA and also taking better care about car .. and once I was asked 20 for parking spot ... so all on the sale ,, it is soooo correct ..
YOU HAVE to  sell yourself here .. and what I think we are here even more normal then many out there .. trust me ... I am meeting here so nice men ( yet to become friend with woman ....) but it is may be because we can be here ourself ?? I feel soooo pain and  tearfull for many of us gentlemen and ladies .. we all whant love .. love is all we need ..
 dollars ?? dollars would not make you happy ...  
 or they do make you happy ? how it make you happy besides of .. paying bills ??
I do not care .. I can not dance with dollars I can not kiss with dollars I can not go out and dine  wiith dollars, I can not go to opera to movie  and talk after all with dollars...
dollars even do not have cock  dollars can not kiss me and lick me .. what I need them for ??!!! ha h

Out of an entire country of locations, I chose New York because it has the •best• clients.  Hard to understand these posts