4. Let me say yes I like to have anal when somebody has really worked me up, that doesnt mean when I don't not worked up, and those men have had the beauty of seeing me more than once it has never been on a first date except maybe once I couldn't help myself and 2nd cause I just couldn't get into it and only do I require a bunch of lube should that be the case. And to those who say something about weight if going from a 2 to a 4 is bad then we should all call it quits. And I sure hope to those bad apples you are not raising daughters.
Response: Two issues going on here. One is the anal thing. You don't want to set the expectation that every client expects and asks for anal sex. I understand that, and the guy shouldn't have written about that. Maybe he could have rephrased it as..."Blake and I had a wonderful time, and she offered me a special service that she may not offer with anyone else. YMMV here, and it is a situation that will depend almost entirely on Blake's chemistry with you." Or he could have left it out.
The other issue is the weight issue. This is a sensitive topic, but so many clients have complained about seeing a provider whose pics are not representative of how she truly is now. It's a balancing act. Most women don't feel comfortable enough to just post random candids on their site, but that's really what is most representative of the woman you will be seeing. Many pics are photoshopped, airbrushed, or stretched to create the appearance of someone else. I know of one provider who is currently going throught this. Her photos were altered by the photographer to give the impression that she was taller and leaner than she was, and now she is dealing with bad reviews and comments on boards. You won't get around this with some guys, and they will mention it. The best thing to do, in my experience, is to send candids of yourself via private correspondence to the client who is interested in booking. It therefore leaves no surprise in store, and expectations are set accordingly.
Some men really want a size 2 and a size 4 is not what they are looking for. That's too bad, but those men know what they want, and if that's a dealbreaker, then that should be communicated upfront.
5. I don't know if this will get me banned I now ban myself cause this is the part of this whole thing that would make one jaded, and you bad apples are a shining example as for me I will continue being a good lover and rid my world of anyone who devalues people and devalues the essence of intimacy by basing your decision on anything other than how you feel and most of giving the nitty gritty to only suit your short comings.
Response: I don't this gets you banned. Clearly, your emotions appear to be raw and you are hurt. Give it some time to process...you will feel a little better about it tomorrow, I hope.
6. To those gentleman not for you hope you understand I just can't not love myself and other woman and you so I write this
Response: My suggestion would be to make sure going forward that a man is looking for the type of encounter you provide. You are not a PSE or a woman who just fucks casually. And if that's the case, then make sure the client is onboard with that. Give him the option of not continuing with the session if he is disappointed, and mention that it's just not going to turn out well for either of you if that happens. I think most guys will realize that you have gone above and beyond the call of duty, and you will find much better clientele this way.
Hope this finds you in a better headspace when you read this.
As a woman I have a question I think this board overall is to verify looks and safe first correct? Then because some women were taking money and running the reviews. Well now there a discussions which seem more like bashings, ok discussions.
Now I have only done this a little over a year and for a woman who is less than 6 months from 40, as a educated woman who fell into a difficult slump, as a woman who was once a wife a woman has never slept with many men cause of long relationships however never opposed had she been able, as a mother of a grown son most of all as a woman who respects others who is passionate respectful a good lover open minded enough to see that she could be open to a lifestyle most criticize and as a woman who most of all respects and loves herself... I have to say I am over this review site and unfortunately cause of a few bad apples.
I am appalled that I hung on this long sorry when I have read most of what I read. Couple of things first you want to hold us accountable how about the same back, I was actually doing better ten times over before coming here, and I spent time with someone who I cut my gift drastically and that was ok cause I am flexible then what I know was the time of his life and the enjoyment he left with then to write what he did I let slide I did however refrain from viewing except for a couple from stand up stellar men who honestly I would be with regardless of a gift. And tonight cause of another questionable email and a mention of a review I read them and came across the last one that said he banged me in the ass
Let me say yes I like to have anal when somebody has really worked me up, that doesnt mean when I don't not worked up, and those men have had the beauty of seeing me more than once it has never been on a first date except maybe once I couldn't help myself and 2nd cause I just couldn't get into it and only do I require a bunch of lube should that be the case. And to those who say something about weight if going from a 2 to a 4 is bad then we should all call it quits. And I sure hope to those bad apples you are not raising daughters.
I don't know if this will get me banned I now ban myself cause this is the part of this whole thing that would make one jaded, and you bad apples are a shining example as for me I will continue being a good lover and rid my world of anyone who devalues people and devalues the essence of intimacy by basing your decision on anything other than how you feel and most of giving the nitty gritty to only suit your short comings.
To those gentleman not for you hope you understand I just can't not love myself and other woman and you so I write this
And his review didn't add up. You should contact Admin., and have it removed if it's bogus. FWIW, as for as I'm concerned, that reviewer has zero credibility.
I would second that. He also reviewed someone I have seen a few times and his review also seems off...
She can contest the review with TER Staff, they have ways to verify if he's been writing fake reviews.
If proven, all his fake accounts will be removed....so she has no need to worry, all her other reviews are great.
Some reviewers write shit because they have a personal vendetta against women - the reviews are the perfect venue to give them the 'power' to put them down.
Let me tell you a true story.
Few years ago, I had this client. He was a prolific reviewer for the New York City area.
He had his normal VIP name, the one everybody knew him around here. He was well liked and respected. However, he also had 3 other VIP names no one knew about.
Under his public name, he did write great posts and reviews....under his other names, he did not and was a really tough, hurtful grader who turned the life of some ladies into pure Hell.
Under any of his VIP names, even if the reviews were fabulous, he always said things that quite didn't match - on purpose - so the ladies would not link him to the reviews.
How do I know all this?
He did write bad reviews about me and couple ladies I know personally.
The day this guy was to retire from the hobby, he did contact me for one last appointment. Yep, he was one of my beloved regulars.
We had a great time, as always. He was one of the sweetest guys I ever met (and he was young, super sexy and great lover).
During our session, I did notice that he was acting a bit different and I thought it was because of his sudden retirement.
It was not. At the end, he goes....'I have something to tell you. I came here to tell what I have done....to you'.
Then he went on and on, telling me he had been a jerk with me and few other ladies, he wrote bad posts and reviews about us, we didn't deserve it, please forgive me, yada yada yada!
I was speechless, I would NEVER believe this sweet, fun, loving guy was capable of doing such horrible things. OMG he always brought flowers & gifts with a huge sexy smile and a deep passionate kiss!
I have many outstanding reviews, so I don't really care if I get few that are not so great, it doesn't affect my business in any form. But, other ladies do not brush off like I do and the bad stuff said really does damage and affect their livelihood.
Fortunately, guys are smart enough to know few so so reviews amongst a bunch of good ones doesn't weight much (they know the problem is with the guy, not the girl).
I said I did forgive him, but he should be a man and correct the damage he did to the other girls and come clean here on the board.
Not sure if he did. But I know some of the ladies he was always bashing here on the board either got out of business, went UTR, moved or changed their names, so they could make a living without the stigma linked to his vile lies.
Most guys here are nice and respectful...but some are wolves under sheepskins.
Is the way it goes.
Blake I am sure that this business is not easy. As a woman it must be very difficult to hang yourself out there both physically and emotionally. I could just imagine that these reviews have the ability to destroy one's self confidence. Some reviews will note eight great aspects about a provider and then one or two negative things and I am sure it is really hard not focus on the negatives. In life I think we have to do our best to look at the positives, but it is easier said than done.
If we were to turn the tables on this board it would not be pretty. I could just imagine:
"TenInchesFlacid (the hobbyist) has a small pecker about four inches hard and I could barely feel him inside me. He lasted about thirty seconds and began to sob uncontrollably after ejaculation. He could not get it up for a second cup. His stomach was fat, his ass was flabby and his breath smelled like pickled cabbage. I will under no circumstances ever let this man fuck me again.”
I have an all time favorite (ATF) on this board who blows me away every time I see her. She is kind, caring, funny and beautiful. To put it bluntly she fucks me in every way imaginable and gives me everything she's got on every visit yet people still give her semi mediocre reviews and I just do not understand it. When I go to see her sometimes she will be really bummed out over a bad review and I try to do my best to cheer her up, but I can tell that it affects her deeply.
Blake your overall average is an 8.4 (8.3/8.5). Believe it or not this is actually really good. I have met providers lately who are uber-competitive when it comes to their TER rating and although I understand that I tend to place more weight in the details. The numbers are secondary to me. If you are really good at what you do your reviews will improve even more over time and the great reviews will overshadow anything else that is posted. That said, as a provider you are going to meet many misogynistic assholes in this business and unfortunately they feel that if they pay you money they can also treat you like shit.
Keep your head up little lady.
J
What goes around comes around. Eventually guys wise up to the liars who write dishonest reviews. Most of us evaluate a woman by their total reviews and not one or two bad ones. Your postings have established that you are an intelligent, sensitive and sexy woman. Anyone who reads them will know that the review in question is pure BS.
always be okay and in no way will some affect the woman I am or the way I feel about most men. I had to express my disgust for what I seen more of each day. The thing I really don't understand if those BAD APPLES who degrade woman think so bad of woman then why do you subject us to this. If we live in a world were you feel wronged so you do the same back we will all be subjected to misery. I choose to not live in this type of world so that is the reason for my post, it is not to bash anyone quiet the opposite I hope that somewhere inside you see a woman's side and we can get back to a place of respect and compassion for all. Then we can all get back to enjoying what we really want to do.
Blake: I haven't met you...yet, but I think, from your posts, website and ads, that you are a special lady. Simply said: some guys are assholes...period. Some ladies are, well, not so nice (I will leave it at that); welcome to dealing with the public. It's not always fun for us...or for the ladies. Take it in stride and don't sweat the small stuff...I don't. In the grand scene of things, these reviews should all be taken with a grain of salt, which is why I choose not to cheapen, or embellish, any experience that I have by writing about them, good or bad. You know who you are, that all that counts.
There are very wonderful and shall forever be wonderful men and women amongst the few bad apples. Also as women and men (although not noticed as much) not your fault I probably responded from an emotional state of mind in my message here. That said does in no way mean I retract what I said as we should all respect others, it really is no big deal what negative someone says as I know the woman I am and how I treat others, and even more on an intimate level know that when I meet my friends they experience me 100%. I really just hope for all of us to enjoy our lives to the highest quality and may we all be enjoying what puts a smile on our face so long as we are respectful to all doing so.
Now I have only done this a little over a year and for a woman who is less than 6 months from 40, as a educated woman who fell into a difficult slump, as a woman who was once a wife a woman has never slept with many men cause of long relationships however never opposed had she been able, as a mother of a grown son most of all as a woman who respects others who is passionate respectful a good lover open minded enough to see that she could be open to a lifestyle most criticize and as a woman who most of all respects and loves herself... I have to say I am over this review site and unfortunately cause of a few bad apples.
I am appalled that I hung on this long sorry when I have read most of what I read. Couple of things first you want to hold us accountable how about the same back, I was actually doing better ten times over before coming here, and I spent time with someone who I cut my gift drastically and that was ok cause I am flexible then what I know was the time of his life and the enjoyment he left with then to write what he did I let slide I did however refrain from viewing except for a couple from stand up stellar men who honestly I would be with regardless of a gift. And tonight cause of another questionable email and a mention of a review I read them and came across the last one that said he banged me in the ass
Let me say yes I like to have anal when somebody has really worked me up, that doesnt mean when I don't not worked up, and those men have had the beauty of seeing me more than once it has never been on a first date except maybe once I couldn't help myself and 2nd cause I just couldn't get into it and only do I require a bunch of lube should that be the case. And to those who say something about weight if going from a 2 to a 4 is bad then we should all call it quits. And I sure hope to those bad apples you are not raising daughters.
I don't know if this will get me banned I now ban myself cause this is the part of this whole thing that would make one jaded, and you bad apples are a shining example as for me I will continue being a good lover and rid my world of anyone who devalues people and devalues the essence of intimacy by basing your decision on anything other than how you feel and most of giving the nitty gritty to only suit your short comings.
To those gentleman not for you hope you understand I just can't not love myself and other woman and you so I write this