I would prefer to see only GFE with multiple cups. I really like the girls at BDJ but they are all different and you never know. I just feel a little uncomfortable asking but what is the best way to find out before the action starts as it does effect what type of action I actually want

to be forthright and ask honestly and directly.
If possible, try to find this out before the rendezvous. Otherwise, to guide your 'type of action' ask as the beginning of the session.
If you don't ask, you won't know!

"multiple pops allowed" and "full no rush session" options. Almost all girls that will allow 2 pops will allow 3 if you can do it. Generally, they don't want to discuss this on the phone.  Do your TER homework. Lastly, you can PM guys who've seen her and they'll tell you.

You can check a providers reviews to get an idea of how many cups are allowed during the session. Your mileage will always vary when it comes to this. What I mean is that even if a provider's reviews say that she only offers one cup, she may offer you a second cup if she likes you. This rarely does happen, but it does happen. My best suggestion would be to just go with the flow. If a provider is known for only offering 1 cup, then only expect 1 cup. If you get more, then thats an added bonus. Good Luck!