I think you will find that a lot of us look forward to contacting each other.  You never know when you may need a helping hand in an adventure.

Why would we want to hold a gun to your head?  I would give a reference to anyone I know just as long as the hobbiest was well behaved.

For some of you that know me,  "I am man trapped in a Woman's Body"  Meaning, I need variety too....lol
I get bored easy.  I would prefer if I were in a mans shoes to get a reference.  More time to play!!

I hope this helps on your topic
JC from Chicago

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I have always provided references locally but seem to provide the most for my client friends who travel.  There is nothing nicer than putting another lady at ease and also knowing your friend is having a great time while he's away.

I know that both the ladies and gentlemen appreciate the reference.

Happy Spring & see you Thursday 4/12-Monday 4/16!

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"Our" clients are not "ours" to possess.  We would be foolish to think that they see us exclusively.  Variety is the spice of life! That is precisely what this hobby is all about.  

Not to mention the real importance of references is personal SAFETY, period. The value of my personal well-being or the well-being of another provider certainly outweighs the risk of potentially loosing a client that isn't ever MINE to loose.

Years ago when I was first introduced to this profession, calling another provider for a reference was not the practice. Most of the girls thought as you suggested.  However, over the years the practice of references has become widely accepted and recommended by the ladies and is pretty much standard for the main reason of our safety.  Not to mention, it provides us an opportunity to chat and get to know each other sometimes when we would not otherwise have occassion to do so.  

Thanks, Ladies, for all of the references provided over the years.  If I can ever be of assistance, please do not hesitate to ask.

Stay safe & have fun~
Toni

There is enough men out there for all of us, I usually recommend other providers to my clients and get referrals from them, most hoobiests are in it for the smorgasboard of all types of womwn.

Part of our tradition here is the White List.  I have not had a problem getting on that list--in fact, both people who put me on the list suggested it themselves.   The providers I see seem happy to give me a reference (Maybe they just want to get rid of me)

I've come to rely on them and am always happy to give them. I've found that when I give them I've been rewarded. A gentleman that I saw in Tampa sent me a VS gift card for Valentine's Day because I always help him out.

I've also started asking more questions during my screening/reference checking process and lately the ladies have been all too happy to answer them. I'd say reference checking creates more of a bond between ladies than a competition. While name calling and drama on the boards is fun for some we all experience the same things when visiting with someone and none of us likes to be caught of guard so in that aspect we're like the Wall of China!

xo
L

While I am very much a reference friendly provider, I have experienced those that are not many times.  I have been told everything from "I am too busy" to "I don't give references to fat girls", lol.  So it can be a pain to say the least.

I usually try to tell my clients I will be happy to give a reference so they feel comfortable. The hobby for many is interesting because of all the variety, and for a provider to try and corner a specific client is not only unprofessional but also foolish.  There are more than enough gents to go around.

XO
Melanie

Over time it always plays out the same. Inevitably you'll also need a reference from that provider as well. We aren't your wives and we don't get jealous. Besides if a provider is confident in herself she doesn't fear losing someone!