Obviously I want to be clear about this...Do you gents have an issue with a gal instructing you about their body? I've been around for about 8 years now and with all my years in the hobby and especially when the guys do their homework they do understand that I love to teach what works best for me as far as gushing all over them.  Tonight I had an experience where either he was intimidated by me being so direct (On the first gushing instruction) and he seemed like he was in a hurry. I spent weeks getting to know him and was excited to meet him. Yes I get worked up too with the personality etc!
However he didn't like my introduction of my warm up is (too easy and would of only taken so many seconds to do) My reviews are pretty clear and consitent, I'm in my prime and very easy ...however up here it seems like everyone is in a big hurry and they don't take time to relax as much as they should. I appreciate any feede back from the guys ONLY. Dont want drama just some understanding from the guys ! Gals Pm me due to I like Private insight but dont want to make this a big issue. Demographic areas are all different! I am originally from Seattle ....so much different. So I do underdstand....but just want to hear a NY guys perspective.....Hugs and kisses JoJo

being so perspeptive but what about men over 50? I need to be more precise in age range.....Some guys don't understand about their love muscle ..,,,,,etc.
 

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I'm sorry if this will sound blunt or rude, it's not meant to be...  but dishing out 250 to 1000 roses for a date with the clock tick-tocking away does make it about me, not you.  On the other hand, if you give me an unsealed envelope at the beginning of the date, then I promise I'll make it all about you, and follow every direction you lay out for me LOL

with that said though, I do admit that the best dates are when there is chemistry for both parties

Jeez maybe you didnt really get the question....and i always ask the natural question (not even close to the numbers that you say seriously?) I don't give a crap about time.  It's not always about time but also shring experiences, I am only comfortable with those who feel comfotabe with thenselves,,,,,And want to have great time! Read my reviews jazzy and you will see I'm about quality over quanity.....Just read my 60 some reviews.....  I am in my prime and happy with it! Love it or leave it baby!

Live life ...love and take in the Experiences.....especially when you're in your prime! Also accept the things in life as you may not be the perfect person you can be ....in others eyes! However the most deprived men and women always want ........what they cant't have. Or what they dom't ever communicate and say.... Why is that? most ask but most don't care...

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Jeez maybe you didnt really get the question....and i always ask the natural question (not even close to the numbers that you say seriously?) I don't give a crap about time.  It's not always about time but also shring experiences, I am only comfortable with those who feel comfotabe with thenselves,,,,,And want to have great time! Read my reviews jazzy and you will see I'm about quality over quanity.....Just read my 60 some  reviews.....  I am in my prime and happy with it! Love it or leave it baby!

that many men do not read the reviews, and MANY men are intimidated by a strong woman!
Do your homework and pull up your big-boy pants!  lol

For starters, I myself don't see how this is a regional thing , but what do I know.

The topic here I think is directly related to age and how you were brought up. To clarify , my parents ALWAYS taught me to give. Soup kitchens EVERY Thanksgiving, taking me to third world countries throughout my childhood, giving panhandlers money etc ..........W/O doubt it shaped me to who I am today, and I think in a good way. With age comes maturity and knowledge. Knowledge that YOUR experience will be amplified when the lady is enjoying you ! Selfish little "boys" are arrogant and just want to come in and FUCK . I am a young stud and I know EVERYTHING !

I pretty much tell EVERY lady I see to PLEASE , PLEASE guide me !  We just met , how could I possibly know what you like and don't like ?  I don't care what position we are in , my dick is not being stimulated differently, BUT I do know that different positions hit different spots for you - Tell me what you like and I will listen and adjust ! I find it SEXY as hell for the woman to be vocal and telling me what feels good to her - boost's my ego that I am satisfing her !!!!! Damn thats HOT !!!

Realize you will have 2 completely different sessions ..............One will be " it's all about me and get on your knees bitch !"  These are the ones you seem to dislike . Should not take long for you see it and adjust the session ( and repeat visits ) accordingly .
The other will be people like me . Adjust session ( and repeat visits ) accordingly

Everybody is different, and you can't control that , only the quality of the service the guy receives from you

....., I guess I qualify to offer my thoughts, too.  I think well grounded and confident men would have absolutely no problem with being guided to please their companion.  I can't imagine personal, sexual satisfaction that did not include pleasing my partner.  What better way to please her than to perform the actions that give her great pleasure.  I assume that jojo is not didactic or condescending in the way she goes about letting her "date" know what will make her physically happy. If she were not, this thread comment would be very different.  So jojo, don't you be concerned.  Continue what comes naturally and enjoy the thrills when you meet a man who responds in kind.

I think a woman who provides instructions, directions etc is awesome. I love a woman who can show, tell, ask me to do certain things that will help them enjoy theirselves, I find it sexy as hell. Having enjoyed time with you, you are not pushy, but informative, and I like that.  

I also have no problem asking a woman to do something different with me also, if she's not hitting the right spot, or whatever. Openness is cool.

I will say though that after being married, well the first few years, I was in a rush a lot of times. Guilt, worrying about getting caught, work, whatever it was always tough on my mind and therefore didn't relax and fully enjoy myself like I have learned to now.

Even when I mongering locally, I no longer rush nor feel guilty, I have a great sex life with my SO, I just feel the need to experience others as well.
I think as far as instructions, it takes comfortability with ones own sexuality and performance to be able to accept those instructions. I'm not the bet looking dude, and certainly am average or slightly below average cock size, but I know what women enjoy and I feel totally comfortable that most women will enjoy themselves with me.

I think being with a multiple orgasmic squirter such as yourself certainly helps the ego also..lol

"No is my favorite word."

I then explain that I mean, if I am doing something she doesn't care for, then I want to know.  Please, tell me, "Not there" or "a little to the left" or anything that will make this a better time for you.  I'd much rather be with someone who will help me please them then with someone who fakes enjoying herself.

I mean seriously...no, it is NOT about us as the provider, but if a guy is doing something that is literally causing me pain or to be extremely annoyed, I am sure he would like to know. If he is making an effort to get me off and I say, "NO, like this" yet he won't stop...he can take a fkin hike! Either you do want to please her or you don't and both are fine, but if you are not going to actually care about what she likes, just get your nut and go.

Saying, "It's all about me" from a hobbyist standpoint is only true up to a point. You are NOT paying to do whatever the fk you want honey...dream on. You pay to be with women who will do what they are comfortable with, and that is that. Going to a cbj only provider and expecting a bbbj, is a bit deluded...same with going to a gfe provider who expresses NO ANAL, then getting all butt hurt, when she refuses.

I think the OP is wanting more of a date type experience vs. a fk and go, which is fine. Guys should have the common sense NOT to call her if they expect something she never agreed to do from the start, and her reviews will confirm what she is all about.

I see nothing wrong with a blow and go, or a full on gfe, but you don't go to Target then demand Saks products. Most women are pretty damn open about what you're going to get, and for how much. It's not exactly rocket science to find one who does what you want, and skip those who don't.

to enjoy her time with you by trying to get off, that says a lot about her as a provider. She could very well just go through the motions, fake her O, and get you out of there. What the OP is suggesting is 'usually' viewed as a good trait in a provider these days, but I digress. Those who don't want gfe, can go to the truck stop where it is "all about them" lol.

Each of the two participants, especially when meeting for the  first time, should be open to gently guiding the partner to the places that are most sensitive and sensations that feel the best. Both should be equally open to accepting direction and responding accordingly. Two people, in synch with each other, guiding and responding = a formula for a buildup to a mind blowing experience for each!!!!

I just needed some positive insight on the subject and I greatly appreciate all of your input! Thank you for letting me vent and thank you for your understanding. I never start threads but was frustrated due to this was the first time having a client literally just leave after I started explaining the procedure of how to make me gush...I asked him why he was leaving and he said because of the instructional part. I was so shocked and taken back that I had to get some perspective on it from the guys and thanks to the gall who posted as well! Hugs, Kisses and love always JoJo

hhmmm...  you seem to be very self focused, and that's fine, but I gave you one point of view that might explain why the guy (from your original post) didn't make it about you, and was actually so turned off by your instructions that he just left - he knew it wouldn't work for him and he cut his loses (he probably wanted to catch someone more compatible with his preferences before the night was thru, we've all been there).  I probably would not have bailed like he did, but I gotta admit that in a way I can respect him for it, and I do like his no BS style!  But you should not let it bother you, it just wasn't the right match, maybe bc like you implied that he didn't do his homework...

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Wow!

Why haven't we gotten together yet?!  

Are truly god's gift to men!   There's no doubt you have the best time with them and the reason is simple: the more they enjoy the experience, the better time you'll have.

With absolutely no input from me, then that's a problem.  I had that happen with a highly-rated provider that sometimes posts here, and it was a shitty session.  We clearly didn't get along after that, and I would never spend that money on her again.

But that's very different than a woman saying something like, "Lick me here, and a little more lightly, because that gets me offf."  That would be more than fine with me.

I don't think it's a NYC thing at all, to be honest with you.  Sometimes it's just a particular hobbyist who is set in his ways.