I'm curious to hear anyone's thoughts on the whole situation.  Strictly casual, no commitment or expectations.

In relationships I expect honesty. I believe that people have a right to know things that would have a major impact on who they date. So, I'm very straight forward about being a provider when I know things may be getting serious or someone is interested. In a recent situation I played by that very rule, always open and honest. Im also bisexual, another truth I ALWAYS share. Anyhow, this was all accepted at first. But quickly things became unfavorable and just didn't work because of my involvement as a provider in this underground hobby.

Without getting too into detail, some people may be able to handle the situation but it takes a very special, open and trusting mind. Most people dont want the person they feel deeply for, getting into very intimate situations with other people, even if there is no feeling and emotion invested.  

In regards to a casual thing, it would probably be more likely to work. But what happens if you end up caring deeply and the game changes. How would you feel about dating a provider? I obviously believe providers are just as datable as any other woman and usually a lot more honest. But it can get tricky.

But every situation is diferent.

Basically, you need to be completely okay (and I mean completely, absolutely, positively) with the notion of being in a relationship with someone you know is going to be sexually active with others. Other than that, it's like any other relationship, you'll need to be open, honest, caring, thoughtful, etc. In the hobby, I'm down to a very small circle of providers I play with and know they all have partners (one of whom I've met) that are completely comfortable with who they are and what they do. IMHO, If you've never been in an open or other non-magnanimous relationship, having your first with a working girl will be a challenge. If you're experienced in an open relationship then I can't see any issue.  

Of course, everyone is different, YMMV and I'm sure the many great providers on this board could give you more perspective than my small range of experience in this matter.

This begs the question, how does one come to date a working girl? My presumption would be that being a hobbyist pretty much rules it out. That one would meet each other in more ordinary life pursuits then find out at the time or after. Would that all be safe to assume?

Better to go on a legitimate dating site for relationships, whether casual or serious. In my experience, providers can be legitimately attracted to you, get off with being with you, and give you special perks if they are into you. However, they will never fall in love with you and won't be interested in dating you unless it is in a sugar daddy situation. This is not a knock on providers because it should be understood what the relationship between us and them is, but this is the truth.

of benefits to dating to such woman -
 given you took her out of the work and able provide for both of you  
- other wise it is repulsive for WOMAN -
date to man and know that he is ok with you making out for money with other men.
 HOWEVER ..
 I would love to meet man to date who able provide and take me out of this area of life yet we still will have to play with others...
as I am with men for fun - he even may chose men for me himself ( or will trust me to do so .., or we just will pick up men and women out ..
- Even if it would not ended up as  full sexual relationship  at first evening and night ( I am very cautious whom I see and in this adult escorting hobby - where we all play safe so I NEVER will make it out with someone from the bar without knowing them.. swing clubs, especially  in NYC - not look good for me to go down there and make it there among strangers may be with STD s .. yet i love just seat there with my date, drink, see people , show myself .. and make friends  
WITH THOSE FRIENDS WE THEN MAY MEET AT OWN RESIDENCES..
So .. yes .. i think ANY man want have  date as we are, providers here as to sex life.
Not every provider able to offer dignity and  love to her date and guarantee that she would not work while with him -
 it is other concern..
 But  I myself - I just and now as provider have dates with men clients  where we are good friends dining out going out making out  sleeping together yet bringing other partner if I need help  in satisfying his fantasies or he needs help in satisfying my needs ..
 
Plus  women as I am - we  are low key about drama and being over controlling or jealousies   - ..
 We a have seen a lot and know well men.

You should date or marry woman from this area of the business ... for the most fun and love

Just it be kind of repulsive if your woman still be working ( In adult industry.. - as porno star - THAT be fine, yet not meeting men fro 300 dollars ..yakkk... and you be her BF ?? !! Not as bad for HER .. bad for YOU.
 She is just doing what takes for her to survive, but man is man .. you know biography of Victor Hugo?
he was able to marry when he nominated to royal pension .. he did marry to Adele Foucher..

 I love Hugo works a lot his works still relating to our democracy issues and problems of society as death penalties and prostitution   ..
and  role of the males in woman's life
 Would you feel as  a man if you date will work as prostitute //
 So as to those who said that NO I would not marry working girl -  it is NOT about us women, it is ABOUT you as a man . ..

Take her out of work and date - BUT DO NOT AKE HER BECOME CHURCH SISTER AND DO NOT STOP HAVE FUN.
KEEP AS IT IS- HERE.  Open and fun . just more loving and more respectful .. yet doing what we do here.. just not for money.

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Once you wrap your mind around the idea that we go and do a job, like everyone else, that involves overlap in things we do for you too (cooking, cleaning, balancing a budget, whatever) just like everyone else, you'll find the bell curve to be pretty close to that of regular women. Any issues I've seen have usually come from the guy getting hung up and the lady subsequently lying to make him feel better. Healthy communication, as always, is key here.  

Yes, you have to trust that we won't fall in love with a client, but everywhere else you'd have to trust it wouldn't be a coworker. Maybe we expect you to act like a gentleman, but that's not such a bad thing, is it? A number of us probably have trust issues, but so do a lot of other people for many of the same reasons without ever having set foot in this little world of ours.  

I've met a lot of girls, boyfriends of girls, and husbands of girls. We are a lot less interesting than you'd think, lol!

I won't ever date while in this business and I wouldn't recommend anyone to do so. I did try a couple of times with clients and it didn't work, the first BS is that the guy usually say that he wouldn't give any more money because he is now the boyfriend therefore I was still working and they knew, they wasn't happy about it but I needed the money and yet they wasn't able to solve the problem so we were running in circles, it didn't work and anyone I heard who has done ended up in a lot of drama, don't do it

I see my life as one cohesive unit rather than stringent compartments. Its more peaceful for me to see my life in totality rather than broken up into separate pieces. Thus I'm totally single and open to meeting men for a more emotional bond and I know that I could meet my beloved as a client or on an online site or at a club when out with friends. Basically I would hate to close any doors towards meeting someone amazing and I think that the more open I am to the avenue in which I meet a great guy the more options I have for how I will end up meeting him. You can say I'm basically an optimist

Sitara

and if they really are dating you, they don't need money, just you.

We are not all about the money. Some of us do care about the guys we meet. We have feelings and wants too. We are also not waiting to sit on your coat tails for a free ride. We have our own mind and can take care of self. If it is really dating there are no strings attached financially.

I barely date but I am normally busy with life and family. I don't seek out a man or a woman. I just live life to my happiness and when it falls into my lap, then I will go for it.

From my perspective, I fell for a provider who is probably the most incredible person I have ever met. She is beautiful, intelligent, caring and she makes me deliriously happy.  They are not all looking for a wallet or SD.  What I will say is that as a guy, you absolutely NEED to be understanding and accepting of her work. This means that you have to be secure in yourself and not be jealous. It is a difficult thing to do daily.  I know. Don't think that she will one day stop working for you. She has bills, obligations and dreams just like everyone else. Trust, respect and communication are paramount for any relationship but specifically when dating a provider. Sadly for me, it may be too late.