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inicky46 61 Reviews 529 reads
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and you're not the first person to operate this way.  But I still think having a second phone is the way to go.  Trak/go phones are quite small and easy to hide.  It's hard for me to imagine you can't find a place to hide it where your SO won't find it.  It seems simpler than all the stuff you're going through, and less prone to discovery.  Not to mention the LE issue.  Just a thought.

thatmgdude671 reads

OK I know that as super paranoid hobbyists we are all supposed to maintain disposable go phones. I completely understand why and the risks of not using one. That said there are very few legitimate reasons for having two phones, so you may not be busted but you will definitely be under suspicion if you are found with one. I've chosen to go the google voice route, I sacrifice some level of deniability, but with an app I can route calls to/from my phone as well as texts ... which bring me to my problem ...

In the past few months I have gotten a huge increase in text message advertising from providers ...

I don't store the names of my provider friends as women (Alissa becomes Al, Christine becomes Christopher, Pamela becomes Paul and so on). But when Al, Christopher, or Paul lets me know they are running a 2 hour GFE special this friday, it becomes hard to explain, if someone picks up the phone off your nightstand or is shoulder surfing.

I'm not a big fan of providers marketing or advertising via text message, but if you must ladies start out with a "hey", "what's up" or "you around" first text. Those of us in discreet situations thank you in advance.

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Waterclone725 reads

While they shouldn't send you unsolicited txt's, it will happen.  You need to be responsible for your own safety.

2nd phones are not that hard to hide.  Does your wife go through your briefcase?  Can you leave it in the office?  If you have an iPhone and replace it with a newer one, you can keep the older one and just tell her you use it as an iPod to save the battery life on the one you use as a phone.

But, if you have to stick to 1 phone, then set up google voice to not ring or send txt's to that phone when you are at home.  Your missed calls and messages will be waiting for you when you log in.

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Waterclone413 reads

My hobby phone is off whenever receiving a call or message would be inconvenient.  I enjoy the communication.  Even though it's often a marketing blast, a little extra effort to reach me often tips my scales in the direction of seeing someone.

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voyeurnyc648 reads

I'm the same way. I give priority to "hey sweetie, I miss you!" or something to that effect. But I'm single and have no one to hide things from which I am actually grateful for.

Posted By: Waterclone
My hobby phone is off whenever receiving a call or message would be inconvenient.  I enjoy the communication.  Even though it's often a marketing blast, a little extra effort to reach me often tips my scales in the direction of seeing someone.

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inicky46530 reads

and you're not the first person to operate this way.  But I still think having a second phone is the way to go.  Trak/go phones are quite small and easy to hide.  It's hard for me to imagine you can't find a place to hide it where your SO won't find it.  It seems simpler than all the stuff you're going through, and less prone to discovery.  Not to mention the LE issue.  Just a thought.

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frankutz575 reads

in the past week i asked a provider that i had seen numerous times to kindly erase my phone number. in addition providers that i had never seen but i inquired about meeting them on one of their tours, some as long as 3 or 4 years ago, keep sending me emails updating me about their current schedule. i personally find unsolicited advertising to my cell phone or inbox quite annoying and wish it would end, regardless the source.

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SindeeNYC501 reads

Is definately crossing a line. Email is different in my opinion for obvious reasons. But when I do reach out to a gent via email with some new "news" I always put in the subject line "contains adult material" in case they are at work or anywhere that they don't want it to pop up. And I also give them the option to have their email deleted from my list. I think having respect for a hobbyist privacy is a huge part of being a top notch,  respected provider. And on that note, I also think random texts from clients in the same vain is rude when they start speaking inappropriately. Not 'hey sweetie what's up are you around' that's not what I mean. It's the 'what r u wearing" and "I'm so h*rny" and the "let's F*ck today" texts that I'm referring too. :-)

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frankutz517 reads

that would make those texts not only annoying, but tasteless as well. some people have little or no class...shocker.  :)

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okem104715 reads

I think it's completely unprofessional for a provider to send an unsolicited text just as it would be for her to call us unsolicited.  I don't think the hobbyist getting a go phone is the answer.  Providers have to understand that we require discretion.  Sending unsolicited texts is self-centered and completely disregards her clients need for discretion.  Providers are in a service business, which means that they have to recognize what the clients' needs are; not vice versa.  If you consulted an attorney or accountant on a matter of discretion, would you expect them to send you a text saying, "Spoke to the District Attorney and it looks like you'll make bail" or "Spoke to the IRS and that tax fraud should not be that big a deal"

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InterestingThread247 reads

some clients aren't married and love texts, others who are married have total control over their phones and welcome them too. It is up to you to tell the provider whether you want them or not. If you say you do not want them and she still does it then you have a definite beef, other then that its a communication problem on both sides.

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SindeeNYC783 reads

people out there who have their backs covered, I definately agree that we ALL should abide by the rule of privacy first!!! Especially when mass TEXTING? Bottom line, use your head ladies and gents as well.
This is definately a legit issue.

-- Modified on 7/2/2011 12:36:12 AM

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Crazy Diamond341 reads

Our communications are via e-mail, phone calls, or by text, but...to be honest, I welcome them letting me know their schedules, as our schedules may coincide, and lead to meeting in person.   In general, I always welcome anything my lady friends have to say, and it brightens my day whenever I hear from them.   Then again, the ladies I know and love are top-rated indies who know how the game is played, and don't overplay their hand.  Maybe I am just lucky, or smart (depends on how you see it!)

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JustAGal324 reads

With exceptions of few people in this hobby who became my RL friends, I can't imagine WHY i would text anyone.

Lina

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voyeurnyc352 reads

Who's seen you previously but has forgotten about you are doesn't know you're around. He's going to make a call to someone but NOT you if you don't give him the heads up and if things ever get slow for you then you're missing out. Also guys have short attention spans and when debating to try a new girl or not that text that you'd send would make him gravitate towards you.

Some of my provider friends tell me they'd much rather see regular clientele then go on blind dates so the choice is easy for some.

Maybe the solution to this would be for providers to take the initiative and ask if it's okay to text when she's around?

As for me I always tell my provider friends to feel free and contact me when they are available via text. Sometimes it make the choice crystal clear for me :)

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voyeurnyc327 reads

If you're this paranoid then you probably feel your SO is on to you already and she probably is!

Tread carefully if you value your relationship, maybe even stop hobbying for a while. But the mere fact you're hobbying means your relationship isn't giving you all you want. Maybe time for a reevaluation?

As to the phone, you can always password protect it where you have to enter a code to access anything on it. Do this if you plan not to get a hobby phone which is the better of the two options, IMO.

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