So far my Hobbying has been generally centered on enjoying the wide variety of providers available here in NY.  With so many great women to meet with limited time and funds, I rarely end up repeating; and when I do repeat, it's rarely more than 2x and never more than 3.  I thinking one my my New Years resolutions will be to try Hobbying from the other angle and find a few providers that I really like and become more of a "regular client."

So my question to you all, is what do you actually consider a "regular" hobbyist/provider relationship?  I am certainly very curious how that differs from the hobbyist's and the provider's point of view.  How many meetings does it typically take to shift from "new" to "regular".  What is the typical frequency in which you see your regular provider/client.  For hobbyists, what additional benefits do you often enjoy from seeing a particular provider versus seeing someone new.  For you providers, how much more do you appreciate your "regulars" and what additional benefits if any might you give them.

Thanks in advance for sharing.  Look forward to your various perspectives.  
- Spartan

I travel to provide and only one week a month which is great cause I keep it simple and somewhat utr.  I consider a client a regular after 3 visits and a friend after that.  Since I only see my friends once a month it's fun to catch up on what's been going on and it makes the anticipation of our date exciting!  It's really like seeing a long distance lover and you are so excited you can b early stand it.  Which makes being intimate so much more rewarding!  I adore my regulars and I wish more hobbiests enjoyed regulars as well!  I also am a giver and grew up in a big family so I know how to share and will always give great references to great friends and will tell my friends about my beautiful gfs.

1) I would say, regular is more than 5 times and with a certain frequency: either each time she is in town or every two to three months.
2) Advantages: one knows one another, picks up previous subjects from earlier visits, she puts on my favorite music, she does not look at the clock (45 minutes above are normal); we went to the movies off the clock, I had lunch - off the clock - with her and her daughter and her granddaughter(!) - yes she is a great lover and great grandmother; once I visited her in her home-town (an 8 hour flight) where we spent several days together, no fee, I just bought presents. Two other regulars faded away, since they picked other hobbyists as semi-permanent friends.
3) Danger: If affection and subsequently possessiveness develops, a serious crisis might develop also: no jealousy is allowed.

Some regulars play only when work allows & that maybe once a month, or once a week depending upon your responsibilities.  My regs are my real friends, so ususlly an honest set arrangement.

I don't watch the clock.  Say were already friends with benefits & he has a strict budget he can donate 500 cash & take me shopping, or use the credit card to make up for less cash. This individual had been a I enjoy my time with my friends.

We go out to eat, attend M&G's, pick up on other providers, etc..

I prefer the Sugar Daddy&/or BF relationships.   When you have chemistry, then there is never any doubt this is real not fake.  Posts ads all day, or have a few quality friends to make memories to last a life-time.

That's something I'm doing.  I consider once a week regular... For more than a few months. Or every time you're in town for years.  

Most of my clients have been darling friends for years. I'm lucky and happy!  But variety is it's own set of fun. Good luck either way you go.  

Anna xx

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I agree with you here. A SD/SB relationship can be very rewarding for both and take it to a whole different level all together  

Sx

I am a "serial monagamist," in the hobby, so here are my thoughts.

It something that I made a conscious choice to do.  Each time I have become a regular, it has been after seeing multiple providers before I found someone with whom I clicked, had chemistry with and about whom I thought and fantasized between meetings.  For each regular, I saw several providers without ever seeing them again because it just didn't click for me and the experience was purely physical and (for me) too impersonal.

When I have been a regular, frequency has varied.  My first ever TER review (I haven't done a lot) was of a very special friend I met in Atlanta on business 11 years ago.  I would see her every single time I was in town.  At some point, we settled on a donation amount and then we spent as much (or little) time together as we felt like it.  There was no direct relationship between donation and time.  We saw each other for years, even after she had otherwise retired.  Other friends have been a couple of times per month or whenever another lady came into town, with more formal arrangements regarding money and time.

The benefit (aside from less or no clock watching) is a closeness that can be similar to a civilian relationship.  That closeness also means that everything can flow more naturally and with less inhibitions.  Both of you let the session develop in a way that feels natural and real.  My regulars and I have known a great deal about one another and became real friends who could talk honestly.  I have remained in touch with my regulars for periods of years (I remain in contact with all but one currently) and I have known the real names of most of my regulars (though in one case she told me inadvertently when she complained that a web site was using her modeling pic inappropriately), and their names never have crossed my lips (other than in conversation with them).  

As for negatives, you lose variety (if you prize that, and I don't).  And depending upon the situation, feelings can become intense.  On what I recall was my final meeting with my Atlanta regular (I didn't know it was the last meeting until later when our next planned meeting was aborted by her without explanation), she broke down in tears.  I've never had a bad experience, perhaps because I have become regulars only with women whom my radar told me were safe.

What I would say us that, at least I my case, my regulars have been women with whom I connected just as in real life.  Although donations were mandatory, they were largely a formality.  By no means am I saying that this is what being a "regular," has to mean for everyone.  But that is what my experiences have been like.

My relationship has progressed with my favorite provider to where we both are almost married ( except we drink smoke and both enjoy the hot intimacy !! lol ) and we text and send hot erotic pics to each other at all hours and really love each others company. It is something that can't be faked and it's great being a regular with benefits ....

It differs from guy to guy.  Sometimes you meet someone and feel immediately comfortable and others can take a little longer to get to know.  I find that it usually gets better the more you see someone, it's less inhibited, hotter and you know what turns each other on...Usually.  Some initial meetings have first time jitters and then you have to discover the new persons "buttons.  

I have never introduced a client to my family, but that is me.  I know ladies that have introduced their children to there ATF's and include them into their close circle of friends. I feel lucky to have developed some long term friend's I've known for over a decade and then the lines get very blurred.  In a good way.

I also consider a regular once a week or month depending on their budget and some that I only see a few times a year; but, with ATF's you just pick up where you left off.  

As with any relationship it is all about chemistry, it can't be forced or faked. ME, I LOVE REGULARS!

It's nice to see that so many of are nice, loving people and more than capable of developing intimacy within the boundaries of the ubiquitous envelope.  

I love my 'fauxmances' and sometimes when life gets lonely in a big city they keep me sane.  

Just wanted to say cheers to the guys and the girls who posted here!  

Have a great night!

a) I would consider a "regular" relationship in this game as meaning ongoing on a consistent basis.  

b) You generally know at some point during your fist meeting whether you will likely meet again.  But to become a true regular, you have to bond with her.  There will be a meeting where that occurs under the right circumstances...

c) Frequency?  Depends on availability.  Most of my faves live out of town, and only visit NY on a limited basis.  I am ready when they are here to play, and work when they're not.  

d) Extra benefits?  With the ladies I know, I could say it's grandfathered rates.  That is a valuable benefit, but it's the ability to communicate with her on an ad-hoc basis to discuss just about anything that counts most.  That means you are friends, and have bonded...

Good question...

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Thank you.  I wanted (and tried) to give an answer that truly conveyed my experience.  I could say much more, but that probably would be tedious for all.  So, I won't.  Of course, I looked back and realized that I never did a review of my Atlanta friend (memory fails me more than one decade after that first date).  And I overstated things when I said that money became a formality with my regulars other than her.  When I think about it, my Atlanta friend was the only woman for whom the money was not an essential ingredient.  (She told me that she took it only to maintain some emotional distance.)

stated numerous times in this board, it is nice to see when 'real' gentlemen step out from behind the woodworks and are able to express themselves freely and NOT behind an alias. Ridiculous in my book. It takes a true man to do that, so thank you.  

Yes, it is always hard the 'money' piece for some of us believe it or not in this world of companionship but also a necessary means to each of us for our own personal reasons, or I suppose we wouldn't be here. But that shouldn't stop or persuade anything other than true and genuines experiences...it's simply a formality. We are all humans here.  

Thank you again, hope to hear from you more on this board. God knows it needs more men like you and Mr. Spartan on it to speak freely and openly as only 'real' men can.  

Enjoy your holiday s.

I'd say, after 5-6 times, and/or if meeting at least once a month. That's I would really call a "regular".