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When I travel which is quite frequently. Access to email or any form of communication may not be an option.  

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Posted By: loquitur11
It has now happened to me twice that I sent an introductory email to a provider, trying to set up a date, and never heard back anything.  The emails were polite, grammatically correct and included all of the information these ladies asked for on their websites, including a minimum of two references from reliable providers.  Both of these ladies are located in NY.  What reason might a provider have to simply not respond? I could understand a response along the lines of "Sorry, I don't think we're compatible" - I'm not sure why someone would think that, because I'm about as polite, normal and conventional as can be (at least I think I am) - but at least it's courteous.  The total silence is unnerving and makes me wonder what they may have been thinking.  Any ideas?

It has now happened to me twice that I sent an introductory email to a provider, trying to set up a date, and never heard back anything.  The emails were polite, grammatically correct and included all of the information these ladies asked for on their websites, including a minimum of two references from reliable providers.  Both of these ladies are located in NY.  What reason might a provider have to simply not respond? I could understand a response along the lines of "Sorry, I don't think we're compatible" - I'm not sure why someone would think that, because I'm about as polite, normal and conventional as can be (at least I think I am) - but at least it's courteous.  The total silence is unnerving and makes me wonder what they may have been thinking.  Any ideas?

..is maybe they are dead. After that the possibilities are endless.

Did you reference money??? Did you reference anything sexual??

Personally I really hate one liners in an email and most ladies won't respond to them...but I do.  I just think
it is rude not to answer everyone and doesn't speak much to their communication.

I do think it is not right for them to not answer you.  Maybe they are on vacation though??? However most
ladies (at least the professional ones) will have an auto response stating such.

Sorry you are going through this and don't let these 2 ladies stop you.  Some of us out there are  
courteous to others.

Makenzie

nothing about money, nothing about sex.  No four letter words, no suggestiveness.  Really, I try to make a good first impression by being impeccably polite.  That's why I'm so mystified.

When I travel which is quite frequently. Access to email or any form of communication may not be an option.  

Stay safe out there tonight with the weather...
 

Posted By: loquitur11
It has now happened to me twice that I sent an introductory email to a provider, trying to set up a date, and never heard back anything.  The emails were polite, grammatically correct and included all of the information these ladies asked for on their websites, including a minimum of two references from reliable providers.  Both of these ladies are located in NY.  What reason might a provider have to simply not respond? I could understand a response along the lines of "Sorry, I don't think we're compatible" - I'm not sure why someone would think that, because I'm about as polite, normal and conventional as can be (at least I think I am) - but at least it's courteous.  The total silence is unnerving and makes me wonder what they may have been thinking.  Any ideas?

Maybe if you list the name of the offending parties another person who may have emailed the same offending party can provide proof if you are being ignored or she just non-responsive

Of course there are many ways to test if a provider is ignoring one person over another or one inquiry over another, but those can be talked about privately ;)

Maybe she lost the email, it went to spam, etc...

Try to reach out one more time!

I know sometimes I lose an important email and wish they had followed up!!

Makes sense.  Though I don't want to sound like some kind of desperate stalker.  Guess I can always try again another time.

I lost a couple people that way... I was very disheartened that they never responded. It's hard for us to remember emails when we've never met before. Especially with all the chaos in our regular lives.. We need to be reminded sometimes too :)

Sometimes, through no fault of your own, a certain email server could be flagged by another email provider as spam. Then, all emails sent from accounts that are hosted on that server will be marked as spam.  

It happens a lot with the lesser known free email sites, and aol servers (if anyone still uses those)

~Mme X~

Posted By: loquitur11
It has now happened to me twice that I sent an introductory email to a provider, trying to set up a date, and never heard back anything
after 2 hours? 2 days? 2 weeks?
The emails were polite, grammatically correct and included all of the information these ladies asked for on their websites, including a minimum of two references from reliable providers.  Both of these ladies are located in NY.  What reason might a provider have to simply not respond
within what time limit?  
I could understand a response along the lines of "Sorry, I don't think we're compatible" - I'm not sure why someone would think that, because I'm about as polite, normal and conventional as can be (at least I think I am) - but at least it's courteous.  The total silence
for the past [time period?]
is unnerving and makes me wonder what they may have been thinking.  Any ideas?
Neither do you say if she specific requirements: Use her web form only, no email. Use VM or text, not email. Put [key phrase] in the subject so it doesn't go to spam. ..

time frame for no reply - EVER.  As if I never sent the email.  And the subject line is usually the date.

Escort mailboxes get filled up very quickly.  I've heard sometimes hundreds of messages a day.  It's possible your message was just missed in the masses.  

They don't have the time to reply to everyone that doesn't meet their requirements, so they ignore those messages and just reply to the ones they will see.  If they try to write back to someone and say no, then they get into a back and forth of why and that takes up even more time.  

It sucks to not get a response, but sometimes that's how it goes.  Maybe one of your references wasn't as happy with you as you think.  Or maybe there is a red flag in your reviews.  

You may never know.

Try a second time with "I wasn't sure if you received my first message..."  If you don't hear after that, then move on.

I've had a provider suggest a red flag in my reviews. Actually, it was the provider's assistant who questioned my 6 and 7 ratings. Of course, I then had to explain that these were for massages and sometimes the highest rating that can be awarded for a massage is a 7, according to TER's rating system. Sometimes, they need to look at more than the #s...

it takes nothing to send a "I'm sorry but I don't think we're a match" note.  Only takes an ounce of class that some ladies just don't have.

I personally don't reply to one line emails.
I like when someone introduce themselves and include references and screening .
I try to answer all my emails. Some get into spam ....
If I think we are not a good fit , I will politely reply .
It's all about courtesy , and it goes both ways!

Xoxox
Vanessa

You can follow up, and see if that works in getting a response.  If not, it probably is not meant to be, and I would move on.

Personally, I don't think your reviews are of an unacceptable nature.  

I have found through talking with other gentlemen, that not all ladies are the best when it comes to communicating. I personally, like to respond with a nice thanks but no thanks email if I am unable to see the gentleman for whatever reason, but some ladies just don't answer if they don't think that they will be able to see you. Since you requested a specific day in your subject line, maybe they were booked up or off that day. Maybe the it was something else, but if I were you I would definitely not take it personally! From what you have described, you are polite and follow the rules so you shouldn't worry. If you've already followed up and still no response, move on. Maybe at some point in the future try again and it will work. I definitely don't think you should take it personally, we all do things differently and so there isn't a way to find out why they didn't respond, short of talking to them at some point in the future.

Posted By: loquitur11
You're right.  Thanks.

is that I usually send an email rather than use the form on the provider's website.  Could it be that the email could get lost whereas the form won't?

In the days when I had a form, it was set up that when it was filled out correctly I'd receive a priority flagged email/text that never got lost + I had a copy on my server so there was no chance of missing it. I assume most ladies have forms like this.

Emails will all kinds of subjects get lost all the time however I noticed that so many gentlemen prefer emails over forms and seemingly would rather take that risk....

I just want to throw it out there that if a lady has a nice secure form, fill it out for the first contact. If you are worried about a reply then you just upped your chances of getting one back drastically.

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