Being a Provider for quite a while now I have encountered a plethora of incredible beauties in this service provided hobby we play in. I do however get very frustrated and saddened with the gossip and the lies that 'some' providers deem honourable to hurt others. It's difficult to trust anyone in this industry (though I have made some amazing friends) but some women can be a hit or miss. Jealousies, insecurities and self sabotaging tendencies can instigate those that tell others negative information about others usually by word of mouth or email (not necessarily the 'truth'). I had a situation at a Meet and Greet a while back when whom I thought was a girl 'friend' was not; she decided that she (and some others) would make up lies that I was talking shit about them. This was not the case; and with that, I will never attend anymore public appearances again. It saddens me that some women can be so catty and jealous believing that their gossiping makes them appear and feel beautiful and cool. It does not. In fact, those women (and you know who you are) end up with the short end of the stick while adding bad karma to your life. It actually takes a lot of energy to hurt another person.  My father always said "If you don't have anything nice to say, then DON'T say it at all." Gossip is a social disease that separates us as Providers when truly we should embrace each other as being unique, special and giving individuals that care about each other. As well, I have noticed that the men in this hobby also love to talk about providers and reviewers like the morning news. Lies, mis-information and the like provide an ill-will, negative atmosphere for all of us.  If I had a wish that would come true for all of us - it would be that everyone would stick to their own soap opera lives and leave others alone.

The females of any species want the most attractive and strong males as mates. And in this biz attracting men is tied directly to a lot of ladies livelyhood. Taking down a competitor is business as usual. Just watch shows like "Survivor" or "Big Brother". The weak or those who feel inferior gang up on the talented and strong in order as a way to survive. One would hope an individual would better him/herself instead, but that requires hard work, and may seem impossible for some.

Don't fret darling - I had a similiar situation when I was on top of my game. I was happy with escorting and my great clients, had a flourishing personal social and career life and perfectly clear skin. LOL. But regardless of rumors (that I admit did hurt since they came from supposed friends), I had so much else going well for me I could hard count myself as unfortunate.

This might be a chance for you to learn more about yourself, the world around you and the business. Then show those bitches like Martha Stewart you're still one of the best.

Good luck.

Kisses,
Vanica

It is rooted in insecurity. People feel they need to cut others down to validate themself. On one hand hard not to feel indignant when you feel you have been disrespected but if you stop and think about it hard to not feel some pity when you realize it is rooted in self doubt and insecurity.