I am new to the hobby (in fact still a virgin for reasons to be explained) and have only been coming here for a few months to read reviews and save as favorites those which look very promising.

I have a question for providers, and perhaps a few hobbist who can directly relate, though I am thinking that number will be small (again, for reasons to be explained momentarily).

I am an African American man. I have been to a small number (yes, a small number, but the fact that they exist at all gives me pause) of provider web pages that SPECIFICALLY spell out that the provider will entertain WHITE MEN ONLY. I suppose that is their right mind you, but having never seen a provider web page that said the escort would only cater to BLACK MEN, I still feel slighted.

Now, with these small number of webpages in question, none of the ladies there were "my type" (and we shall leave it at that) to begin with, so no harm, no foul. But, how am I to know if a more upscale companion, sophistacated enough to know better than to put such detail on her webpage (lest she risk offending others besides black males) feels the same way? How will I deal with her disappointed when she arrives at my door? Will I end up with a less than memorable (but equally costly) experience? I mean...do I REALLY need to point out that I am Black? Why should I have to?

I was recently discussing this with a WF friend who dates BM nearly exclusively, and her response was that she thought there might be trouble because, her words, "Black men don't pay for it anyway". Without getting into an analysis of all that statement might mean, her INTENDED implication was that any provider I was to meet might have little to no experience with African American men, and thus would be uncomfortable or ill at ease with the "date". Worse case, she might feel this way but decide to spend her time with (and collect her fee from) me anyway, thus leaving me both unhappy and poorer for the trouble.

How can I avoid this? Any advice from providers? Any advice from hobbist?

So...as long as I have you...if I still have you...I am looking for my first hobby experience to be a multi hour out call (my downtown Manhattan apartment) session with a VERY sensual and seductive companion who will be both comfortable with and experienced in exotic dancing. I am looking to have an experience of BOTH the body and the mind...to be seduced. Dancing for my arousal, intermingled with intimate conversation, DFK and warm embraces (the kind the don't permit in Mens Clubs. Essetially I am looking for the experience I have for years tried to "purchase" in upscale gentlemen's clubs...except I want to listen to MY music (you ever here Jazz in a strip joint?) dring MY liquor (Grey Goose isn't real common in dancer bars) and have the encouter end with a companion who is seeking to PLEASE rather than TEASE.

Any thoughts? Recommendations?

Thanks for the help!!

I believe that everyone should benefit from the experience of a genuinely fulfilling experience regardless how it was initiated. It sounds like we have similiar interests. I am an adult film star, but first and foremost I am a woman of style and substance. If you have time, check out my FREE website and check out my bio. I think you will find we have a lot in common! I am so much more a lounge rat than a club kid... I actually LIKE being able to hold a conversation with the person I'm with instead of yelling at them.


I'll be arriving in New York on Tuesday and staying for a week. I'd love to invite you over to my Upper East Side digs for an unforgettable experience. Being a porn star and a complete GFE means my rates are a little bit higher than most, but in life, there are some luxuries worth paying for.

I'm 5'1", 110#, Naturally curly hair, big brown eyes... Let me know if you'd be interested in meeting while I'm in town.

Welcome, I'm sorry to hear of your somewhat negative experiances. The web is of course representational of people and society and you will unfortunetly find ignorance and BS here as you would anywhere. Also, not to defend "white" oriented escorts but i will just add that as a white guy who very much appreciates women of color, i have run into similiar "for Black Men" escort sites. It's unfortunate, but whatever, their loss! The world/web is too big for us to waste our time on these type of sites, there's too many quality site's out that that are cool, and have a better bottom line. You are obviously an intelligent, educated indivdual, i don't know any escort that would pass up a "quality" date period  I haven't "seen" this women (Bianca) before but i know she used to be an exotic dancer. I've had really good luck with this site being a quality provider. www.cityvibe.com/newyork/  Good luck! Enjoy!

Thank you for the kind words and the referal....

There really are "Black Males Only" Escorts with webpages? Wow...I would think that economics and a basic understand of the market place (potential market size, etc.) would discourage such practices, but as you say, there is ignorance (of ALL sorts, including of smart business practices) in every corner of this wordl we live in.

Regarding the photo...an attractive woman indeed....

I paid a visit to your site, and your are an attractive woman indeed!

I shall send private coorespondence straight away...

Unfortunate isn't it? I get many guys who call and say " But you don't sound black!!!" What??? Then they hang up. I guess they think I'm going to rob them and get my big black pimp to beat them up. This business brings out what is usualy hidden in public. I have very few black clients, because most want a white lady. I have never discriminated in my business or personal life. As for the black men only sites, I would love to see it. What is the URL??? I have never heard of this and would love to see if it exists.

Hi Monet! I am very interested in meeting you and featuring you on my website. Please contact me via email @ [email protected].

xoxo, Sinn

hey cutie, well of course now that "i'm on the spot", i can't seem to find any, i guess i didn't bookmark them. I probably was misled anyway, i know there are a lot of great black "oriented" resources out there especially for porn, but i'm sure they don't say "no caucasians allowed!" sorry if that was misleading,...

You present an interesting issue. I used to wonder about the so-called "difference" in the "experience".  I'd like to share some of the highlights of my limited experience. I refer to the difference as the "transaction" versus "relationship" experience. It can in fact transcend ethnic barriers, but only behind closed doors. I have surprised quite a few ladies when I showed up at their door. They were expecting someone else. An articulate black man showed up. I was always the same person. The subject of my desire varied often. Sometimes African-American, sometimes Euro-American, sometimes Latina or Asian American. When a man and a woman get together in a permissive, intimate setting, a certain truth is evident- we were placed on this earth for each other! We can embrace, our bodies can become entangled in a passionate frenzy and nothing else will matter.
It is only when the shades are raised and the doors are opened that we revert back to our societal constraints. In our hearts we may yearn for each other, but we must maintain a certain façade. We don't want to come across as being too "liberal" in our views towards other groups.

Let's talk about one of the "professional aspects" of the business. I have described myself  (…African-American male…) prior to an encounter only to have all details about a future meeting with a woman cease! What happened to equal opportunity?

When I have the opportunity to share some intimate time with an African-American woman, it is supposed to be more than just a transaction. Not only can we exchange pleasure, we can also feel each other's pain. And there is a history of pain! Think about it for a moment-pain, pleasure and passion. These elements let you know that you are alive! And what if we venture into public? No one is going to look twice if they see us together on the street (unless one of us is married…). The real difference in the experience is because society has delineated a difference.

One final comment-if you can entice a woman into the type of setting you have described, I only hope that she can appreciate your efforts. You are on your way to providing a "boyfriend experience" for the lucky woman!

Best regards,
"Othello"
([email protected])

Thanks for sharing your thoughts....I appreciate you taking the time to do so.

What you described above when conducting the "transaction" is EXACTLY what I am worried about. What happens when a prospective provider learns that I am African American? Will she care? If so, what opinions will she form? Will these be to my benefit or detriment?

You mentioned that you have "surprised" providers at their doorstep when they had a chance to see you in person. What became of these encounters? Would you say their surprise was just that...surprise ("you don't 'sound' black") without malice, and things proceeded to the mutual satisfaction of all? Or, would you say that regret...or even dissidence followed surprise?

I am still not exactly sure how best to proceed. I would like to think I could go forward as though my ethic background were a non issue (I mean, my money is very green…isn’t this the primary concern?) but life experience has taken away the luxury of nativity. I guess I will continue to seek feedback from others and try to discern next best steps…..