Simple. Use the TER search function to choose age, ethnicity, looks, performance and whatever else appeals to you.

How do you normally do things where you usually hang out?  

To see who is current and active, look at the first 2 or 3 pages of the NY Ad Board (many posts include pictures).  

Assuming you are VIP, search reviews narrowed down to NY along with your other preferences. The most recent reviews are guaranteed to be currently active (within the past 90 days or less). However, you could miss many of our NY gems who are active but not with recent reviews. (Many repeat and regular customers don't update their old reviews.)