next up don't use your wife as a reference

Agencies. You covered providers and clients however IMO
a greater risk may be with agencies. They may store your info.
Agencies must be diligent to always delete client info from
thier computers in case they are raided or pressured to
turn over hardware to LE.

How about don't book from the Treasury department...

esp when your boss has a re-election bid in a few months?

I don't have a problem telling a provider where I work if I feel comfortable, but as far as putting that in an email or via any kind of electronic medium...no way.

If a girl requires that, I require her to call me and we can discuss that on the phone.  If the girl wants all this information but won't even call me, then there is no session.

I am happy to deal with screening, but let's just not be stupid.  All the company IT guy or compliance officer has to do is google the email address, and they will know you are into something that is better kept under wraps.