You.know we read your reviews and use them to decide whether to book a date or not.

For example, if a guy has mentioned something specific in a multiple reviews like a certain fetish he's into, we can see if we'd be able to accommodate it or if it's not something we're able to do and have to turn down.

Never to make a decision not to see, per se.  

I read them sometimes but part of this hobby is excitement so i kinda like to be surprised although there are sometimes that you wish you would have glanced i prefer when a gentlemen is straight forward and lets me know what he or she likes.

I always read reviews! Partially out of curiosity, partially in preparation. Fo sho I have declined to see someone based on insights gleaned from his past reviews, but more often it's the case I get in touch because I liked them  

maybe you are a low scorer, maybe you like a specific type of lady, maybe there is something that makes us shy away from you.  There are many variables on both sides that determine interest.

Especially if it is someone you REALLY want so see. You know how a lot of guys say a woman never returned their email?

I try to write fair and honest reviews, and have never had someone tell me they did not want to see me because of my reviews.  It's also very rare for me not to get a reply from an inquiry.  If there was a provider who didn't want to see me because of my reviews, I would think we probably are not a good match and my money would be better spent on someone else.  I have also had some providers who took the time to read my reviews actually take noticeable steps to cater to some of my likes or preferences...  It does work both ways, and can further speed the screening process too!

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Your common sense is such a turn on!!

YOU'RE the customer. YOU should decide if the "product/service" is right for you, not the other way around.  

Yes, don't expect to get a date with anyone on the "top" list if you tend to give out 8's when other guys are browbeaten into giving 10's

I think Rayen just made Jack's point in spades.

Another major red flag for Rayen was "it is essential to so see how you review." Wtf? ESSENTIAL????

But realistically what girl in her right mind is going to see a guy who's given multiple and consecutive low scores (anything under 5)?  

Always the dickhead.  Let me enter you as exhibit "A for asshole".  We do our homework as well.  What, you guys think you can just flash cash???!!!  LOL.  Get real

Oh, come on dude.  I am only talking about guys who see all sorts of gorgeous women and always give low scores.   There are those bitter men who hate that they have to pay for it and punish us accordingly, just as there are women who do equally bad things.  You have to admit there are men who never seem to be happy.

Which almost never happens. But feel free to court her here. Lol.  

With your testimonial, I'll have a shot though, so thank you in advance. LOL

Love it when people argue for grade inflation. Lol.

I guess the family is gone? lol

LOL.  Yes, you are getting your old stained undies in a twist.  Things do change.  Not worried about what an old man hiding behind a new name thinks about me.  Ha.

All publicity is good.  Thanks

Posted By: JackDunphy

With your testimonial, I'll have a shot though, so thank you in advance. LOL  
   
 But I did make the "Asshole" designation in record time, so you're a little late to that party.  
   
 And no, it's not always about the cash. Many girls take my TER Platinum Card, too.  
   
 A little known benefit of that card is that it provides me insurance in case I am sued by over the hill hookers and...Aldo.

Nope you couldn't be, you're fairly new.

"All publicity is good." The rallying cry of every hooker as she hits BSC status!  

Ah, always glad to give an old serial hobbyist his due.  As long as you are happy since it obviously doesn't come between the sheets anymore....LOL>

I always read the reviews to see the way the gent talks about the lady. This gives me a good impression of the gentlemens personality. If he seems like an asshole I may not see him. But I also use his reviews to get an idea of what he likes to get an idea of what will make him happy!

And after seeing your pics, a lot thinner too.  

I'm always interested why hobbyists are so angry (albeit passive aggressive most times) that any provider older than 35 makes a FABULOUS living??!!  Is it because you are stuck in an office at the mercy of some loser boss?  What is it exactly?  My amused mind is curious?  I make a great living even though I am supposedly "old and over the hill".  Yeah, well, in any civvy situation I look marvelous  

It usually doesn't. Pathetic post are all I have.

hmm, lets see!

Perhaps you're the one without a full membership. I might not have been on here for decades like yourself but my reviews are excellent and my scores are great too.

Posted By: JackDunphy

Nope you couldn't be, you're fairly new.  
   
 Your inbox will now be filled by whoever is on call from that esteemed group to brow beat you to bring that "5" up to at least a "9".  
   
 Prepare yourself to hear from the full membership soon.  
   
 Wouldnt want to be you in the next few days.

Terrible! lol

If a girl is so pretentious that she won't see you because you give low scores.. Zzzzz... Boring. That's not what I'm taking about.

Some guys love calling ladies bitch, whore, slut, etc.. It turns then on. It turns on some girls too. It doesn't turn me on. So.. If a guy uses that terminology in his reviews.. Wouldn't it make more sense to tell them that perhaps we wouldn't be a good fit? Or it's better for him to show up.. Try to talk like that.. Me ask him to stop... Then, "she asked me to not call her a whore. Did she not read any of my other reviews?"

This is actually making sense what you are saying but you're not hung up on scores, like Rayen, and many others.

Keep the ice just where it's at. I prefer to not be a part of any childish negative group on TER.  
If I wanted that, well.. I would go find a boyfriend.

Nice male bashing though. I pine for your next "mature" and "positve" post.  

If a woman wishes not to see a guy, are there any wrong reasons? Does there need to be a legitimate reason why she won't see him? It's an intimate act, if the writing turns her off, who cares, it's her choice, better that than someone who sees anyone who contacts her, no?

If you didn't b/c of the overwhelming volume, lol, let me give you the cliff notes version:  

One post trying to retract being a jerk to a stranger.. She's not in to it.. You're back on your original game plan.
I have four brothers.. You're not unique.

Spartan gets sexier by the moment.

On the other hand, if he does have reviews written and he doesn't mention his handle, and I find out afterwards then I think he's trying to hide something you know? Just be up front with anything you've got. The worst that happens is that she doesn't see you. If you hide it however, and she does see you, it's kind of a mind fuck, why didn't you just say you were so and so?

Yes, some ladies are screening guys out based on their review history.  And absolutely, a guys preferences and tastes do change, including mine.

..... it just like how guys say board posts are a glimpse into personality well reviews are about the same for me.  His scores don't particularly bother me as much as how he writes (nit-picky and mean, douche-y, narcissistic OR fair, sweet, romantic, shy etc). I screen for safety and compatibility and reviews are a part of that if he's written any and also if I get a review well I want to know exactly who it's coming from.


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Knowledge about how this game really works is king, however, and now you have rock solid evidence from the likes of Luna and Rayen and others about the downside of using your TER handle.  

"I prefer to not be a part of any childish negative group on TER. If I wanted that, well.. I would go find a boyfriend."

... Luna did have a point when she said something like a lady in their right mind won't exactly jump hoops over someone always giving bad scores (under 5 or 6). Before flat out turning a guy down I will ask him about his history and why he's scored that way .... aside from how he's written those reviews well his response/reaction is also important. Some guys do not like being questioned about it  ... I have some few not so stellar reviews I have no problem explaining the circumstances (retaliatory, fake, off day for both possibly etc) and it should be the same way as well. Him having all or mostly crappy scores might not stop me from seeing him ... it all depends. I'm fair.

If she doesn't ask for a TER handle, fine, but are you suggesting that if a chick asks for it as part of her screening process that you either deny having one or give her your "alternate" handle? If so, that's fucked up. Here's an example of something I once read in a review by a potential client that made me go "oh hell no": "I stuck my finger in her ass and she acted like she didn't like it but I think she did so I just kept doing it." There's no way I'd see someone with that sort of disgusting attitude, and that's my right. By withholding that information, you're essentially taking that choice away. If I don't want to see someone who writes vile shit or clearly wants things that are not part of what I offer, that should be my prerogative. If you're going to write certain things on a public forum, you should expect to stand by them. Otherwise, you're behaving in a cowardly, shady way and it's just weak. The fact that there are guys out there who make conscious efforts to circumvent our screening really gives me the creeps. Don't be that guy.  

Do you "demand" it in order to see you Tobi? Do guys have to write reviews in order to see you? If thats the case, good for you.  

God no, 95% of my clients don't use TER, and I actually prefer to keep my reviews to a minimum. I don't "demand" anything. There's a section on my screening form where I ask for site handles/IDs (TER, P411, etc) and I've never had an issue with someone filling that in when applicable.  

The response the provider sent you was probably more of an insight into her true being than many men have received from women they have visited six, seven times. All the "personal history" and the OTC chat clients so cherish seldom return such honesty of a woman allowing you to gaze on her naked soul like that. You are truly fortunate.

use this place to screen nor book and I really have no interest in his previous engagements. But I will look at how he posts, if he is a poster on this forum. That will make a big difference whether I will see him or not.

Someone like that should be outed, in addition to you placing him on your DNS list, so we agree there.  

I'm not talking about just casually failing to mention that you write reviews. I'm talking about either denying it outright or giving the lady your secondary handle in order to get around her being able to make a choice based on that factor.  

and when scores like 7/7 or 8/8 are considered "insulting" there is a lot more grade inflation than guys giving low scores. I would argue that the low scores are actually the only honest ones in a system where 10/10's are given out like candy.

I will admit that there are guys who hate the fact that they have to pay for it, and those same guys are rarely happy, but they still hand out 9/9's to women who by any honest scale would only rate a 7/7 at most. Due to grade inflation any women who averages 7's is almost always butt ugly, and nowhere near "attractive" which is what a 7 is "supposed to be.