I think - a lot more guys needs some lessons...

There is a book called She Comes First that may be a good read for you.  

Sorry that I can't point you in the right direction for a provider. You'll probably have no trouble finding someone who will give you real time feedback, but consider this angle: You're asking a mechanical question, right? "Show me strategies that are likely to give a woman pleasure." Fair enough - it's a great question. But if you look at a lot of the literature on female sexual fantasy (Nancy Friday is a great author on this topic) you'll find that strong desire (the woman feeling desired by the man) is at the root of almost all of them. "Show me how to make her feel" is as good a request as "show me how to touch her." Good luck on your search.

I'll check it out.