Hi all. A provider with whom I recently spent time is displaying pics on a web add  that are manifestly not her. (the pictures she once displayed on her web site -- she took removed them from said site recently -- were her, but around five years younger and at least twenty pounds lighter.)

The provider in question, based on our conversations, was more or less driven to "the life" by economic necessity. I have no interest in messing with someone's livelihood, especially in this the fourth year of Obamanomics, but at the same time, it's false advertising; and while I realize that a certain amount of this business is based on "illusion," her inaccurate representations are a bridge or two too far. Any suggestions on how to communicate this in a polite manner? She was a nice person and we had a pretty decent time. (I would not repeat, though.)

And on the subject of politeness -- anyone got advice on how a hobbyist can gracefully exit an assignation if on arrival what you see is widely divergent from what promised?

... an honest review would most likely be the appropriate action to take if the pics were *that* out of line with current reality.  There are plenty of guys who like a few extra pounds so being honest about her figure won't necessarily hurt her business.  You can certainly stress her positives while still being honest about her appearance.

As for how to politely extricate yourself when first meeting someone who is not as advertised... Simply say "I don't think this is going to work out.  What would you consider a fair cancellation fee?"   Now, some will say she deceived you with inaccurate pics and therefore deserves nothing - and I don't entirely disagree with them.  However, chances are that she has your screening info and if so, it's better to offer something to mollify her than run the risk that she may do something unseemly with that info.  Whatever it takes to get out of the situation with both sides feeling somewhat intact is generally better than sticking to a hard-core principle (unless you have nothing to lose).

I bet you also post movie reviews that start with "This movie would have been better if Obama wasn't in office."

We don't fucking care for your moron opinion.  Save it for the politics board.

Well stated. I'll have to remember that.

... now you want to "politely" save her from herself. Say what you want to say in a review.

Here are the conflicting issues:

1.  You seem to be a respectful guy.

2.  She needs the money, and this it the last resort for her (I'm reading into this one, admittedly).

3.  She might have your screening info.

4.  Giving her a bad review would hurt her economically when she admitted she was driven to this.

5.  Walking on her would also be bad for her.

6.  Walking on her might also trigger some problems if she has your personal info.

Here are my answers to your questions.

1.  Communicate this AFTER the fact by saying...I enjoyed my time with you and appreciate that you put your all into the session.  One thing that has me concerned for your future business is the variance between the photos and your current appearance.  While I enjoyed our session, I can see how other clients might decide not to say, given the disparity between pics and current appearance.  I just wanted to point this out, and communicate that to you, since your goal is to use this as a way to get a steady clientele.

2.  Communicate this BEFORE the meeting by saying...In the past I have had some experiences whicih were less than optimal because the pics were not representative of the provider.  I just wanted to ask if they were representative of your current appearance.  If they aren't, could you please tell me what you currently look like?  Sorry to ask this question, but in the past I have ended up walking out on the session because our expectations were not aligned.  Thank you in advance for your response.

And, in your own words, had a "pretty decent time".   I'll assume that means you had at least one SOG, which is what you were looking for in the first place.

In the wake of that, why not just do the right thing, which is to write a review.  As for seeing or communicating with her again, that's optional on your part.      

Thanks much, Edrienne. Have a great day.

LOL dude -- you need to get your pipes cleaned. Sorry for the tsuris I caused.

Thanks Crazy -- much appreciated. all the best.

And if you fear retribution, use an alias.

That "exit fee" suggestion was hilarious.  

That's why you should never give a hooker your real info that they can use against you.

1. Why not shoot her an e-mail and see what her response is.  If her response is confrontational, then I would do an honest review.  If her response is apologetic, then I would let her know that she is being dishonest and suggest she posts more accurate picture and bio of herself.  

2. Luckily, I never had to run away from a lady.  Tho' I have been disappointed with the gal's command of English esp. for a dinner date.  I like what Edrienne Cole suggests.  But I'm sure Edrienne could sell me anything.

...profiles state "real photo: Yes" and "photo accurate: Yes". If she truly resembles those Victoria Secret models, even though the photos are not of her, she may be seeking discretion and I totally understand that approach. However if she in no way resembles the photos (hers or not), I would say it is totally OK to decline the meeting and leave without paying any type of departure fee. After all, you should not have to pay for or support deception. Best of luck in your adventures!! xoxo

Ouchy!! That is a tough situation. How long ago has it been since you have seen this particular woman. Is it possible that she has lost weight and gotten a little bit of work lol...She may have possibly reverted herself back to the woman in the pictures. She may not be as deceitful as you are assuming. It's sad and deplorable if this woman is being deceitful, but if not by making a stink you would be culpable of effecting her livelihood. If you are this concerned maybe you should "take it for the team (again)" If after meeting she proves herself to not be the woman that she displays then you can write a book of a bad review. Otherwise you may have to let "karma" go to her desk and catch this fibbing lady (who ruins it for everyone) in her tracks.  Have a nice day guys!

Kisses!

Now that you done your Mitzvah for the year…

If you really are/were “Concerned” you would have:
(A) Walked out – not staring your meeting and if she would have called you could have told her – my apologizes you’re much “Fluffier in Person” no thank you  
(B) Addressed the matter with the “Unnamed Provider” prior or after you finished - send an email, call or “Bat Signal”; but nevertheless discuss the matter privately

You Pop, You Saw, You Left… Move on. So now we all await for your “New Review” post; holding our breaths, tapping our pens, biting out nails; which Provider should wear the scarlet “A” this week… SMH.

The world is a safer place because of your contribution. (eom)


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Historically, I've had situation where the air brushed picture was much nicer than the actual girl as well and the experience was less than ideal and I've given the agreed donation since she tried to do her end.

So recently, I paid a voluntarily $100 cancellation fee when a girl didn't seem to be as advertised/unexpectedly not my type.  

At this point, I'd suggest that shooting her an e-mail if you want.  But as everyone notes before me, if you gave her enough information to cause you trouble, it may be time to just walk away period.

I certainly don't.
Kind of like thinking i have to marry every girl I fuck.
There are nearly two pages of reviews of female NY escorts with five or more reviews, active sites and numbers about whom reviewers have indicated the photos are neither real nor fair representations of the provider.