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Liking a Provider above and beyond the service and you think she feels the same way
Ipdailey 731 reads
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Ipdailey618 reads

I meant to continue thread question on subject with this question as well. Do you let the provider know how you feel and see if the feeling is mutual, ask her out on a legit date or just keep it bottled up knowing that in your heart this is just a business for them without ant emotion?? Thoughts..

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justlivindlife508 reads

I'm of the opinion you keep quiet.  

If she feels the same way let her be the one to bring this up.  You run the risk
of being cut off if your assumptions are incorrect.  At minimum the
dynamic of the relationship will change once you let the cat out of the bag.


If this is weighing heavily on you I'd suggest taking
one further step and taking a break from seeing her
and see if the feeling subsides.

Ultimately you have to decide what's best for you.

This topic has been discussed many a time with
responses running the full spectrum.

Anything above and beyond the "norm" should always be on her
terms.

Good luck to you.

JLL






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tg_baby509 reads

It isn't necessarily "just a business for them without any emotion." I personally have feelings for many clients, above and beyond the "service." Trust, admiration, friendship, interest, curiosity, gratitude,  attraction, love (but not being IN love). That is completely normal, especially with longtime clients. So if you're sensing something from her, you might be right. But it doesn't have to be one way or the other. She might enjoy your company, might enjoy the sex, might even have some romantic feelings for you. But think about it - does that really mean that things MUST progress beyond the client/provider dynamic? Or should?

Remember it's her job to make you feel good...and even part of her job to enjoy your company (that creates a better experience for you).

Remember that you don't really know her that well. You've seen a certain side of her, and she has behaved a certain way...she aims to make YOU happy. In an actual relationship, things could be QUITE different.

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MrJohnGalt394 reads

Posted By: Ipdailey
I meant to continue thread question on subject with this question as well. Do you let the provider know how you feel and see if the feeling is mutual, ask her out on a legit date or just keep it bottled up knowing that in your heart this is just a business for them without ant emotion?? Thoughts..
If you want to ask her out, just ask her out. You will probably just drive yourself crazy if you don't.

And if she says no? Big deal. At least you will know where you stand with her.

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Monkeybiz2349 reads

In life, we all have many different types of relationships. This is just another. Enjoy it for what it is.

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jimmycefalo309 reads

happened to me with a PS. Let her now and needless to say she didn't feel the same way. Will never let that happen again

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laurensummerhill537 reads

This is the great taboo, it is as naive to believe it never happens as it is to believe it happens all the time.

I know people who crossed the line. I also know two cases where there was a marriage. More often than not they fail, and it's already rare to begin with.

Do not go on assumption, if she wants to go further it should be said out right without you having to ask. Beware of people playing your emotions to take advantage, both men and women are guilty of this.

Once you cross out of this world, you will both be victim to all the same problems of a civie relationship. Professional companionship sets a different standard for both people, and with less frequent contact those pitfalls can be avoided, sometimes lulling people into a false sense of expectation when they want a traditional relationship. It will NOT be the same.

Consider long term arrangements, if the connection is genuine, she'll work with you to make it attainable.  That way can find that special balance which only mistressdom can provide, and the magic spell doesn't have to be broken.

However, if you choose to have a traditional relationship, be prepared to learn she is every bit as flawed a human being as the women who have come before her, and she will learn the same of you.

-- Modified on 11/10/2012 5:55:40 PM

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Ipdailey294 reads

Just my thoughts on all reply's I don't care what some of the assholes on the thread has to say, we all have emotion regardless if we pay or not.see how many reads were one on the original thread. So that proves my point on subject line

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