OK, so I left Jersey like 30 years ago, and now I am traveling back with some regularity to take care of my mother (82 and failing health) so since I am away for a few days at a time, have a good excuse to see a provider!  Mom is in Bloomfield, so thats where I stay, so outcall to me is a no-go; looking for a  mid-day incall with a mature (I'm 50 , so not looking for a 20 something kid) provider in the 40's to 50's range that isnt worn out and used up and that I can have an intelligent conversation with and escape the responsibilities of taking care of Mom- ("hey Mom, heading over to Home Depot- see you later this afternoon") kind of idea- any decent suggestions that I wont have to drive all over creation to find??

I have heard good things about this lady and she has very good reviews.  Seems to fit your requirements.  Definitely on my bucket list.