There is a provider I saw in CT a couple years ago named Lily (if you think you have seen her, DM me to see if we are talking about same person as I am NOT posting her full info here). I am NOT sure if she is even active right now. When I contacted her, I was respectful. When I saw her, we only fooled around (I was NOT interested in anything more). We had common interests such as both loving Ghostbusters, Star Wars, and Superman/DC. We also had intellectual conversation. She said she had fun and she thinks I am a sweet person. I reached out again a little while later, no response. Followed-up and just got ghosted. Finally heard from her and she said she is taking a break. Also, that perhaps we can see each other when she is back. I waited a while before I reached out again and was still getting ghosted. Well, I went on the review site to ask on the message board about the situation to get an idea as if she was still working or if I had inadvertently done something. She got word of this. We had an e-mail exchange, she accused me of violating her boundaries and said that I violated them when I saw her. I was nothing but respectful, and we hardly did anything sexual. She did not explain how I violated her boundaries when we saw each other. I apologized for anything I may have done wrong. Long story short, she put me on some unfindable blacklist site, including my number. I am near positive she also wrote about me on Mr.Number app, saying I violate boundaries and am “off” (I am ADD/“neurodivergent” so this stung). Now I keep getting these threatening blackmail calls/texts from supposed escort “cartels”/“whorehouses.” I have tried to contact her multiple times about these texts and to please remove my number. Do I have any recourse here? Basically, what can be done? If you think we have seen same person and had similar issues, please DM me (again, I do not want post anything else besides her “first name”). I am NOT innocent in situation as far as the miscommunications and I apologized to her for that.
If you're saying you posted her real "first name" then you've broken a major boundary and should pull this post. Beyond that, you seem like someone who has more than one problem with girls' boundaries. One wonders who else you've upset? Perhaps this game is not for you.
As for blacklists, in my experience once you're on them it's forever.
If that bothers you, just another reason to retire. But if you're as big a head case as I suspect, you won't do well with civie dating or in the Sugar World.
That is not her real first name. I am sorry if you misinterpreted. That is her working name. I would appreciate a little more sensitivity. Read what I said. I did not violate boundaries. I was nothing but respectful. I did not even want to do anything sexual.
How ironic for someone who has come here basically stalking someone and asking for our help to do it. And sadly, you don't even realize that you can actually be "nothing but respectful" and STILL "violate boundaries."
You are a walking, talking commercial of someone who should not be playing this game.
Ted Bundy? LMAO! Not even close dude. You watch too much TV. I am getting harassing texts because she shared my number. I have reason for contacting her multiple times over this when what she did is causing me to get multiple harassing text:s from what seem to be scammers. We had a miscommunication and that was partially on me. I apologized. As for what happened when we were together (“violating boundaries”), I explained it honestly down to our topics of conversation. We did not do much activity (outside of what I said we did) because I did not want to. If I came off wrong or “unhinged” in my post, I apologize.
I never mentioned Ted Bundy so you are once again off base. "Ted" is an alias that also replied to you.
So in addition to being a boundary-challenged horse's ass you also have a major reading comprehension problem.
Please go find somewhere else to display your emotional deficits.
Oh, and....get help. Professional help.
Ok, this is NOT how I wanted this to go. I made a mistake in sharing so much in OP, which made me look “unhinged.” She accused me of challenging boundaries when I saw her months after our “date,” but did not leave me with that impression at any time when I actually saw her. It was the opposite as a matter of fact. Look, all I want is how I can get my number off that site so I can stop these so-called escort “cartel” scam texts and calls from coming? They keep using different numbers. That is the main issue.
Ted said basically the same thing. Get over it.
Just because you didn’t think you left a bad impression at the time doesn’t mean anything. Whoever is calling you probably got your number because you responded to a bad ad and now they have it. Stop harassing the woman you think is responsible—you’re only digging yourself into a deeper hole.
You are absolutely right, I do have an inability to let things go (“leave things alone”). LMAO, I told a supervisor this once and she said “Yeah, we know” (they love me at my job though). When Lily ghosted me, part of why I did NOT let it go was because I worry too much about what others think of me (especially women) and needed to be sure she did not have a negative impression of me. Ironically, my persistently wanting to get closure was probably my downfall. IF anyone reading this knows which provider named Lily I am talking about (she is HIGHLY reviewed on here), I apologize. Thanks for the advice.
Inicky, I find it comically ironic (and this is putting it very nicely) that you said that I am “a walking, talking commercial of someone who should not be playing this game” when there is someone with a username that is the same as a serial killer of women (Ted Bundy) replying on this thread. Thank God the real one got executed.
This line says it all “ I have tried to contact her multiple times”.
There is no reason to contact anyone multiple times, especially if they’ve given you the slightest indication they don’t wanna hear from you.
There are plenty of Blacklist sites out there and you’re probably not going to get yourself off of them by constantly badgering the person you think put you on it.
There is a provider I saw in CT a couple years ago named Lily (if you think you have seen her, DM me to see if we are talking about same person as I am NOT posting her full info here). I am NOT sure if she is even active right now. When I contacted her, I was respectful. When I saw her, we only fooled around (I was NOT interested in anything more). We had common interests such as both loving Ghostbusters, Star Wars, and Superman/DC. We also had intellectual conversation. She said she had fun and she thinks I am a sweet person. I reached out again a little while later, no response. Followed-up and just got ghosted. Finally heard from her and she said she is taking a break. Also, that perhaps we can see each other when she is back. I waited a while before I reached out again and was still getting ghosted. Well, I went on the review site to ask on the message board about the situation to get an idea as if she was still working or if I had inadvertently done something. She got word of this. We had an e-mail exchange, she accused me of violating her boundaries and said that I violated them when I saw her. I was nothing but respectful, and we hardly did anything sexual. She did not explain how I violated her boundaries when we saw each other. I apologized for anything I may have done wrong. Long story short, she put me on some unfindable blacklist site, including my number. I am near positive she also wrote about me on Mr.Number app, saying I violate boundaries and am “off” (I am ADD/“neurodivergent” so this stung). Now I keep getting these threatening blackmail calls/texts from supposed escort “cartels”/“whorehouses.” I have tried to contact her multiple times about these texts and to please remove my number. Do I have any recourse here? Basically, what can be done? If you think we have seen same person and had similar issues, please DM me (again, I do not want post anything else besides her “first name”). I am NOT innocent in situation as far as the miscommunications and I apologized to her for that.
With all due respect, someone with the username “Ted_Bundy” calling me “unhinged” is hilarious. That said, I can empathize with why you said that.