I got an email from a client last Friday asking to meet this Tuesday. Screening was easy and I said I would call to confirm and also because I feel more comfortable if I have a chance to chat with the client before we meet.

The client asked me to call him on Monday, but didn't specify a time.

I called the client today, as I said I would at 11am. He needed to call me back, and 10 minutes later he did.

When he called back he let me know that he could no longer meet tomorrow as planned and wanted to know if I could meet him today, at 12 pm, which was is 45 minutes.

I told him that I could meet with him today, but that 45 minutes was not enough time for me to get ready to meet him. I explained to him that I had been working on a sewing project that morning, there was thread and fabric pieces everywhere and it would have taken me about 30 minutes to tidy up my apartment.

He then said, "Well I guess we can't meet, then."

I couldn't help but to feel a little insulted and annoyed. When he heard the frustration in my voice he said "Well, I could have met with you at one, but forget about it now".

I try really hard to make my clients happy. But sometimes it feels like some clients are trying just as hard to make me unhappy.  How can you expect fantastic service if you don't give me the customary courtesy a lady requires?

Here's some other reasons why I can't meet with you in 45 minutes

1) I present a polished and manicured vision to my clients. If I were to rush and throw on a dress and some lip gloss in order to meet a client on really short notice, I could easily be rewarded with an unfair review of my appearance.

2) To greet you with a calm, self assured attitude and to have a great time together, requires a certain level of courtesy from the client.   If I rush to get ready and cut a few corners, I can still looked really beautiful, but I would be frazzled by the time you get here from rushing, which could diminish the experience and possibly reflect in the client's review.

I know that gents are not out to give us providers a hard time, and even the fellow I mentioned here, is in reality, probably a great guy.  So, I wrote this thread in an attempt to share my perspective and to help clients, so that they might have a wonderful experiences with a lovely provider.

 

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I try to explain to clients when we first speak that I need at least a few hours notice at the very least in order to be ready to see them.  It is very rare that a provider is primped and ready just sitting in bed waiting for someone to knock at the door, we have lives outside of this too.  Did you ask the client if another time in the future might work for them?  I think it is a major red flag that they would say it was then or never.  It sounds like you put a lot of effort into providing excellent high quality service, so I wouldn't worry too much about one jerk who thinks us gals are at their beck and call, there are lots of respectful clients out there who understand why we would need much more notice than that.  Hope your evening is a good one!  XOXO Sophia

First and foremost I just want to say OMG you are beautiful...wowowowow! I need to make a road trip for sure!

OK OK now back to the subject....LOL

I actually have been in this same situation a couple of times and while I feel terrible that I have to make a last minute schedule change it happens! Certainly is not done intentionally or to upset my date but in my line of work my schedule can change pretty quickly. BUT, for me to expect my date change my appointment and be ready in 45 minutes is crazy, I would never do that to someone as I would be pissed if someone expected that of me.  

It sounds like you gave him an acceptable alternative and was able to fit him in a day earlier, jsut not 45 minutes notice! I am in sales and over the years have found that you can't satisfy some people no matter how hard you try. When I come across that type of person I just move on, even if it means giving up some money, in the long run I will be much happier not having to put up with that sort of impatient person who will inevitably make me miserable....its never worth it!

Thanks though for reminding us that infact you are not just sitting there by the bed 24/7 fully done up awaiting our calls, you have a regular life with normal everyday activities to attend to and changing from the regular person mode to the insatiable, beautiful love doll we all want takes a bit of time!

BTW...Did i say your beautiful!!!
Muffy

Dear Yvanna:

First of all let me echo the comments of the other respondant who said that you were very beautiful.  You clearly are.

I don't know why your prospective client acted this way.  However, in many professions, one's schedule is not their own and last minute changes are an unavoidable part of life.

Perhaps your client detected the (fully justified) tone of annoyance in your voice and this turned him off.  Never having met you before, he was probably attuned to every nuance of voice and inflection.  Nobody likes to be with people who are annoyed and judgemental, particularly if you've never met them before.  Of course, he could just have been an asshole, in which case you are better off to have missed him.

BTW, you write very well.

All the best

...and at first he said well gues you two can't meet that he all of a sudden had time to meet you at 1pm instead of noon. If you don't have a policy on the minimum amount of time a client can try to book with you please create one now on your future ads, on your site, p411 etc.

As a hobbyist I must let you know that it is very challenging to find the time time to sneak in an appointment with a provider. We tend to have a busy schedule and have to make it look like our activities are legitimate.
I wish that I could schedule my meetings with young ladies the same way I schedule oil changes or meetings with my accountant.

50% of the gentlemen who see ladies are good people, know what its like to have a personal life, run a business, prepare for something in order to do a great job, and know that getting respect means giving respect.  

50% see us as whores, expendable, replaceable, not worthy of respect. They assume we are 24 hours with high heels on and fishnets ready.

But sadly, some women have allowed men to think of us this way. Which then allows them to continue to treat all women in the biz the same.  

What you have to do for yourself, is accept that this is the way it is. We're not going to change it. But we must find peace in that when we come across the 50% who I mentioned do not respect us, we are able to not take it personally. We don't have to fall into their game or energy. We simply detach from the situation knowing that we did not attract it, nor will let it destroy our happiness.

By doing this, it gives us our best energy to save for the 50% who do respect us and treat us as equals. That is basically what I've learned over the years. To not be jaded, lose hope, get tired or upset, is to recognize behavioral patterns that allow you to see red flags right away so that you don't get too involved in dealing with the 50% who will make trouble. Then you can put your full fabulous self towards the 50% who appreciate you, treating them like kings, friends, lovers, giving them all of the best of you.

I think it's lovely too that you sew and certainly, do not end your creative project over someone like this. I am also highly creative and do my projects. I know what you're talking about. Lots of Love, Cameo

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Thats one of my excuses when the wife asks why I came home from work late or go out on a weekend afternoon.

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Yes, perfectly on target. Strategies for maintaining momentum and deflecting the negative are paramount!

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Yvanna - Based on your story, it sounds like the guy could have offered an explanation rather than simply saying "Well, I guess we can't meet, then."  But maybe it had nothing to do with trying to rush you . . . maybe the only time he had available was at noon, and unfortunately by the time you two were talking there was only 45 minutes left until noon.  I've been in situations myself where I haven't known until about 30 or 45 minutes before my lunch hour that I'd have a bit of "extra" time to add to my lunch hour, and so I've called a lady and said, "I just found out I can take a little extra time during lunch today, so I'm calling to ask if you have any appointments available for a half-hour from now."  Some ladies do, some ladies don't.  If they do, I'm grateful that she's able to fit me in (no pun intended!) on short notice.  If she can't, I totally understand.  I know one lady who requires a couple of hours of advance notice, even if she's not seeing anyone before my appointment with her.  Well, that's fine, of course.  But on the other hand, if I've only got a fixed time or schedule, exactly an hour (not counting travel time) available to me for lunch (and the noon appointment you described sounds like a lunchtime rendezvous to me), and if the lady needs to start the appointment 15 minutes later, I would say to the lady, "I'm sorry for the short notice but I won't be able to see you today because I need to be back at the office by exactly one o'clock, and that wouldn't leave us enough time for a leisurely half-hour appointment."  See what I mean?  The guy shouldn't have been grumpy at all, but my guess is that he wasn't assuming you should make yourself available on short notice but only that he needed to get back somewhere by a certain time.  So I wouldn't necessarily take it personally.

I think that this guy was looking for an out and grabbed the only course available to him, flimsy though it was.  Forget about him and move on.  Sorry this happened to you.

If I may tell a similar story from the other perspective.  Last November I wrote to a provider who travels to New England, someone relatively new but already with several amazing reviews from known reviewers.  A few weeks roll by and no word back, then out of he blue she writes me that she is visiting the area and asked if I could see her in a few days.  Well, I had several things to do that day, but agreed to meet her at her hotel, 45 minutes away.  The day before our meeting I could see that there was a storm rolling in and I got nervous about driving, and besides, I was trying to squeeze in the appointment.  I apologized, said I didn't think I could make it, and that I would love to catch her next time she was in the area.  There was still 24 hours left for her to rebook with someone else.  Nevertheless, she got really upset, claiming that I have no respect for her time.  I felt bad that I was being so rigid about my schedule and worried about a little snow, so agreed to still see her and she confirmed.  By this time it was only a few hours away from the appointment.  That morning I drove to her hotel and arrived on time.  No replies to my numerous calls, texts, and emails.  She blew me off!  I headed home (another 45 minutes).  Fortunately one of my ATFs texted me that she was in town, literally walking distance from my place of work. Boy was I glad to see her...i treated her to a $200 tip and we had a great session!  A few days later the first girl wrote me back, apologizing and claiming that she had to leave town in a hurry.  Ironically, however, another review had already appeared from someone reporting that they had seen her on that same day in that town (also a stellar review).  Given the early hour of our appointment (10 AM), I highly doubt she had left town.

And Yvanna, yes, you are hot.  I will be in touch!

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Would be so appreciated.  Clearly she got a better offer.  
Got the T shirt!